Candace Cameron Bure /submissive wife

Kayla - she started a thread asking for thoughts and comments. We are giving them.

This is a brides forum. We're talking about marriage. So now same sex couples and supporters of it aren't allowed to weigh in on a discussion?

J&B- right, she didn't ask girls to call each other names and judge their personal choices though...smh grow up

I agree Kayla..It asks for opinions not right or wrong just thoughts

SupermanBride- this SPECIFIC THREAD had NOTHING to do with that. There's a difference b/t someone in a same sex marriage weighing in on this topic versus someone making the statement "What about same sex households" that's just not even relevant to this specific post at all.

^ Because this is WW.

Why is it not relevant? They don't get to weigh in because... what? Are they not getting married? Does it not count because of what is "written in the bible" about them? I think she brought up a valid point.

Telling someone to grow up = same level of maturity as name calling.

It's not judging if you have opposing views. It's just a difference of opinion.

Supermanbride- I think you should go re-read what i wrote......you basically said the same thing as before and I already answered that question

So hang on, I'm really trying to understand. Two people in a marriage such as Candace's reach impasses time and again on various topics, and each time the wife defers to the husband bc he's the head of the household. (A) why discuss anything at all if he's ultimately going to get his way? All he has to do is wait her out. (B) I guess the wife then needs all that church to keep her years of resentment from building in to a murderous rage?

We should aspire to be better than this. It could have been a real discussion but "submissive" is a trigger word for so many and then the FEELS take over. It's rare that one side will convince the other, especially when faith is at the center of the discussion.

I grew up in a simple Christian household. I'm marrying a thoroughly logical self-proclaimed athiest ( We won't get into why everyone, regardless of professed faith, is technically agnostic). I simply believe that what he believes is in hands that are bigger than mine. I just know my heart and life are incomplete without him.

There are some biblical tenets that can certainly be taken out of context: do I wear braids to church? Certainly. People can miss the point (which is not, literally, hairstyles) but rather being a distraction when the purpose is to be a part of a community with devotion. Anyways....there's really no need for name calling, ladies.

*gets off tiny soapbox*

Erin- again, I never said ANYTHING about same sex couples not being able to "weigh in" or speak their opinion.....I never once said that....I said making the statement "what about same sex couples" or "Pretty sure the Bible says same sex households just burst into flames." are irrelevant statements to THIS SPECIFIC THREAD

This SPECIFIC thread had no boundaries from the start. It's completely valid for her to bring it up. She has a right to. People were also talking about government on here. Did the article talk about that? No but someone was comparing and contrasting different elements to MARRIAGE. All marriage.

Kayla, I think the same sex issue is relevant because some posters commented that men are naturally leaders in a relationship or fill that type of role.

In a same sex relationship, you either have two men (so then two natural leaders?) or two women (who would, under this theory, wander aimlessly with no leader).

I'm not saying everyone on here believes this, but that's what had been said.

Why is it irrelevant? We're talking about the bible, we're talking about marriage.

Lori- I can see that when you explain it that way, now it makes sense. It just seemed to come out of no where almost like adding fuel to the fire BUT when you explain it that way I do understand how it is relevant.

I get it now Erin thanks

I believe the house bursting into flames was a joke and not meant to be literal.

I'm not sure that it is possible to have these views translate into same sex marriage. These views are based on the theology surrounding marriage, which is laid out to be between a man and a woman. There is no "biblical" explanation for this as it would be like saying there are 2 Christs or 2 churches.

I think pushing it into the secular spectrum, it would still say that there should be mutual submission, love, respect, and willingness to die for the other person

Shit, and I wasn't even planning to read this thread.

Glad I didn't miss out on my daily dose of being horrified by the idea that I'm not competent or strong enough to lead or make decisions. Yikes...