Cash Bar

We will get that post on this page Shannon, I'd be shocked if we don't

I hope my guests are satisfied with beer wine and champagne because that's what we are offering

With my invites I had the actual invite, a RSVP, & then I did like an info card. The info card had the hotel information for the block of rooms we reserved, the location of the reception since different than ceremony. At the bottom of the info card I did notate *cash bar* so people would know & be prepared. I haven't had any negative feedback, actually most people appreciated the heads up.

Future Mrs. C, that's perfect, that's all you need.

People shouldn't be getting out their wallets at your wedding!

(Unless there is a money dance, and I have to admit I think those are kind of fun!)

I don't have a problem with beer and wine only, we almost went that route ourselves. I do have a problem with cash bars if, 1. I get the sense the bride and groom focused their funds on frilly things for themselves (ie, pricy dress, pro decor) and then reserved scraps for their guests, 2. It's cash for soda, 3. It's pretty obvious the bride and groom have nothing but contempt for their guests, which usually comes through with comments like, "They're there to celebrate OUR SPECIAL DAY, not get drunk!" or, "No one should get hammered on my dime!"

The guests should never be subsidizing the event.

Unless everyone you've ever met in your life is a teetotaler or in A.A., please provide at least beer and wine.

I agree with Shannon, there is a certain contempt in saying that your guests are just using your wedding as on opportunity to get drunk.

When you are a guest, are you just super-excited to find out its a cash bar? I bet not.

We also decided to go with the idea of "bride & groom" signature drinks, since we do like cocktails but can't afford a full open bar. (Our bar isn't provided by the venue, so we have to personally buy all the alcohol or mixers)

So beer (from our brewer friend), wine (we're not wine drinkers, so picking this out is going to suck!), and a small menu of available cocktails (probably Rum&Coke, fruity martini type, and a "classic" mixed drink like manhattan or side car or something).

Double post...

That's very adult of you. So is assuming that people (not just people, your loved ones) will attend your wedding only to take advantage of you.

Jessica, I think that's a way more fun, personal way to do it anyhow!

Wow.

The proper term is "no-host bar" and it is not unusual at all. I have not heard of anyone paying for food at a reception, however! I'm in California.

On the reception card, its the last thing in bold. What does your invites say? Does it let on that the reception immediately follows?

First and foremost kudos for a cash bar, my open par left me and My guests a little hazy about the entire night, a definitely 'do over' if given the chance..

'hosted bar' sends the message with a little class..

Also check out www.123print.com for direction and registry cards.. I requested my attendees all wear black or white, gave directions, meal details and registry info all on a double sided invitation insert. Its a simple way to keep your invitations classy and still provide all the deets..

Good luck

We are having an open bar, but sometimes I wish it was a cash bar. Some people in FH's family have a habit of getting a little tipsy and going on repeat. Certainly not looking forward to that. I'm sure if it were a cash bar, it would be a different story.

So I just have to deal. I don't want my guests to worry about paying for drinks, and it is the norm by me.

@FutureMrsB, I also had a jaw-drop moment when i saw 8.50-15/head. HOW??? My venue is $135/head. And that was the buffet option!

In my area, ny/nj.....you can't go to McDonald's for 8 bucks a head. And virtually no one has cash bars here.

You could say, on the reception cards, "join us after the ceremony for a delicious buffet, lemonade, soda and coffee". I'd be bummed, but that's just me.

"I requested my attendees all wear black or white, gave directions, meal details and registry info all on a double sided invitation insert. Its a simple way to keep your invitations classy and still provide all the deets.."

Nothing is classier than shaking your guests down for gifts IN THE INVITATION, going overboard when saying what they can or cannot wear, and then slapping them with a cash bar. If I got that invite, I'd be forwarding it to Etiquette Hell in an instant.

Shannon if I got an invite like that I would decline.

Im upset at this site with how much you guys made her feel bad for what she wants to do..Do what you feel is right.. i like the idea of an info card. just to let them know. the information for the reception! Dont let any of these woman make you think that having a cash bar is bad..

im paying for my own wedding and dont have ANYONE helping me out

Glenn, I would decline as well, but I'd definitely tell everyone I know about it. Tacky to treat guests as fashion accessories and a gift delivery system.

Rebecca, I had to read your comment a few times before I could figure out what you were trying to say.

Rebecca don't get upset. Different people different views. They aren't her friends so really take it with a grain of salt.