Breaking bread?

Those poor children. Raising a child in an environment where the man is allowed to tell the woman what to do and she has to do it is setting that child up for some really abusive relationships.

My FH loves me. To his core. He would NEVER EVER ask me to be submissive to him because then I would not be me. I guess some women want to be dominated because it makes them feel safe, kind of like Stockholm Syndrome.

Poor Jamie and her family regarding some of the comments to and about them, good Lord.

My brother is "dominant" in his marriage.... he's not mean to his wife.... he doesn't command her to do anything she doesn't want to do... but when comes to decisions... he makes them... and they are some of the happiest people I've ever met... its not like she's not allowed to have and express her opinions... its just when it comes down to it... he has the final say... because he makes the money... and please don't say "oh those poor children" that's ridiculous... his kids are the most outspoken carefree happy kids I've ever seen...and 2 of them are girls... I lived with them for a year so its not like I'm only seeing the outside...

I just don't understand why how someone you don't even know lives their life is making some of you so upset

David is not her Husband... Claire S. is David's wife

Before you start defending this relationship, how about you read David's post about how gay marriage is the same as bestiality and he should bang as many chicks as he can.

Oh wait, you can't because it has been flagged and hidden.

My mistake. But my comment still stands. Your husband should not tell you what to do. You should come to decisions together. Otherwise one or the other of you will resent the other for either making a bad decision or going along with a bad decision.

How can you say that they will resent one another when she is clearly going into her marriage knowing what to expect and what is expected from her? It is HER choice. Why can't everyone understand that this is the way she wants to live. Whether we agree or not, it is her choice just like it is your choice to live your life and marriage the way you want.

I know when it comes to decisions, my FH and I will discuss it-but I am so indecisive -- if it is something that I am dead set against, we won't do it... if it is something that i can't make a decision about, he will ultimately make the decision. I don't find that breaking bread aka breaking it to share it symbolizes that this woman is going to spend her life in complete hell-- i think she was just trying to be unique and different.

And I do believe a man should be a little more dominant than a woman... he should wear the pants. (not commanding her to do stuff, but taking a stand and being a man) So many "men" in my area are so wishy washy and can't make decisions on their own... I finally found one that knows how to make decisions and knows how to step up to the plate and do work...

If the roles were reveresed right now and she was saying she was going to be the dominant one and he was going to be the one who stayed home and was barefoot and taking care of the baby, would people be getting so upset? Some of you have stated that us women have fought for equal rights for so long and so on but I just wonder how many people would feel the same if she were coming on saying that she was going to be the dominant person in the relationship? (I am truly curious to what you think, this is not to argue against anyone)

Pumpkin I think everyone is entitled to there opinion but some posters were being out right rude calling her a moron.

Pumpkin I think everyone is entitled to there opinion but some posters were being out right rude calling her a moron.

Why do you only get to have an opinion if you are sticking up for the OP?

You seriously think the man should "wear the pants"? And the implication that if he doesn't make all the decisions and dominate the marriage that he is a wussy?

SMH. That is the kind of archaic thinking women have worked against for years. My FH works hard, makes the tough decisions at work and takes charge of his crew. He does not need to do that at home with me. He is a strong man who can love with tenderness and care. I don't want a man who wants to take over and make all my decisions.

I guess I am just stronger and more independent then, right? And the OP is the wuss?

I've already state that I think marriage is a partnership with neither partner dominating (i.e. controlling, taking over) the other.

Hugs to Tink for saying exactly what I was thinking. I don't agree with anyone being dominate in a relationship for myself, but it is her choice and not something she is being forced into.

The fact that Jamie was called a moron is what is making me stick up for her.

Agreed Jessica!

I would have the same opinions if she was saying she wanted to dominate her marriage. Marriage is a partnership no matter which way you look at it.

Just playing devil's advocate a bit here..many members of latino cultures (not all, I'm not generalizing), but the idea of "machisimo" is more common in which the husband is dominant (I'm not saying that never comes with problems)..but the fact is there are various cultures and religious interpretations that may lead the woman to want the man to be more dominant..So it's a wider issue than just women's rights, it's cultural, and people's personal religious beliefs..while I don't agree with the male being dominant, and people can certainly disagree, saying everyone in those groups is wrong/moron is a bit narrow minded. the world is bigger than us.

Unfortunately traditional gender roles are deep rooted in society, women still get discriminated against..due to that I wonder how many FH's on here, if secretly asked, wish they could have the final say in decisions..of course he'd never say that to his FW..food for thought is all.

I think that the best way would be to work it into your vows and of course, the giving away of the bride.

I realize that there are a lot of conflicting views on this, but I understand what the OP is saying. My FH totally has the leadership role in our relationship. He's not domineering and we still make decisions as couples, but he does have the final say.

We are equals, we just have different roles.