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Ms.Fox
VIP May 2018

Backhanded compliment vent. Updated!

Ms.Fox, on September 10, 2017 at 10:57 PM

Posted in Wedding Attire 150

My mom just called me. She told me she saw my recent picture from Disneyland and told me how good she thinks I look since I lost weight. She then proceeded to tell me how bad I looked in a picture I took 2 months before at Seaworld. She told me I looked "lumpy and bumpy" in the yoga pants I was...

My mom just called me. She told me she saw my recent picture from Disneyland and told me how good she thinks I look since I lost weight. She then proceeded to tell me how bad I looked in a picture I took 2 months before at Seaworld. She told me I looked "lumpy and bumpy" in the yoga pants I was wearing, and she's glad I'm losing weight.

I wanted to yell at her, but I refrained. It was so hurtful. I think she just doesn't consider the words she's saying, but it sure seemed like a backhanded compliment. Any one else dealing with these kind of comments in the months leading up to your wedding?

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  • Angel
    Devoted June 2018
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    You do you, boo. I think you look fantastic in that "lumpy and bumpy" photo. You have great curves. I would have to pay money for that booty!

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  • Mrsseth
    Dedicated October 2017
    Mrsseth ·
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    I get that from my mom. She said are you planning on losing weight before you try on dresses. Went to my first fitting and she's worrying about my back fat. I feel you, but you look great.

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  • Malwen107
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    Malwen107 ·
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    My family would never speak to me like that. I'm so sorry she said those things!!! Stay strong, and know that it is about how you FEEL, not what others think.

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  • Mrs.hays
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    Wow, that's really rude of her. You looked great!

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  • Whitney
    Devoted June 2018
    Whitney ·
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    My mom says horrible things about my body all the time. It's hurtful, but I try not to internalize her fat phobia. Whether I'm fat or not, I'm still beautiful.

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  • S
    Devoted April 2018
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    Definitely! Mothers and there "compliments" I think they don't realize what they are saying is rude. But don't listen to her do you!

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  • Amy
    Dedicated November 2017
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    I wish I could look that lumpy LOL. You have curves not fat!

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  • Ms.Fox
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    Ms.Fox ·
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    Moms are so harsh! Mines always struggled with her weight and doesn't want me to have to... her words.

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  • Future Mrs. Mash
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    Future Mrs. Mash ·
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    Honey if that's what she calls lumpy, I'd hate to see what she had to say about my photos. LOL. Keep doing your thing girl, you're beautiful.

    Ps- that ass though. Really, you look great!

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  • Claudia
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    Claudia ·
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    My mom's the same way. She never considers people's feelings. You look great!

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  • KATA
    Devoted April 2018
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    I dont see any lumps and bumps

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  • Madison
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    Madison ·
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    You're literally not even fat... what a jerk.

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  • Ms.Fox
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    Ms.Fox ·
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    Thanks ladies Smiley smile

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  • Danielle
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    Danielle ·
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    Girl you look amazing

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  • MMB
    Master January 2017
    MMB ·
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    Hot damn, I would kill for those "lumps!"

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  • FutureMrsBurroughs
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    FutureMrsBurroughs ·
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    Girl, you are rocking those yoga pants! Seriously, I would only wear yoga pants if I had a butt like yours! Get it girl!

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  • Ms.Fox
    VIP May 2018
    Ms.Fox ·
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    @October, nah, she will still talk about my weight, but maybe in a "nicer" way now!

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  • J
    Beginner May 2018
    Jordan ·
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    Nothing lumpy at all in that picture! I just see a gorgeous woman. Definitely booty and hair goals.

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  • Ms.Fox
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    Ms.Fox ·
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    LOL Richard that's great.

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  • Ifeoma
    Devoted June 2020
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    Lol my mom keeps reminding me that I don't want my mom looking better than me on my wedding day and she thinks it's motivating. Every time we talk she asks about my weight loss journey smh I definitely know the struggle! I just choose to ignore it

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