Cash Bar

Personal beliefs?

Like... you believe it's too expensive to have alcohol aka dry it is?

I believe "We're Christians" was number 6 on the list.

And not wanting to pay for it is #1, as it always is no matter what people say.

We are in the same boat. We are doing beer and wine. A lot cheaper. Either say no alcohol or do that. Making them pay is not advised. I would put on your wedding website which ever way you decided to go (minus the cash bar) also let people know so the word gets out. If that's going to stop people from celebrating your big day, then they don't need to be there. The reason you're celebrating is the most important not the alcohol. You can also add a little note in your invites as well. I hope that helped!

Beer and wine is fine, Candace. Don't add a note to invites, that's rude.

I think cash bars are fine personally, people should understand if you dont drink its not a priority, honestly its yours day we are just gonna get a keg

Update: I am looking at the options to add alcohol to the venue. We can't bring our own which would be much cheaper. I have asked a few of my guests what they would prefer and was surprised that some of them prefer favors or a photo booth over open bar. Until I know real figures I won't know what we can do. I'm not looking at spending a lot of money in other areas. I know one of the comments was expensive decor. The ceremony we aren't even decorating. We may make inexpensive fans in case it gets warm. We had to pick the date we did because it was the only date my dad was ok with and that the venue didn't charge too much for a site fee. Originally I was looking at May because it was less pricey. I will admit the place I picked to have the wedding could have been less money, but it reminds me so much of my mom who will not be there. She passed away about four years ago. As to the guest list we have narrowed it quite a bit, we are at about 150.

Again I really appreciate all the advice on the things I ask. Without my mom planning has been really hard. I have a good support team, but it's not the same as having your best friend.

Would you invite your nearest and dearest to you home and have them pay to drink? :-/

So. Question. For those brides who have a church wedding/church reception where alcohol is NOT ALLOWED because of church policies... are they still considered rude for not having alcohol?

I am genuinely concerned about the state of mind of some people. I wouldn't skip a wedding because there was no open bar or even if it was 100% dry wedding. If you feel the need to do so, that is really sad.

@Sharon No, please read this thread which states that before think we're being ridiculous. People spend money on an outfit, gas, a gift (or two), etc only to have to pull out the wallets again? No, that's what's sad.

@Jacks @Swin @Celia Yes , because I am a Christian. I noticed it was on your list. No not because I believe it is too expensive and no I am not imposing my beliefs on others . I cannot do something if it would not sit well with my conscience and I just can't bring myself to serve alcohol at my waiting because I don't feel comfortable doing it . I don't see the big deal. I'm not making anyone convert or anything . I know you guys have your opinions and that's okay. @SharonH Exactly, it is disappointing to think that people would really not going to someone's wedding because there is no drinking . I just don't get it . Is drinking that important ??

I just want to say for us "1-3 star" people, we haven't been on here long and haven't read through A ton of threads yet! we're new to this!

Also, I'm not a drinker, so I'd be totally fine with beer and wine. I've only been to a cash bar once and a dry wedding once, both were because of alcoholism related issues in the I immediate family. I understand those reasons, but otherwise, if money is the only issue, really try for wine and beer. Good luck!

More open bar post #strange

You are the host of your wedding... wine and beer at the very least

It's your wedding. Have what you want and don't have what you don't want. You won't lose a friend either way

Keke, no you're wrong. Please read the thread for the information around etiquette.

Jack's you are wrong lol. People are grown. You can't force them to do anything no matter how much you want them to. In the end they will do what they want because they can. And they have every right to.

You do what you want at your wedding, I will do what I want at mine, and they will do what they want at their own wedding. In the end if someone cuts you off for life because you did or didn't serve alcohol then they really didn't like you in the 1st place.

@genesis Jesus made water into wine. The first recorded booze run.

@keke you bet your ass I'd side eye and question my friendship with that person if I had to cough up more money for their wedding

@Keke no one is trying to force anyone to do something. All we are saying is that not hosting your guests properly is rude. Fact. They have "every right" to be rude, shitty hosts. Doesn't mean that's ok. Hosting properly includes NOT asking your guests to open their wallets.

Why does this continue to even be up for debate??

There should always be alcohol of some sort if you're having adults. Go read my list again.

Personally, I think the notion that a church would ban alcohol when it's all over the bible is pretty sad in itself, but that's another thread. And no, I wouldn't go.

I have limited leisure time, and I wouldn't spend it with anyone who thinks so little of treating their guests like adults.

Honestly, the distain for adults having a glass or two of wine at a wedding and coming up with what are honestly trumped up reasons to not have at least wine; that's what's really sad.

That's not what I was saying but any whoot....what I was talking about was having liquor or not. And I regardless....people will do whatever they want. I personally won't have my guest paying for anything and I also will not provide them alcohol. That's my choice and if out of the 200 plus invites going out and nobody shows up but my groom and my children I will be just fine. My choice. And it has nothing to do with money I just know what I will and won't be doing. Have a blessed day