Best friend booked same wedding date

I understand how u feel to a point. Our friends who got engaged after us are 3 weeks before us. Yea I know not the exact same. But maybe she legit forgot. Just see if she can move it. If not, send your save the dates out first and your invites!

Then reevaluate your friendship

One of my bridesmaids doesn't remember the exact date of my wedding, but she does know which month it is (she has her own busy life). Has she apologized? Hopefully she can change the date. Sorry

I mean, my H didn't even remember the date of our wedding. So, some people really ARE that scatterbrained. If she acts like it's NBD after realizing her mistake though and just proceeds without even acting like she feels bad about you guys missing each others' weddings though, I would find that highly odd.

Luckily my H did not make other plans for April 28th.

I love my girls and all, but if it were me and my friend didn't change her date, it would be on like Donkey Kong!

That is completely insane! How does one "forget" a wedding date that they are a pretty large part of?? Like the others girls have said I call Bull ish!!

Wow that is crazy. My bridesmaids have asked me multiple times about my date (for vacation purposes) so you think for a wedding she would think to check! Have you talked to her about it? Asked if maybe she can change her date? Is your date flexible? Do you have a lot of mutual friends that will have to decide which wedding to go to?

Labake, you left it in T & C, but here're extras.

I don't know how set in stone your date is, but if it is and she knew it, then it's time to start choosing new friends.

She's either trying to start drama or is incredibly stupid. Yes, stupid, dumb, not smart. Sure she may have forgotten the date. But then she could have called you and check. What does that cost? 20 seconds on the phone?

I will say, when my friend was picking her venue, she called me as they were booking a date to ask my date -- she was about the pick the day before me. And we're not even super close friends, but good enough friends to not step on each others toes. I've done the same with scheduling other events since there's 87000 weddings this fall/winter.

So, Michelle, any thoughts on all our answers?

Not gonna lie, I would be furious and she most likely wouldn't be alive anymore. Kidding. Almost. Seriously, how can that happen? Didn't she check her calendar before choosing her date???

Francine here, I'm the bride in this question. Michelle is my sister, so happy she posted this today. I've been in shock since I found out last night that one of my best friends, & bridesmaids, booked her wedding for the same day as mine. I've had my date booked & confirmed since June. She just got engaged a few wks ago & booked everything last wk. I feel like the only bride in wedding history who had a bridesmaid do this to them.

I appreciate all the comments & feel the same as all of you- that it's total BS, that she can't possibly be that absentminded, that she cares about no one but herself, that she's really not a friend after all. I've gone from shocked to stressed to hurt to not caring at all. The latest update is that she can't change her date because her fiance booked a special band to play at their wedding. She also threw in that the band was supposed to be a surprise from him to her on their wedding day (and I ruined it?)

I would be SO angry. That is totally rude. I wouldn't care if she went or not. Do you have a lot of mutual friends? That is the part I would worry about, them feeling like they have to choose which wedding to attend.

Well Francine, your friend is hands down the single, most efficient bride I have ever heard of. If she managed to get engaged, find a venue, book everything else including a band in a few weeks... kudos to her. It takes months to most of us.

So how about you change your avatar from default rings, you can even open your own account and stay with us :-)

Amber- the silver lining is that no one going to her wedding would be invited to mine. We have one sort of mutual friend who happens to be my Matron of Honor, so that takes care of that.

Mrs. S- I've never been on wedding wire but now I feel like I need my own account! Will I get the hang of this site pretty easily?

I find this whole situation completely bizarre.

LOL Kris, there's an understatement.

@Francine, WW is very useful to any bride planning a wedding. Play around a little with different tools and see if they're useful to you. There's budget tool, seating chart, vendors, and of course the forums ;-) It's pretty easy to get the hang of.

That got to be tuff hold strong and keep your chin up and enjoy your day and have a blast because u can on your day. my pers thought is anyone that does that isnt much of a friend that me tho. I hope it works out that u enjoy your day

WW is also very useful to any bride who already had a wedding but still likes chatting with her former bride-to-be internet friends and talking about wedding related stuff.

I came here for the budget tool and the free wedding website, and stayed for the forums. They're fun. And you'll get lots of great ideas, vendor recommendations, etc. You'll also get the random entertaining thread that has nothing to do with anything wedding-related, but makes you giggle and passes the time when you're bored at the office.

There's a sticky at the top of the page with lots of information for anyone new to the forums - how to change your avatar (recommended), lists of commonly used acronyms, etc etc.

Kris, you still haven't resolved the question in my last post. So much for friends :-(((((

Oopsie!! What question????? What did I miss?

Sorry, I'm trying to do five million things today so I'm kinda scattered, we're going away for the second weekend in a row. I hate when our schedule gets crammed like this. Bah.

Kris- I'm looking for the sticky you mention at the top of the page for newbies and I can't find anything?