Bad In-Laws, Bad In-Laws

...and at the Rehearsal Dinner, they made us pay for our margaritas. WTF?

The mother of the groom paid $225 for the rehearsal dinner...we paid for our own drinks...a whopping $30 for four of us.

We spent just over $10k for the wedding and reception...and she disses us? Oh boy!

Gotta love it!!! but its cool.....you daughter & SIL love & appreciate all that you, ex-hubby & new wife have done for them...and nothing can ever take that away

Classless idiots. posting on FB, what are they? 12??

You sure that we don't share in-laws? Yeah, like Sharon said, classless idiots. It honestly sounds like something my FILs would do, though, so I know how you feel.

LOL Thank you, Ladies! I am happy to know that we are not the only ones who see this as, weird.

The Grooms mom not only posts on FB about such things, but "un-friended my daughter (her new daughter-in-law) but me as well. She *thinks* that my ex husband and his wife think as she does. Um, NO! LOL!

If nothing else, my daughters Mother-in-law, is good for a laugh.

My father in law was so upset about us getting married (um this Dec. it will be 12 years) that he showed up to our winter wedding in a wife beater, jean shorts, and brought (are you ready for this) the family dog. I saw it as such a sign of disrespect and have kept his side of the family pretty much out of our lives, more so angry that not one person said to him how ignorant and disrespectful it was. People for you, that's all you can say. At least you have class, and you can hold your head up high. So sorry that you had to deal with that after all you did for your kid, ugh!

Kathy...All I can say is--Class shows and so does Low Class--

In Focus...The reason no one said anything to your FIL was probably because everyone else at the wed/recep had some measure of class, and figured pointing out the lack of it to/about this man was a waste of time.

Sorry you had this problem but it is over now and you can now just go on with your life. Your daughter, I am sure, appreciates all the effort you/her father and his wife put into her wedding, and when it is all said and done this is what is important. So Kathy you did an excellent job.

Well hey, my mother-in-law complained about how much she had to spend on our rehearsal dinner when we spoke to my fil and he agreed to it, she even had the nerve to ask me how much my drink was(it was an alcoholic drink but my brother in law bought it for me).

God they sound like my FSMIL, she lives on FB and got soo pissed at me when I unfriended her and FSIL because I figured the less they read about my life the less drama they could cause. She actually used that as an excuse as to why she didn't want an invite to my daughter's birthday party. I got her back by saying it was fine, I would have FH extend the invite to his dad only then, lol by the end of the convo she took the invite with no hesitation.

I didn't read the other comments. But I wanted to ask...our rehearsal dinner is for 30 people and it's the only thing FS and I aren't paying for ourselves. Not cause we can't but because FIL's said they wanted to. It's costing a little over $1300 for them. That includes the room fee (private dining room), appetizers, dinner, desserts, and drinks. But neither of them drink or really approve of drinking so they said they will not pay for people's alcohol. Do FS and I have to pay for it then? I mean, we weren't going to because with a lot of them working in the bar business, the majority of our friends and family can run up a tab like you wouldn't believe and still not be hung over the next day. It seems like you're put off they didn't pay for your drinks, so now I'm wondering if we need to shell out for everyone to get a pitcher of beer/margaritas each.

Carmen, I think as far as alcoholic drinks, I think guests should pay for their own, I think the bride and groom should be the exception

Kathy, You must of really had one hell of a fabulous wedding to make them this jealous! go ahead, you deserve to gloat

@Carmen, It doesn't bother me that they had us pay for our own drinks...in fact when we first started the wedding planning process, I told the Grooms Mom to have everyone pay for their own drinks as it can get costly.

What bothered me is that she complained about us running out of wine (a beverage that she, nor her family drink) until it is free. They are big whiskey and coke drinkers, but, due to the fact that they would have to pay for that at the no-host bar, they drained every bottle of wine.

So, at your rehearsal dinner, I would not pay for other peoples beverages. It gets far too expensive. The only time I would say to pay for beverages is if you had a bottle of wine for X number of guests at the table. My ex in-laws did that at our rehearsal dinner, back in the day. I think there were 20 of us and they purchased four bottles of wine, which we shared.

Ladies, thank you for the comments. I knew that y'all would make me feel better. :-)

I sooooo wanted to make a little dig back to her, but knew better...."keep thy fingers off the keyboard." LOL!!!

Who complains on facebook about a wedding? so low and tacky...she only made herself look bad with that one... but why did she unfriend you and her daughter-in-law? she did that because the wine "ran out" ? or was there another fight?

@Laura K, she un-friended us about 6 weeks before the wedding. It was all over a discussion about people RSVPing for events. We had a running discussion about how many people had RSVP'd for three events. She had not RSVP'd for any of them and got bent out of shape.

This is a woman who "needs" to be the center of attention. When the DJ had issues getting the song for the Groom and Mom dance to play, she left the room and pitched a fit in the hallway (I did not see this, but someone who saw it told me about it later.) She was crying about the song! My daughter and her Dad improvised and danced to another song. Once the DJ got the right file to open, and could play the original song, they danced again. None of the guests were aware of the glitch and the dancing continued. :-)

I do not envy my daughter, dealing with her new MIL. She's going to try to be controlling. The key word there is "try". LOL!!!

Ugh...well I'm right there with your daughter in the monster-in-law department so I feel for her. I hope she has better luck with it than I do! The most important thing is just for her and her husband to stay united and not let the MIL hurt their relationship. I oed the book "Toxic in-laws" LOL

*loved the book

I totally feel for you. My parents are not rich but they are very generous with what they do have and are spending around 17,000 of their own money to pay for our wedding. The only thing that the fil are paying for is the rehearsal dinner. In order to save $, my fmil is going to have pans of pasta in her backyard (in November btw). Not even at a cheap restaurant. Not because they are poor but because they are stingy. I don't want to come across as ungrateful since anything someone gives us is voluntarily given and not necessary, but I feel bad for my parents. They are being so generous and working overtime to gift us a beautiful wedding, and for them they feel like my fils could at least pay $300 for a nice rehearsal dinner, but they are not very generous at all and don't like to spend money on other people. So I have a feeling my parents are going to be in the same boat as you sorry they treated you that way, I can understand how dissapointing that would feel after you have worked

So hard to throw a beautiful wedding and your generosity is snubbed and not appreciated