Best friend booked same wedding date

That is pretty messed up. How does she plan to be a bridemaid and a bride on the same day?

Ohhhhhh....ouch. Can she move her date?

I don't know if there's actually "etiquette" around that. Did she book it already?

Just stick to your plans, and if she can make it, great. If not....oh well.

If she keeps her date the same, you might have a group of friends split between the two weddings. I guess just try to stay neutral about it to avoid drama.

That sucks, sorry.

The other thing I'd add is....just try as hard as you can not to take it personally. It would be a very rare and crazy effed up person who would do that to a friend on purpose, you know? If she wasn't thinking or forgot, it's still kind of thoughtless and it sucks, but I would just try not to read anything into it, for the sake of your sanity.

She forgot the date but still remembered she was a bridesmaid? LoL that is funny and I cant help but feel a lie too. Personally since u got engaged first and are clearly farther into planning, I'd change my date because i remember when DH and I were freshly engaged we toyed around different dates till we got to a most convenient one for us and family. Hopefully she is as understanding and changes hers especially if you are very far in planning and cant do much.

Wow.... I mean, if you've both booked things and neither of you is willing the change the date, then you can't be in/attend each other's weddings. Another one for the don't pick your wedding party too early books, this is pretty bad. :/

Have you spoken to her about it yet? That you've had things booked for months and let people know so they can start planning, so you aren't able to change your date?

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That's f***** up!!!!!! How did she forget if she is a friend. Confused!

Hopefully she hasn't booked anything yet, or is able to move her date. That would be the right thing for her to do as she already agreed to be a bridesmaid at your wedding.

Where's my BS card...

I would take the high road, no matter how difficult it may be.

I agress with Michelle. Hopefully she moves her date or you are going to have some "Bridewars".

Lol Labake!

I've seen the movie Bride Wars, where their wedding dates were booked on the same day on ACCIDENT... But I never thought I'd hear of it really happening. If she's a so called 'good friend' how did she forget your wedding day? Unbelievable to me. I'd reconsider what the title good friend means.

I honestly would be soo pissed. WHat kind of drama is she trying to start. She did NOT forget, I planned my wedding date around so many things!

Again, take the high road but I would question her friendship...obviously.

Yeah, my good friend is getting married in October and I'm her bridesmaid. I purposely picked my wedding date several months after hers BECAUSE I wanted to make sure we could both be in each others' weddings without putting too much financial stress on either of us or our friends.

I may have forgotten the actual day once or twice (is their wedding the 7th? the 5th? Let me get a calendar) but you don't just forget the month your good friend is getting married in. And you certainly don't book your wedding without calling and saying "Hey, what is your date again? I don't want to accidentally pick the same one!!"

Some good friend she is.......

And she should definitely move her date. Even if she booked it, most venues will allow you to change the date if it's far enough in advance. Since it's a year out she should have no problem. It's not like she's sent out STD's/ invites yet.

She wouldn't be my best freind anymore. that is just wrong.

I sense some Bride Wars coming on lol. My wedding is 2 months before my best friend's, and we are both in eachother's wedding. Right now, planning stuff together is really fun, but I still get worried that drama is going to start the closer the weddings get. I am hoping and praying it doesn't. If I were you, I would call her out on it, and ask her to move her date. If you booked it MONTHS before, she has no right to that date, and as your best friend, she should respect that. I would be very hurt and upset.

Hmmmmmmm..... This is exactly why I write everything down....

That is complete BULL ISH! if youre a bridesmaid how do you forget the date of the wedding you are in & then book your day the same....I think shes a complete idiot & you may be better off without her in your bridal party...thats a jerk move!

thats proff on how close of a friend she is...NOT one at all unless she fixes her f-up

My MOH thought that my wedding was going to be on 5/11 instead of 5/18--I found out when she forwarded me an e-mail about the availability of a reception venue for me--she had asked the manager if 5/11 was open. Honest mistake...but your friend should have double-checked with you...or double-checked her calendar.

So sorry this happened to you.

If she really forgot, she would have checked with you before she booked anything. Ask her to change her date since yours was booked first, if she won't, find a new bridesmaid.