Bachelor party shenanigans?

No problem with it whatsoever. i think that there is a difference between a dance and a random feel from a stranger and intimacy anyway.

Ugh....seriously? I have no problem with FH going to a strip club during his Bach party, if thats the plan. I'm the one he's coming home to. The 5 minutes or so that a stripper is PAID to pay attention to him doesn't bother me in the least. I'm not a prude.

Not even a moment's hesitation. FH has been on three guy's only football trips since we got together, each of them at some point has landed in a strip club. They've had drinks, seen dancers but when the girls offered to get personally handsy with him, he pawns her off on one of the other guys, leaves and calls me. We also were in a long distance relationship all through dating and most of our engagement. If he was the cheating type, he didn't need to go to a strip club to do it. So that built the trust because I had to make a decision, he was either trustworthy or not.

Nope. Those girls ain't got nothin' on me, lol. Seriously though, I'm not bothered in the least and trust him to the end of the world and back.

I have never had a problem with any guy I have been with going to a strip club. I have been a few times myself, and some of those girls.can really do some amazing tricks. I am of the belief that a guy who cheats will do it, strip club or not. Most of those chicks don't get "intimate" with the guys anyway.

I have no problem with it. We have actually been together and have a great time. We will go to one for my bach party. There should be no type of intimacy from a total stranger, if so that's a whole different issue.

No... the girls are literally being paid to pay attention to him, or anyone else in the club for that matter. They don't actually like him. It's just a fun time and a few drinks with his friends. If you're worried about him cheating or something, he doesn't need a strip club to do it. If you're worried about him looking at another woman well... he's probably always going to do that. At the end of the day, you're the one he's going home to.

I have never been "comfortable" with them. I am not a fan of the idea but if DH were to go to one (which he has in the past) I wouldn't say anything negative to him about it. I have never been to one.

DH and I were also long distance for the first 6 months of our relationship. That took a lot of trust in the other person. We only spent weekends together so there was plenty of opportunity for misbehavior. If I was OK with that, it would be a little overbearing of me to be upset about a few hours at a strip club.

Yes, it makes me a little uncomfortable but the girls above make a lot of good points:

-they are being paid to pay attention to him

-he doesn't need strip clubs to cheat - there are other "better" opportunities for that if that was his intention

Something I once heard:

"It doesn't matter where he gets his appetite as long as he comes home for dinner"

I am not okay with it and never will be. It's a level of respect for me. We agreed that neither of us would be going to one.

Honestly they make me a little uncomfortable but fh had gone to one a few years ago and swears he'll never go back. He felt it was way too degrading for a Bunch of men to drool over half naked women dancing.

Personally, I would not be at all okay with it. But if my husband had been interested in going to one, I wouldn't have been interested in him. It is something we mutually agree on. Have you talked about it with your FH?

I have zero problem with it. Are you also going to ban him from watching anything above a G rated movie? Are you going to follow him 24/7 and make sure no woman ever passes him covered in anything less than a snuggie? Men are going to see women in their life. They are going to see them in tiny clothing at the beach. They are going to see them in movies, clothed or not. They are going to see women in skimpy clothing on the street. Do you have a problem with him being "allowed" to see those women?

I'm not here to control my future husband. We trust each other. That is why we are together. If we didn't trust each other, we shouldn't be together. Although FH said he doesn't like strip clubs, he does end up at one once a year or so because his (single) friend frequents one (for the social aspect, not sexual) and he is FH's ride home. He keep saying he really doesn't want his bachelor party to end at one, but he assumes it will because this friend is his best man. I would push for him to go, but he really does not like those places so he wouldn't enjoy himself if he did go. I really don't see why women are not okay with men going. As long as it's not a weekly adventure, there is no harm. And if you don't trust your FH, why are you with him? I've been to a strip club before. It's just men sitting at tables and seeing women dance with eventually no shirt. I've been to a back room private "shower party" in the front row and I wouldn't even be concerned with them going to that, even though they are completely naked. All men watch porn. Strip clubs are just more subtle porn and in real life. You still can't touch, there is never going to be a relationship outside of those doors and it's no harm.

If they are only going one night, why on earth would I be against that? As long as it is not a weekly event and no one is lying about it, then it's fine. Try to find a way to trust the person you are about to marry.

Doesn't bother me in the least. I also think before you make an opinion on strip clubs you should actually go to one. I wasn't sure how I felt about them so I went and made my own decision. Every club has different rules but most are not brothels.

Really not a lot different then watching "Magic Mike"..... cause I'm sure no one swoon's over Channing Tatum with no shirt on. Doesn't mean you love FH/DH any less does it?

Uhhhhhhhhh!

I wish my MOH would give me a bachelorette party with out strippers. I would hit her over the head with something LMAO.

I don't know what my FH is doing for his bachelor party, but I'm sure a strip club will be involved. We live in Atlanta, GA the strip club capital of the world. Going to the strip club here is like going to Ihop. Besides I'm to focus on all the strippers I'm going to have a my bachelorette party to worry about his bachelor party.

Not even a little. It also isn't my FHs style, but he did go to one for part of his bach. I completely agree with the other ladies who have given great reasons not to care if their FHs go. I don't see it as any intimacy, just random chicks getting naked in front of a group of people...not intimate in the slightest.

I will not be okay with it....The thought of another woman grinding on what's mine, bothers me. I have been to a strip club with my FH before and after what I saw, I wouldn't want him going there. Strippers grind on probably 68 men in one night then with that same underwear she's grinding on my man?? And guess who has to wash those pants?? This girl right here!! Ewww that is so gross!!

I'm sorry everyone but what type of bachelor/bachelorette party don't have strippers?

Bachelor parties yes they always go to see strippers (how fucking original), bachelorette parties not so much....I personally don't care for strippers and don't want to see them on my bach. party to be quite honest.

They don't feel the strippers up. You're thinking about hookers. Or shady guys that go in the back for extras, which again, makes the ladies hookers. Most clubs have touching rules. Guys go to look at girls and don't get shit about it. It's eye candy. Nothing more.

Don't be insecure now or it'll never end.

I am not okay with it either. DH wasn't interested in doing that but of course his BM planned one night they all go to the strip club, most of them had never been before and my husband told me it was a pretty run down place and they weren't feeling it so they didn't stay there long. Whether or not it was a lie it made me feel better about the whole thing.