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Robin
Dedicated November 2017

Best wording for no gifts

Robin, on October 10, 2016 at 4:50 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 19

My FH and I are older and have everything we need. How do you express that gifts are not necessary for the wedding? I've seen something like "The only gift we want is your presence" I'm looking for options to relay this with our invites. Also, should it be on the invitations or RSVP's?

19 Comments

Latest activity by MiniMe, on October 11, 2016 at 12:02 PM
  • Aida
    Expert November 2016
    Aida ·
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    Don't write anything. A gift should never be expected.

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  • Tammy S.
    VIP August 2017
    Tammy S. ·
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    Put it on your wedding website or share it by word of mouth not on the invitation for the RSVP.

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  • RealLindseyO
    Master October 2017
    RealLindseyO ·
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    Just don't say anything about it.

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  • GymRat
    Master May 2017
    GymRat ·
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    What @Sarah said.

    And honestly you can say it all you want, I'm not showing up to your wedding without a gift. You're going to get a check/cash.

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  • Ms. Tee
    Super April 2017
    Ms. Tee ·
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    I think even if you tell them by word of mouth, so people will come with a gift. Even if it is a check/cash like @gymrat stated. If they ask about a registry, just say we are not registered anywhere. Some get the hint.

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  • Gracie
    VIP June 2017
    Gracie ·
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    I'm with pp's. Don't write it, but if somebody asks if you have a registry or such just tell them "your presence is present enough."

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  • Z
    Master May 2012
    Zoe ·
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    I applaud you, Robin, for not seeing your wedding as a possible source of revenue, as so many do. Unfortunately, os others have said, there's no way to get this message across except by word of mouth, and even then people may doubt you mean it.

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  • CobbWifey
    Super September 2016
    CobbWifey ·
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    Its good wedding etiquette to give a gift. You don't have to register, but I think it is kind of rude to ask people to break etiquette. Even if someone told me they don't want presents, I'd look at them like they are crazy and still bring a gift.

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  • Melissa
    Master March 2018
    Melissa ·
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    Just don't say anything. Don't register. Definitely don't write it on anything. Still, you'll get stuff. It's what people do.

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  • mimitrue
    Master January 2016
    mimitrue ·
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    Super considerate of you to not want gifts but don't mention anything about gifts. You're going to get them regardless because people like giving wedding presents.

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  • R
    Super June 2017
    Robin ·
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    If u put that on your invitation, more people will give you gifts. Just don't say anything.

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  • Phylicia
    Super April 2017
    Phylicia ·
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    Agreed with all the smart ladies that already posted @sarah m Smiley smile

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  • Maggy
    Super December 2016
    Maggy ·
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    Don't register, don't put it on invites. If people ask tell them you don't want gifts and then when they give you gifts in the form of items or money, send them a nice thank you card.

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  • Robin
    Dedicated November 2017
    Robin ·
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    Thank you ladies.

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  • kimmyinjapan
    VIP September 2016
    kimmyinjapan ·
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    I just wouldn't mention anything at all and not do a registry.

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  • TreeShade
    Master September 2016
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    Don't mention anything.

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  • Laura
    Master July 2017
    Laura ·
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    My sister and I threw a large anniversary party for our parents and put "your presence is the only present desired" on the invitation. About a quarter of the guests still brought gift cards but I think it was nice that we let people know a gift was not expected.

    I don't want to get into the whole "a gift is never expected" debate. When someone receives an invitation to an event, if they have any form of manners they bring a gift.

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  • TAP
    Master September 2018
    TAP ·
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    Agreed, just don't say anything. People are still going to show up with them. It is what it is.

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  • FutureSeñoraR
    Super July 2017
    FutureSeñoraR ·
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    Agree with all PPs. don't put anything on your invitations, don't register either. but you will still most likely get gifts from people. I would never go to a wedding or a party without a gift, no matter what the person's invitation said

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