Bachelor party shenanigans?

I would not be happy with it, not one bit and he respects that enough not to go .

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My husband went to a strip club with his friend for his bachelor party. I was NOT happy with it. I agree with you that I didn't want my future husband feeling up some other girl. I made it VERY clear to him that I didn't like it, but he went anyways.

It ended up just being him and his one friend, the other guys couldn't make it, so they just had drinks and played some game where they throw loonies at a target on a stripper. So that I was ok with. It ended up being ok in the end.

You shouldn't stop your FH from the bachelor party he wants, but at the same time make your feelings known to him, if he loves you he will respect them.

Have you people ever been to a strip club? You literally cannot touch the strippers. If you do, you get tossed IMMEDIATELY.

I'm just overall confused as to how this has been going on since I woke up this morning.

^and with really minimally interesting posts and a significant lack of memes...yawn.

Just playing devil's advocate here, but I think the issue is that strippers one job is to excite/entertain people. Do you want your FH to be excited by someone that isn't you? Also don't different States/provinces have different rules about strip clubs? I've heard some you can't drink in, no touching at all etc.

I wish they had places where you could watch people pole dance without the stripping part of it. Some of the stuff those ladies can do is incredible.

To the people debating about touching in strip clubs.. There are rules that the guys cannot touch but the girls are allowed to touch (has no one ever seen a lapdance?? Lol it can be pretty raunch)

That being said I have no problems with strippers at the bachelor party. FH is not a fan, I think he's outgrown it. He's been to strip clubs before (bachelor parties/regular nights out) and I think he's just over it...but he'll have to see what his GMs plan I guess!

Not sure if I will have a stripper at mine, but am planning for a friend and we are having a stripper.... Never seen a male stripper, so it should be fun... And hilarious!! Lol

Eh. I don't LOVE the idea, but it doesn't really bother me, either. I am positive it's going to happen for at least part of his party (we are also in Atlanta). Get it out of your system now. lol

I think some of the people that don't have a problem with their significant other going to the strip club think that they are super cool for it. lol

i have absolutely no problem telling my husband that that would really piss me off.

@Lauren I just assume every man I meet in Atlanta have been to a strip club at least once. You being from here know how common it is. Atlanta take strip clubs to whole new level. There are actually women here who are famous for being a stripper. It just amaze me

I don't know why people think there isn't any touching in a strip club. I been to both female and male strip clubs and there is touching. The women can touch you but you can't touch them. but the women only touch you if you pay for a lap dance. NOW! the male strippers you might just find yourself on stage with them.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C2TzwMZ5VpM

I don't think I'm pretty cool for not getting offended if my FH goes to a strip club I just legit don't give a eff. If there is ever something I feel uncomfortable about I don't have a problem telling him that and I don't really see any of the women on this forum having a problem with it either

Ugh, I wish I was as flexible as some of the strippers I've seen!! Bitches!!

I personally don't like the idea of the strip club. I went to one when I turned 18 just to say I did. It was a horrifying experience. My friend put a dollar in front of me and a stripper came over, lifted my shirt up and motorboated. It all happened so fast I didn't know what to do lol.

HOWEVER... as much as I do not like strip clubs, and I have expressed this to FH, if he decided to go to one for his bach party, I would get over it. I trust him, and he has gone to them before with no incident. Luckily so far all he has talked about for a bach party is going to South Dakota on a fishing trip. Not exciting for some but he is an avid outdoorsman and would love it.

@Ally - Not to start a riot here... but from your post my thoughts immediately went to the parents that want to be "cool" and condone smoking/drinking/boyfriends sleeping over so that they can "be friends" with their kids. Not that a parent/child relationship is like a spousal relationship but there are parallels. To maintain a healthy relationship in either case, there are boundaries.

I didn't say "it seems like every single person on here is acting like they're super duper awesome for not letting it bother them!"

i said i THINK. doesn't mean i'm absolutely certain...those are just my thoughts.

I also definitely know people who don't want to upset or look like the bad girlfriend/wife and will keep their real thoughts about something inside to where it eats them up...so I don't think it's THAT far off.

Yeah Sarah, I agree. That makes sense and I think that definitely does happen a lot.

I'm super cool for all of my thoughts

I definitely don't think I'm "cooler" for it, I just think that if he REALLY wants to run off with a ratchety girl who's been around the block, then LOL good luck to him. But men are visual, way more so than women. I have no problem with him looking at any other women, because damnit, I know I'm a better catch.

True story: My FH and I were at a strip club together for my 26th birthday - several years before we started dating.

Those ladies up there are working. And everyone else pointed out the very basic fact that there's no touching. My FH watches porn, that doesn't bother me either because honestly? It has nothing to do with *me*

I don't think I'm cool because of this, I just don't think there is anything worth getting worked up about.

I do think if you have a problem with this, rather than TELLING your FH he can't do it, maybe talk with him and a) figure out why you don't like it and b) why he wants to.

Treat him with the respect you want to be treated with.

@m makes a good point too. Men are way more visual. Me? I like to be told how much he loves me. Even if it is the 100th time of the day he has said it