Candace Cameron Bure /submissive wife

SupermanBride, it's because the man has two heads. You know what they say, two heads are better than one!

This forum has seriously made my day.

@Supermanbride you have taken the words right out of my mouth.

@SunshineJenn I love you for that last comment.

@soon2be "My FH and I will be equals,

but if there comes a time when we can't reach an agreement, or a tough choice needs to be made, I am going to put it into his hands to make the choice for us. By allowing him to make the choices, he knows it's part of his responsibility to do what's best for us as a couple/family"

Why isn't it your responsibility to do what's best for you as a couple/family? Because you are a woman? You aren't capable of making that decision along side your FH?

I'm Christian, but as the breadwinner, I also run the household. Normally we make decisions together, but when it comes down to finances, it's all my responsibility. For instance, if I wanted to redo the kitchen, FH would have very little input on that decision, although he would help me pick out appliances and paint, and those decisions would be made together.

When I was in undergrad, I was really into religion and church. Reading some of these responses is taking me right back there. And it's giving me the heebie jeebies.

I'm just going to throw this out there...Candice's marriage has lasted 17 years and they are happy. Some people who have strong opinions on this subject couldn't make their first marriage last that long, whether it was their fault or not. It works for her, it works for a lot of couples, there's no right or wrong. I make Beau sandwiches all the time...and he pays for the supplies to make them. Personally, I love going to bed every night knowing that he will do whatever it takes to take care of me and our future family. It's a nice fucking feeling! Does he do something, even if I don't want him to, just because he's the "man". Hell no. But there is a give and take. That's what it's all about. He gives, I take. I give, he takes. His burden is busting his ass to make sure everything will always be okay. My burden is busting my ass to make sure he has everything he needs to go do what he needs to do. It works for us and that's all that matter. There is no religion in our scenario. We never talk about the bible or God. It's just the way we function.

As a Christian, I get what she is saying, but the Bible talks about husband and wife being submissive to one another. This doesn't mean bullying or giving in all the time, it just means giving your all and loving each other.

That article sucked. There are many other articles you can post that are actually intelligently written and display both sides of the argument.

This is something I am still learning to balance in my marriage and it's hard. I like and want what I want and when but at the same time I have responsibilities and want a family so I will have to take a step back in my career in order to raise our children without having them in daycare and learning from people other than their parents. He has the better job which means I need to leave my family friends and current job to help us make our family the way we envision it. Our relationship wouldn't survive without the other person finding a balance is key. But at the end of the day I guarantee no matter how independent you are the fact you married a man makes you slightly submissive in itself. Different things work for different people.

On a funny note one time while we were dating my now husband said he was the CEO of this business. I said I'm sorry but I sit on the board of directors as president and can fire your ass. And then gently reminded him he was CFO hehe

How does marrying a man make you submissive?

"My FH and I will be equals, but if there comes a time when we can't reach an agreement, or a tough choice needs to be made, I am going to put it into his hands to make the choice for us. By allowing him to make the choices, he knows it's part of his responsibility to do what's best for us as a couple/family."

Well, dang, I guess this means that NotFroofy and I are doomed, because if there are tough choices to be made, neither of us can pull out a penis to resolve the issue!

Well, I mean, I don't have a penis, but I have a feeling that decisions are not made solely using a penis, lol. Good thing you have a brain!

One of my favorite quotes "The day I let that argument stand (in regards to the well, I can do this because I"m a man!) is the day I see a man solely using his penis to accomplish that task." It's from a very unknown book.

Sorry I just had to put that out there

It goes both ways. He has to love and obey too.

As long as you both respect each other it should not be a issue.