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Kathryn
Master December 2021

Asking the Guests to wear Black

Kathryn, on February 5, 2015 at 10:11 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 103

I wanted to see what you all thought of this. I am not doing this but was suggested by my venue coordinator. We were talking about decor and possibly doing everything in shades of white. Then asking the guests to wear black. So there was a high contrast. My Venue coordinator said that she had her...

I wanted to see what you all thought of this. I am not doing this but was suggested by my venue coordinator.

We were talking about decor and possibly doing everything in shades of white. Then asking the guests to wear black. So there was a high contrast. My Venue coordinator said that she had her guests wear black to her wedding and all 300 guests did it and it looked great.

I have 2 opinions on this

- Asking people to wear black is kinda like asking people to dress up for a themed party and theme is black.

-It is rude to tell people what to wear and you should never ask that of your guests.

Black is a color most everyone has in their closet so it would be easy for most. I think older people would have issues with this. Our BM dresses are black and my grandma told me black is for funerals and that she didn't like my choice.

What are your thoughts on this? Do you think it is rude? Or would it be the same thing as asking someone to dress according to a theme?

103 Comments

  • Maggie
    Beginner September 2023
    Maggie ·
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    Thank you for this response!! I honestly don't see why people think it's a big deal to ask someone what to wear. It's the one day they're allowed to be extra and if I was attending someone's wedding and they asked me to do this I would have no qualms about it. But maybe I'm just more easy going than most haha.

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  • Maggie
    Beginner September 2023
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    Exactly! It's basically a theme. People love themed parties lol. This is no different. I don't see why anyone would be upset at this request.

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  • Stefanie
    Just Said Yes September 2025
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    Wow all the negative comments of not doing is from 2015. I hope you did what you wanted, to it’s your wedding at the end of the day. Now(almost) 10 years later, all black attire wedding is so normal. I’m getting married next year(2025) and doing all black attire. I’m so excited 🥰
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