Cash Bar

It just upsets me that we come here for help and people are like that..

I will have an open bar at my wedding BUT if I didnt have the money I wouldn't care if people decline an invitation because of that, because you attend a wedding to celebrate the special occasion not to get drunk . I like Hayleys wording, it's perfect.

Tacky (btw I hate the word) lol doesn't exist You do what you like and what you can afford!

"Cash bar available."

"Complimentary champange toast, lemonade, soda, tea, and water." (Even leaving out the words cash bar, you get the picture that these are the only things provided.)

I think it's nice to include it in your invitation, but if you want a very formal invitation, I'd forgo it. People should keep cash on them, especially at a wedding.

It shouldn't be a burden on your guests to come to your wedding and NOT DRINK ALCOHOL for one night, or you know, have to pay for their own alcohol that night. They are there to CELEBRATE with you. It's not a party you throw FOR your guests, it's a celebration of your wedding. No, you don't charge people for drinks at your house - but you may not even have drinks there when you invite them over. You also don't normally invite 100+ people to your house for a dinner celebration, either. And if you were to, it'd be appropriate for the guest to wine for the host.

I wouldn't cry if I go to any other party, especially at a resturaunt, and I had to pay for my own alcoholic drinks. I definitely wouldn't call the host/hostess tacky. Bachelor party last night - we paid for our own drinks. We didn't expect the groom or the person hosting it to pay.

Glenn....DING DING DING DING! We got our "people are there to celebrate YOU and YOUR DAY" comment.

Well, they are. And as people who WANT to be there, they won't gaf if you're paying for alcohol, not paying for alcohol, or not having alcohol at all. If a friend thinks it's tacky that you're not paying for alcohol for guests at your wedding, that's a friend you probably wouldn't want at your wedding in the first place.

And...."they're not your real friends." I just won at Cash Bar BINGO! Yes!

It's all copy paste

Audra, have you decided on the wording yet?

Lmao! Cash Bar BINGO!!

OMG..... Shannon, you crack me up.

Now I want to make a cash bar bingo cards and send them out to you, Glenn, and who ever else likes to play.

@ Audra - I'm glad you are providing beer and a toast. If your guest list gets small enough, or if you have some extra cash, a few bottles of wine wouldn't be a bad idea too. Good luck with the wording.

I put a "beverage" ticket in each invitation it was "redeem ticket for 2 alcoholic beverages" and then added "Valued @ $2/drink" on it... they knew to bring money, had an idea what it might cost for the night... i know people in my area hate going to a wedding not knowing. i've seen ppl take money out of the card to pay for their drinks... terrible i know...

I also found out after, that our liquor license doesn't allow you to mention the availability of alcohol in an invitation... so I would do some research....

We are doing cash bar because he have heavy drinkers and we don't want to afford the open bar so we do cash bar.

Thanks for the ladies who gave very helpful advice. I guess the wording I was looking for was partial bar. We are definitely having beer, champagne toast, and probably a couple signature drinks (ex. rum & coke or gin & sprite). I would buy wine but no one in our families really likes wine. I don't know but its not big in our families. In fact, my side of the family just drinks beer or nothing (my dad's side is pretty dry southern baptists). However, my FH and I are paying for our own wedding and a cash bar is just not in the budget.

I know the cash bar vs full bar is a hot button issue. WHICH IS WHY I SAID IT WASN'T UP FOR DEBATE. I'm so glad that didn't happen lol. Seriously though, I only see a couple of posters when they're mean things to say. It doesn't bother me but brides shouldn't feel attacked.

I can say I learned one big thing from WW is that weddings are extremely different and the amount of money spent shouldn't determine whether or not a marriage will last.

However, don't go into debt from the get go because you overspent. If you question its tackiness you therefore know its slightly tacky.

I'm not worried about the cash bar issue because everyone I've talked to who will be there agrees that a full bar would be too much. Our families think we're being generous to provide partial. So brides -- do what you think is best just know when you pose questions like these know you will get flack. Just know what advice to listen to.

BTW THANKS HALEY FOR THE WORDING! YOU'RE A LIFESAVER! (AGAIN)

However, don't go into debt from the get go because you overspent. If you question its tackiness you therefore know its slightly tacky.

I'm not worried about the cash bar issue because everyone I've talked to who will be there agrees that a full bar would be too much. Our families think we're being generous to provide partial. So brides -- do what you think is best just know when you pose questions like these know you will get flack. Just know what advice to listen to.

BTW THANKS HALEY FOR THE WORDING! YOU'RE A LIFESAVER! (AGAIN)

Audra, honestly it sounds like you are providing plenty of alcohol for your event, with the beer and a couple of signature drinks. Just leave it at that! There is no need to have a cash bar! Just offer what you off and be done with it!

Obviously I have and issue with cash bars, I've made that clear. But I also think you are giving your guests enough options already. So just go with it and MAKE NO MENTION of a cash bar!