Asking for Cash Isn’t Tacky!

You cannot speak for entire guest group. Especially older generations that believe in having some propriety. When I was younger, I too thought asking for cash was fine. After 20 years attending weddings and having brides demand cash presents, checks, paypal accounts.... I am done. People tire of it easily. There is a big difference between 4 candy bars and a $50 dollar check vs a $500 dollar check.

This is such a horrible comment smh

If it is, then I'm tacky. We aren't doing a physical gift registry...we've lived together for 5 years and own a home. We don't need anything...truly. We are giving our guests the option to help with our honeymoon fund. We're basically saying we don't need anything, but if you really feel the need to get us something...then we will have like an itemized honeymoon list. Like we need X amount for the hotel, X amount for a tour, etc... I see zero issues with that, I don't want you wasting $50 on some dish set I DON'T need. I could honestly care less if people spend money on us, I just want them to be apart of our special day. Most of our friends/family would not be happy if we just said don't give us anything...people still would and it'd be stuff we don't want.

I don't see anything wrong with this either!

You probably don't need a second set of Tupperware, might as well put it in the honey fund~

The point is you don't need to ask for anything. If people are financially able to gift, they will give a gift. If you don't have a registry or if your registry is small, they will give cash. No need to put your hand out begging.

Um seriously...ugh.

Those things don't affect your guests. You aren't asking them to change their behavior.

Make whatever choices you want for your own wedding. But keep in mind that not everyone there will be from your generation. Maybe grandma wants to get you an heirloom instead of a gift card. Like I said, gift giving is not just about the recipient.

I'll add this: a friend of mine got married last year. They had a small registry (a hint that they would appreciate cash). I asked her about honeymoon plans and she said they didn’t really have the money to take one, but that they would be doing a road trip for a few days. I chose to get them a Visa gift card and told them to use it towards their honeymoon. She didn’t ask me for cash, I didn’t feel like that was the only option. We both ended up happy and there was no etiquette faux pas.

Uhm I'm sorry???? Whether you find gifting money rude or not 100% has to do with the way you were raised and not the background you come from? This is a super classest comment. How your parents bring you up and what they teach you about etiquette is what mostly determines how you feel about things like registries vs cash registries. Just because someone was brought up with less money or in economically poorer neighborhood does not mean they have no manners or think this is okay. That's actually super rude of you to imply

I'm tacky! *shrugs* FH and I are doing a fund for new hardwood floors in addition to a minimal gift registry... and guests at our wedding know of our current home issues. I don't feel like I'm demanding cash, though. It clearly states on our fund: "The bride and groom have lived together for nearly two years, so items on a conventional registry are not needed aside from a few items . As many of you know, they have been experiencing some issues with the floor choices of the previous tenants. If you would like to make a donation to their home upgrade fund, any amount would be greatly appreciated in lieu of physical gifts." (For WW readers - we have many cracked tiles in our foyer/front hall way/kitchen as they put a bathroom tile, which is not meant for heavy foot traffic.)

Everything seems to go from "It's your wedding - do what you want!" until you get to the registry and mention that you are asking for cash instead of gifts!

The registry link will be on an invite that my FMIL and mother are sending out for a shower they are hosting. If no one was hosting a shower, then I would simply not have a registry.

Putting anything on your invite about asking for cash is basically saying "give us cash". I believe registry info and requests for cash should be left out of wedding invites entirely. The only place that gifting should be brought up is in relation to the shower that is hosted by someone other than the bride and/or groom.