Bachelor party shenanigans?

I'm not comfortable with the idea either. Why should they see other naked bodies when they simply can go home, put some music on and have a private, free strip show from their bride?

My FH isn't really into bachelor party idea and I'm trying to have his GM to throw him one, even it's just a gathering at one of his GM's house and drink... lol

@FutureMrsPereira Really!

You saying I don't know how to have fun because I perfer to have strippers at my bach party and you don't. Is like me saying someone don't know how to have fun because they drink and I don't.

For you and your group going to getting dress up and going to party/club and dancing and some how ending up on top of the poker table singing and dancing to Beyonce 7/11 may be a great bach. party for you and that fine. What ever makes you happy. But for me and my crew that was just last Saturday no biggie.

@Emmy OOh

I love the Meme. That is how me and my friend feel to lol

Ok then....Now I feel bad for your FH, you sound like a wild one LOL!!!!!

@SoontobeMrs

Now we talking. Girl do the damn thing. I'll take 2 stripper poles in the bedroom for $200 dollars Alex lol.

Uhm.

FutureMrsPereira - Please remember that everyone is different. Just because she doesn't share your exact opinion, does not mean that you need to talk down to her as if she is a terrible person. You don't trust your significant other in public with females. Julia does. Those are both fine for each of you. Everyone is different and lives their own life.

Julia sounds like she has a lot of fun. I'm an old fuddy duddy and have no idea what I would like for a bachelorette party. But I would never be bored hanging out with Julia, from what it sounds

This got weird quick..

Haha Lucy. It did. There will always be this great divide. The girls who will never trust their significant other when they are not around them, and the girls who trust their significant other when they are not around them. There is rarely any switching sides. You either trust or you don't.

I told my DH that I don't care if he goes to a strip club (before the wedding or after) because I trust him. What's the difference between going to a strip club or your man looking at pornography. I just asked him to think about how he would feel if I did with a male stripper what he was considering doing. OP mentioned a random girl grinding on him and him "feeling her". That could happen at a night club or a bar. It's more about how your FH reacts to people and not where he is. I went to a male strip show before my first marriage and just didn't enjoy it so for this party, we went to a casino. There was drinking, dancing and lots of laughs and it still felt like a bachelorette party based on the fun everyone had. DH's group did dinner and a comedy club but that's because what the rest of the guys wanted.

I was joking hence the "LOL!!!!"

Haha interesting convo there ladies!

I would be hesitant about it just because my FH is really not the type at all to go to the strippers. In the 9 years we've been together he's gone once as part of a bachelor party for his friend that's really into them. Before that I think he'd only been once or twice. So if he suddenly was like "I want to go to the strippers" I would think that was weird because it's really out of character for him.

I've been a few times with friends (probably more than FH) and personally don't feel one way or the other about it. I do work with a lot of females in the sex trade, so I'm not sure I could go now without hearing some of their horror stories in my head (obviously it's a different situation, but it would remind me of it).

Also there's a difference in going to the strippers for your bach party and going by yourself in the middle of the day.

@ Pancakes - Wait I just read your comment carefully and you said that i don't trust my FH in public with females?? How would you know this?? The only discussion Julia and I were going back and forth with was having strippers at the bachelorette party....how did that go from that to me not trusting my FH??

I think it's a bigger issue than trusting or not trusting. Some women find it really degrading and immoral, and wouldn't want their partners going because of those reasons.

Exactly Silan...sometimes it has nothing to do with trust. I personally think its gross...

No problem with it at all. I trust him. They are doing a job. Am I going to be pissed off every time FH is in contact with someone who isn't me? I don't think so. If that were the case, he would never get a massage, or haircut, or go to the physical therapist, or go to the doctor. They are all females. I'm too old to sweat the small stuff...

But who's right is it to tell someone else what is degrading and immoral? Just because you think it, doesn't mean someone else does. It could be a matter of respect. If he respects her feelings then he won't go. But it has to be a personal decision. Not a FW telling a grown man not to do something like if she's his mother. If she forces her reasons onto him when he doesn't believe the same thing, and doesn't allow him to go, it could cause resentment. Which is why honestly @dwilson15, you just need to have a simple conversation with your FH about it.

We're just sharing our thoughts about strippers Lucy - Everyone is different. To me is gross. Some strippers really do it for the money and i respect that 100% but some are just dirty. My FH can do as he pleases. I know he's smart enough to know what to do and what not to do.....

@dwilson15 I think I may have figure out a compromise for you and your FH.

I was listening to Beyonce Partition while I was doing taxes. What about a Burlesque show. Cute, Sexy no touching and a little bit more class up then a strip club.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pZ12_E5R3qc

This is to everyone: I never said I didn't trust him. All I asked was about if anyone else personally have a problem with it. I was raised that you don't get naked for any man except your husband. And that your husband shouldn't seek out a naked woman. I understand that there are women everywhere and in movies and such. But I disagree with paying for someone else when you have someone at home.

A few of y'all are pretty hurtful and mean. It was just a question.

The others: I appreciate your answers and thank you.