Asking the Guests to wear Black

Personally if you invited me to YOUR wedding and requested I wear black, I WILL WEAR BLACK. I have no issues with having a dress code. To me it's like stating the attire. "Summer chic", "beachy casual", "formal", "cocktail dress", whatever. To ask someone to wear black is not a big deal IMO. Just like i better not see anyone wearing shorts or jeans to my wedding. Especially when I state the expected attire on my website.

What about suggesting and not mandating? Something like: If you would like, wear black! I figure most people have dressy clothes in some shade of black, but even if they don't (or felt like wearing something else), it should be totally ok. Mandating that everyone wear all black is kind of controlling. There aren't too many pictures with all your guests in them anyway.

To me it's like stating the attire. "Summer chic", "beachy casual", "formal", "cocktail dress", whatever.

I don't know what 2 of those mean...where are you guys getting all of these miscellaneous nonsensical dress codes? Summer Chic? Mountain formal? Don't do this to your guests.

My cousin did "country casual" for her wedding on my mom's farm.... Not sure what that means but my dad showed up in black shorts and an under armor shirt ( this is dressing up for him) and others showed in jeans. I agree that some of these dress codes are quite strange and uninformative.

First world problems huh?

It wouldn't bother me.

Haha right Allison! Personally I wouldn't be bothered by the request and might find it kind of fun. But I know some people don't see it like that and I do understand their views as well.

The things you learn on WW. I didn't know people found Head tables rude prior to WW, I thought it was pretty standard practice.....

Yes, there you are Kassy...

@Kassy As always I agree with you

If someone send you a invite to their wedding and ask you to dress a certain way you either come and do it or just check that magical unicorn box _____ Can not attend.

You are invited to a wedding not force by gunpoint. It can't be rude or tacky if you choose to do it.

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It can't be rude or tacky if you choose to do it.

I might be the odd man out but I would have loved to do a black and white wedding. I saw Dwayne Wade and Gabriel Union do it and it was beautiful although I know they are famous they can do whatever they want. I have seen plenty of celebrities do it I really wanted to so did FH but it was too late we had already chosen everything in our colors. I honestly don't know you know your guest best if you think they wouldn't mind go ahead and do it. If someone would tell me what to wear to their wedding I would not mind whatsoever and my guest wouldn't even think twice I know for a fact but not everyone is like that.

I'm sorry emmy but no.

If someone ask you to their wedding and ask for the guest to wear a certain color it's not rude. You have an option not to come. Its more rude to RSVP yes and then not come in the color or complain about it. If you don't like it just don't go. Problem solved

Who said head tables are rude? I must have missed that one..

@ Alysha I haven't seen a thread about it in awhile but I guess they are rude because you split up the people in the bridal party from their guest/SO etc..... It's for an hour, get over it is my thought but to each their own.

@Julie - yes, telling adults what to wear is rude, you are implying that your theme is more important than their comfort or that they cannot properly dress themselves for the occasion.

@alysha - It is technically inappropriate to split up people from their dates for a head table.

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Julia, are you saying that you'd rather a guest not attend your wedding than come and not fit in with your "theme"? Hypothetically because I have no idea if you actually are having a theme wedding.

Wow, I guess I should be glad my friends and family value me enough that they'd rather I attend (regardless of what I wear) than stay home because I'm offended they tried to tell a grown ass woman what to wear.

@Emmy No It's implying that's what they want for their wedding that they are paying for. If your comfort is more important then feel free to mark the magical unicorn boxes _______ regrets. you are not telling them what to wear you are asking them. They can always choose to stay home. It would be rude if you didn't say anything in the invite and wait until people get to the wedding and say hey put this on.

Bleh. Sweetheart table solves that problem lol.

@Lori no I'm not having a theme wedding. And yes I rather guest not attend then to attend and complain. I am 100% team stay your ass home then. I respect your choice not to come and you respect my choice to have the wedding I want.

You are inviting guests to share in your day. You should be honored that they come. You thank them with a reception. You do not imply that however they see fit to dress in either style or comfort is not acceptable in your presence.