Cash bar or dry wedding

View Quoted Comment A majority of people I’m inviting do not care- so I’ll go with the majority.

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Okay, just pointing out one thing, you guys are acting like you are “forced” to buy alcohol at the wedding and that if you come you have to automatically fork up money for the cash bar. But in reality no on has to buy anything if they don’t want to spend the money, that is why a cash bar is in fact a cash bar. It is ones decision to decide to spend the money on the alcohol and you guys are making it so much bigger then it is. If you want to go way back farther into time, weddings didn’t include alcohol at all but someone made it a thing and now if you don’t you are a bad host. We have literally forgot the meaning of a wedding and it’s sad.

View Quoted Comment Yeah, not being able to afford an open bar doesn’t disqualify you from being able to have a wonderful wedding. That’s just not true 😂

View Quoted Comment Amen sister!

View Quoted Comment Yasssssss!!! ❤️

View Quoted Comment Yes, yes, and more yes.

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I'm just curious when "back farther into time" weddings didn't have alcohol. Wasn't Jesus turning water into wine for a wedding?

View Quoted Comment Many don’t believe in this, so no.

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Even if you're not Christian or particularly religious (which I'm actually not), these bible stories were written pretty long ago and there's a story about wine at a wedding. j/s.

Of course you guys took it literal. I meant back in time you weren’t obligated to have alcohol at every event you went to. You also didn’t have to argue about what is right or wrong at a wedding...meaning if it’s rude to to have a cash bar because it wasn’t a big deal. It was only made a big deal. My mom didn’t have alcohol at her wedding and she said it was the time of her life. It all depends on what you make of it. I’ve leaned from many of these posts that if it isn’t it isn’t the way you like doing something it is considered “the wrong way”. It’s stupid.

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Right, but I fail to see the connection of a how biblical story of someone turning water to wine translates to an open bar being a requirement at a wedding.

View Quoted Comment I've just been reading along but literally no one drank water back in time. Everyone drank wine and mead. So this argument doesn't hold as much weight as you want.

View Quoted Comment I wasn’t intending to go back that far, my point was just that in this time period people think they alcohol not being offered for free at a wedding is a death sentence, but in years past it was way more sentimental then this. You are celebrating and witnessing a marriage, a promise, and it’s so much more then how much you spend on the reception. People will know I’m grateful for them joining us by all the other items we are offering plus the many times we will personally be thanking them.

It's ok to have a dry wedding as long as you don't drink for religious reasons

I went to a wedding in December and it was cash bar .. and everyone ( besides the older older guests like60+) stayed all night and they ended up keeping the venue and extra hour .. no one complained about buying a few beers.. just saying

I don't think badly of a couple that doesn't provide a alcohol, but I've never stayed late at a wedding where alcohol wasn't hosted. Alcohol is a big expense, but a wedding is so expensive anyway, I'd hate to spend all this money and have people leave right after dinner and cake. It's a celebration, and we want everyone to have a blast with us.

View Quoted Comment I didn't say anything about an open bar being a requirement. See my previous post on that point. I have been to plenty of weddings with cash bars and I think the "norm" depends on a lot of factors. I was responding to your claim (lightheartedly, really) that people didn't have alcohol at weddings at some unnamed time in the past. So that's the connection.

These cash bar/dry wedding threads always descend Into madness. A well hosted wedding has free alcohol available to guests. End of story.

When have you ever heard, "Ugh this party is the worst. Everything is free and I can have as much of it as I want"

versus

"oh the bride and groom decided they didn't want to provide us a basic component of a party. I guess I either get to pay for a part of their wedding or just grin and bear it"

Honestly, do what you want. I just fail to see any other part of the wedding costs being pushed on guest. No one "needs" appetizers but if it were cocktail hour and the attendants charged $5 for each mini quiche I'd be pretty upset.

View Quoted Comment We were very concerned with budget. We cut out,or down on, everything that didn't affect guest experience to be ab afford booze. T