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Mrs.K
VIP June 2017

Childrens meals

Mrs.K, on February 27, 2017 at 12:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 190
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I am including a small separate enclosure card in the invitations of the few families whose children are invited (family and the flower girl/her brother). They are strictly to inform them that we are providing a childrens meal so that we dont have to add a meal option to all 65 RSVP cards. Would it ve okay to just say 'A childrens meal of Chicken Fingers and fries will be provided'. Or should it say something different?

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Latest activity by Dreamer, on March 1, 2017 at 5:55 PM
  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
    A. L. ·
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    I'm not a parent, but I think you should give parents the option of choosing an adult or kid meal for their kids. Many parents don't want their kids eating chicken fingers and fries.

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  • Jane38
    VIP September 2018
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    I agree with AL !! I think it would be better to give parents the option and you can say "A children's meal of chicken fingers and fries are available upon request."

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  • VC
    Master May 2017
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    This is tough. We are fortunate that our venue will have a pre-fixed menu for our guests so they can choose that day.

    We did tell guests that the children will have a kids meal and to ask if they require one or not. Meaning if they want their kids to eat a children's menu or they will bring their own food. I know some parents brought their own food for the kids at other weddings because they wanted to only serve homemade food (depending on age of child).

    I would certainly not entertain having an adult meal for the children. At $120/pp just for food, no way a child can eat a 4 course meal and I doubt a child would be interested in what the adults eat too. LOL. The kids meal alone is $25 and it's a 3 course meal but obviously smaller portions: salad/veggies, chicken fingers or pasta and dessert. Luckily they can choose between pasta and chicken fingers. If there were allergies, obviously the restaurant will work within that.

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  • Tricia
    VIP October 2017
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    Although the children's meal is usually alot less. My venue it is 19.95. If they have the adult menu, it is the full adult.price of $90. Sorry, kids are having the children's meal.

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  • Stephanie
    Devoted July 2017
    Stephanie ·
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    I would give the child a full meal option and then include that a childs meal of chicken fingers and fries is available upon request if preferred. Personally my children would not eat chicken fingers and fries. We dont eat a lot of processed foods and honestly if the "kids meal" was the only option given to my children, we probably wouldnt attend.

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
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    @Tricia, you cannot force your guests (and kids are your guests) to have the kid's meal. Sorry. Work with your caterer to create a choice.

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  • Mrs. Coakley
    Master June 2017
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    Kids meals are most often much cheaper than an adult meal. I would say anyone under age 12 gets the kids meal. If parents are unhappy with this choice, perhaps you can work with your caterer to find an alternative

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    I'm absolutely not giving the few small children we are having at our wedding the option of an adult meal. That's ridiculous.

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  • A. L.
    Master July 2017
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    If you are only giving your guests one choice of a meal, that is rude. Doesn't matter if they are 4 or 40.

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    That's not what I said, AL. I said I'm not giving them the option of an adult meal, because it's absolutely fucking absurd to spend that much money on a meal for a 6yo.

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  • Leanne
    VIP April 2017
    Leanne ·
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    We only have 4 kids coming. One is my 11 year old and will eat an adult meal, our 6 yr old and our 14 month niece will have pasta. The fourth is having a specially prepared meal to cater to his list of allergies.

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  • Future Mrs.N
    Super November 2018
    Future Mrs.N ·
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    I would give them a healthier option too, if you arent going to do that then i would keep it the way it is.

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  • MrsHazel
    VIP February 2017
    MrsHazel ·
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    We had our "reception" at a restaurant and I specifically gave the only three children (all under ten) a kids menu with multiple options. Their mother decided to order them the adult meal, without my knowledge, and I had to pay $40/kid for each kid to eat a few bites of an adult meal. Needless to say I was pissed.

    I would absolutely NOT offer them an adult meal. I would however work with your caterer and see about offering at least two options because not everyone's kids eat chicken fingers.

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  • Emma
    Master May 2017
    Emma ·
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    We are having a buffet, so people can eat however much they want. However, because of the open bar, people under 21 are three quarter price, and kids under 12 are half price.

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    To answer your original question, OP, I would probably not bother with the enclosure card and just reach out to the few families who are affected. That way you can check to make sure none of the kids have any allergies.

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  • San
    VIP September 2017
    San ·
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    Seriously laughing at people thinking its offensive to offer kids a kid's meal. Most children won't touch an adult meal anyway. My niece will be 3 at my wedding and will probably eat two bites off her plate. If we're talking 12 and up then the venue probably won't let you pass them as a kid anyway. So its not like older children are being forced (*eye roll*) to eat a kid meal.

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  • Kaylie
    Master May 2016
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    I normally try to stray away from generalizations but there is not one child on this planet that will get your money's worth from an adult meal. They will take two bites and decide they are done. Or complain they don't like it. It's not worth it and it's ridiculous that anyone would expect it.

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  • SleepytheDwarf
    Master June 2017
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    Hahaha @FallBride I literally snorted. Seriously, my nephews would be so pissed if I tried to serve them artichoke & roasted pepper chicken breast instead of chicken fingers and fries.

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  • MrsSki
    Master April 2017
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    If there's only a few kids, why not call their parents and talk to them instead of using an enclosure? That way, you could make sure the kids don't have any dietary restrictions at the same time. The last thing you want is a kid to have a reaction at your wedding!

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  • VC
    Master May 2017
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    Plus, this is ONE meal. The kids won't die if they don't eat this "processed" food anyways. But most kids will like it.

    I spoke to one parent about it and she said the 2 kids: one likes veggies and one likes meat and they can probably both share one kid meal since they don't eat a ton. One is 5 and the other is like 3.

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