Breaking bread?

Glenn - white dress? I hope you're British.

My point is that weddings, especially "American weddings" include a lot of traditions that stem from other cultures. Just like our entire American existence, really. It's like saying you can't eat Mexican food if you're not Mexican. It's a bit silly.

I honestly hope this is a fake.

Tink- I've been here way before they had the new "rules" and I really don't need/ want you reciting them to me like I'm a child. I've said this before and I'll say it again- if you are going to openly be stupid or wrong I can and will tell you. I think anyone who believes their PARTNER should be dominate over them is a moron. A marriage sgould be a PARTNERSHIP where two people make a life TOGETHER. If one is dominate they are.t making a life together. One is making decisions and the other is just there for the ride.

Please excuse any spelling errors, I'm on my cell.

Christina: I agree with you about parenting. I've had to work as a single mom... but now that I'm getting married, and combined we have two children who aren't yet school-age, I'll be staying at home. The nice part amout how life happened for me is that I already have my teaching certificate and education now... so I can stay at home more with our children and any children we have in the future.

And I totally respect you for that! I am a little old fashion. I believe that if you can, mothers should stay at home with the kids. I used to work at a daycare center and I saw parents drop their kids off and tell me "oh i have off from work today... I'll see you at 6 tonight" (mind you it was 6 AM when they dropped their kids off... That is ridiculous!

Just get over it. We all live our life in a different way! There is no book on how you should live!

Felisha if you don't like it GREAT! You don't have to marry her or her husband. Calling someone a "moron" because of how they live is beyond ignorant. You are reacting to people like a child.

I personally don't think she is wanting her partner to be dominating... I think she wants to symbolize that the man is wearing the pants (instead of being a pansy!)

I won't apologize for what I've said because honestly I wouldn't mean it. We haven't fought for women's right for so long for someone to really believe their husband should be dominate. That's just backwards. I don't see a problem with a woman wanting to stay at home to raise her children because there are a lot of stupid people out there who I wouldn't want watching my child. But wanting or expecting your husband to make all of the decisions or protect you just screams, "I gave no backbone. Feel free to smack me around a bit."

It is really surprising that the traditional American wedding takes some stabs from the British? Remember we were a British colony so it makes sense that we will have some of their traditions (although vastly altered, just look at that hideous dress that Princess Kate wore and compare it to most American dresses). I can see why you want someone to dominate you, on your own youd be in serious trouble and this way you'll never have to think or make a decision. Congrats!

Glenn has a good point about the British thing. I understand America has a lot of other cultures blended into it but I don't see the point in using something from another culture just cause you think it would be amusing. That's insulting to the culture and confusing to the people at your wedding.

Kathy is having technical difficulties. Here's what she'd like to add-

"I am amazed and appalled by the OPs thoughts of domination in marriage. To each her own, but I would never agree to any such thing. As far as using traditions from other cultures, if you live a certain lifestyle....say you live more of a Japanese lifestyle than a caucasian one on a daily basis, yet you are caucasian, then it makes sense. But if the addition of a tradition is out of left field, as Ricky used to say, Lucy, you have some 'splaining to do."

Ok, my wife is reading me these comments I think everyone should get off the computer and have sex with their better half...Babe when you read this go to the room and take your clothes off and be ready to break bread....

Wow... People are quick to judge. In the bible it DOES say that the man is the dominate one and that you need to respect and obey them... I don't think it is ANYONE's place to tell her she's wrong... Now, I myself do not live this way, we are equals in our relationship... but it is not MY place to tell her how her relationship should be... it's not like she's telling us he beats her if dinner is not on the table when he gets home...

She asked if people had heard about the bread breaking tradition and what they thought of it... not if we agreed with how her and her fh live... so what gives us the right to tell her shes wrong... and quite honestly, some of these comments are kind of rude...

That being said, I love all of you, please don't be mad at me I just think she might feel a little ganged up on...

This day in age when we have domestic partnerships, civil unions, and even pologamy- and yes I know it's against the law, I dont understand why it is ANYBODYS right to judge one another relationship. It's not yours, she is not telling you to do what she is doing, so *why* do you get to judge hers or tell her what she should or should not be doing??? This country was founded on the principles of FREEDOM, people came here to escape religious persecution, and every day one group or another is fighting for *rights*. Why do I feel like this day and age it is about marriage/relationship persecution?? To each his own, I know I wouldn't want anyone tyelling me who to love, or how to love, so I don't presume to do the same to anyone else.

AMEN, MrsJTW! Preach it, sista!

Haha oh David T... you are so funny! That is something my FH, Chuck, would say! =)

Please don't quote the bible about the how the man is dominant etc., because the bible also says you shouldn't eat shrimp or wear clothes made of different materials.

Having one person working and the other staying home has nothing to do with saying one person is DOMINANT. That's teamwork, Mom can work and Dad can stay home and take care of the kids or vice versa.

dom·i·nant (dm-nnt)

adj.

1. Exercising the most influence or control.

2. Most prominent, as in position; ascendant.

Our relationhip comes first, neither one of us are more prominent or have more influence over the other. We are equal partners and come to decisions together.

Last I checked I (and everyone else) had the right to say whatever I want, and to judge people however they want, just like she has the right to let herself become a man's servant.

1 - I'm glad I'm one of the few people who understood what "breaking bread" meant.

2 - I don't agree with having anyone in a relationship being the dominate one, but whatever floats your boat as long as you don't try to push your beliefs on me. (I have no problem hearing explanations that could educate me though).

3 - As far as the vow of conduct goes. I find it funny that it's being called the new rules. To me.. they're all common sense. Who gives you the right to call someone a moron because you don't agree? Ok, so maybe you have the right, but it also makes you kind of an ass. Who would you all like it if I called you an idiot because I don't like your life choices? Or if I said that your a jerk because you chose such and such as a favor? I could go on and on, but there's no point in it.

If I'm doing something completely stupid with my life then yes, I would want someone telling me that I'm being a moron. I might be an ass for saying what I think but at least I'm being honest.

I still think this is a troll.

I am an ass, I'm cool with that. Hell, we were playing Taboo on Saturday night with my parents and one of the clues was "what Glenn is" and my FW said "asshole?", it wasn't the right word but I wanted to give her credit for it anyhow.