Depositing Checks Before Sending Out Thank You Cards?

I would deposit it, you have up to a year to send the thanks you cards out. I would have them all written out, so that when you get the pictures you can get them mailed out right away.

I think you should deposit them. Holding on to checks could cause problems for some people. 4 weeks is a very long time to hold a check.

Yes the longer you wait the more likely you are to bounce someones account...we deposited all our checks the day after the wedding. and im sending out thank yous this week

I would deposit them as soon as possible. people are expecting the money to come out shortly after the wedding. If you wait you may cause the check to bounce, or they may think you didn't get the check.

I would deposit them. Every time I write a check, I can't wait until it comes out of my account so I can forget about it and if it take a long time, it makes me wonder what's taking so long.

That's a tough one - before the wedding i wouldn't deposit any checks w/o sending thank you's first... but after i went ahead and deposited them.

one note - i think a year is too long for sending Thank Yous - i wouldn't do more than 3 months (which is what i was told)

We deposited ours because if we waited, their checkbooks would be unbalanced. Plus with my family, I'd be getting calls to do it so it doesn't mess them up lol

And yes, a year is not the correct time frame from what I read, It was 3 months. Now if they send a gift, say 4 months, I'd write a note to that person then.

Deposit them.

OK will deposit the check ASAP and in the meantime handwrite my Thank You Cards so they will be ready to mail out as soon as the pictures are ready....so it will be no longer than 2 months after the Wedding that I will be sending out the TY Cards, which I feel is perfect...in my opinion, more than 3-4 months is unacceptable, but better than no TY Card at all...which has happened to me before (for a pricey gift)! So rude!

We just deposited last week, 2 weeks after the wedding. We too are waiting for our pro pics before sending out Thank You's. I also worried about that. I feel bad not sending out our Thank You's already, but we want to include a pic. I sent out our shower Thank You's the Monday after our shower (it was on a Saturday).

@maliburedneck...we are def in the same boat! I am still waiting to send my Bridal Shower TY Cards out because I am also waiting for the prof. pics to include with each guest, which will be ready tomorrow...so, it will be about 2.5 weeks after the shower.

Why do so many people have problems with this issue? When you write a check, you deduct it and it's GONE. How do you get messed up if you pay attention to your account--what comes in and out? I never understood that.

But yes--deposit right away and you have 3 months to get thank you cards done, not a year.

http://www.emilypost.com/weddings/wedding-registries-gifts-and-thank-yous/167-wedding-thank-yous

Contrary to popular myth, the happy couple does not have a year’s grace period. All thank you notes should be written within three months of the receipt of the gift.

We actually sent 2 rounds of thank you's - we got custom Thank You cards made on VP (used the free ones) with our monogram and sent those along the way as we got gifts, and were able to send right away after the wedding. these were more customized, handwritten.

then we used pro pics to make "thank you" picture cards, and sent those in a 2nd round a few weeks later. it worked pretty well

I missed this thread and thought it was made an excellent point about cashing checks & TYs.

Last June my cousin got married and I saw him in October (at his StepBrother's wedding) I politely inquired about TY notes, and he said they were waiting on the photographer so they could include a picture. While I Love the "Thank You" sign thank you notes, I couldn't imagine waiting that long to send a TY note!

So fiance and I did the Thank You sign in our engagement session. We're in street clothes, but it worked. I got them yesterday from VP! All ready to go for July.

We'll probably include a wedding photo with Christmas cards.

The longest it took to get a thank you from someone was a year. This was from my cousin and the thank you was written on notepad paper, put inside a generic thank you card. A lot of my family was a little peeved about that one.

So, yes please try to stay within the 3-4 month limit after the wedding.

I think the confusion is people have a year after the wedding to send a gift- but the thank you's should be done as shortly after the gift is received as possible.

Try to look at it from the giver's perspective, when you write a check you hope it gets deposited right away so that you aren't sitting around waiting for it to clear. Definitely go ahead and deposit them. This also allows for a situation that was addresses in another post. If, for some reason a check does bounce, I would personally want to know before I send out the thank you card. That way, instead of saying, "thank you for your contribution to our XX Fund or gift" you can simply say "thank you for sharing in our special day, it was wonderful to see you there."

I feel like 2-3 months is way long for a TY note! I'd say a month or less, and 1-2 weeks is ideal, really. Personally - I'd rather get a very non-fancy note right away just so I know the gift was received with no problems, and then later on get a cute photo. Sometimes things do get lost in the mail, you just don't want anyone to worry.

After 3 months I might forget what I even gave someone or why.

@Kris -- I resolved this by sending a quick email or txt or phone call as an informal thank you as soon as we received the gift and told them a formal thank you would follow. And in all the formal thank you cards, I was pretty specific in what they gave us and how we were going to use it!

@Meghan...yeah June to October for photo's??? not buying it they just don't want to do them - can't blame them but still. My SIL/brother didn't send out TY cards for their wedding last year nor did they send TYs for the baby shower or stuff we got them when the baby was born. Needless to say, the family is a bit irritated....

I agree with Kris. Get those Thank you cards out or send just simple ones for right now. Deposit the checks before you run a higher risk of bouncing them.