Cancelled bachelorette, anxious about October wedding

@Kim I totally get it! I too was hopeful and optimistic until I had to reschedule my bridal shower and cancel my bachelorette. I keep telling myself that society has to adapt to this new norm by the fall. Try not to stress about it too much because everything will work out how it’s supposed to. I’ve been trying to look at the bigger picture in all of this and stop stressing myself about the why, how and if’s because that was only taking me to a mental space I didn’t want to be at.


I think it’s great you guys have decided to get legally married on your original date. I’m sure that will be special and intimate. We are definitely doing the same thing.
Wish you well 😊

I cancelled one of two bridal showers and bachelorette before making the decision to postpone- we were suppose to get married in July. I didn’t think it bothered me but by the time we postponed I was just not excited for the wedding at all anymore because I wasn’t going to get the whole experience. October may be safe for your wedding though! Are you able to reschedule your bachelorette even if it’s a different plan?

My MOH told me recently she will no longer be planning a bridal shower or bachelorette party because she doesn't want to waste her regularly scheduled days off on having to attend these events. So I totally get feeling bummed about not getting to have the whole experience. I agree with Emily, I would see if you can come up with a new plan for our bachelorette party. It may not be what you had in mind, but at least it would be something!

Our Wedding Is 10/17 And We Have No Intention To Postpone. I Wasn't Able To Have A Bridal Shower Though Regardless And Probably Won't Have A Bachelorette Either. The Main Thing Is Your Wedding. Focus On That Because It's What Matters The Most!

I cannot imagine how much anxiety is going thru your mind right now. i've noticed on here a lot of brides who have postponed did it to ease their minds and because it just felt like it made more sense to have the wedding of your dreams later when the climate of the situation has eased enough and people are comfortable. however i think holding out hope makes sense too because your date is ideally far enough where the situation could be a lot better. i think it boils down to whether you want to feel more at ease mentally or not - do you want to hold out hope or just feel more assured? i do feel that regardless, weddings and large events post pandemic are always gonna be different whether or not it's done later this year or next year.

Thank you all for your kind words. I know I’m not the only one feeling this way, it just sucks lol. I did fail to mention that I have plans on having a virtual bridal shower. A friend had a virtual baby shower a few weeks ago and it was so well thought out and fun. I plan to do something similar. One of my friends also suggested a girl’s night with just a handful of girls the same weekend we planned to be in NOLA. I like that idea

I am so sorry you had to cancel your bachelorette party! Kim you and I are in the same boat! I haven't planned my bachelorette or bridal shower because of everything that's going on. I have been doing my best to stay positive and think by October it'll be okay! So I think having a plan B is a good idea just in case but keep positive that it will all be okay in October! You should do something that weekend and just have fun!!

Hi Kim,

I'm so sorry you've already had to cancel your bachelorette party. As you said in your follow-up comment, you can go virtual. Virtual showers and bachelorette parties are happening all over the place! If you decide to update your party plans, this article may be helpful: 5 Wedding Events to Host Virtually When You Can't Celebrate in Person

Thank goodness your wedding venue is being flexible about postponing! Have they given you a deadline to decide? Getting married on your original date and celebrating the big wedding later are great options. Some couples are adjusting their plans exactly that way. Some are doing a ceremony now with a reception later, elopement now with full wedding (ceremony + reception) later, micro weddings and more. Check out these posts:

Married this year - “wedding”/marriage celebration next year?

Covid-19: Marriage now, wedding later?

Small ceremony now, big wedding later

Etiquette in the time of coronavirus?

If you want to consider your options and next steps, WeddingWire has created a ton of resources in Our COVID-19 Weddings Advice Guide. You also can connect with other October couples in these two discussions:

October Wedding

Late October Brides - let's worry together.

I'm wishing you the best of luck with whatever you decide!