Asking for Cash Isn’t Tacky!

You aren't going to convince people of that here, because it really is rude to ask for money. Many people go ahead and do it anyway, and I wish them luck, but that doesn't make it less tacky.

It's fine not to register because you don't want stuff for whatever reason, but that doesn't mean anyone should ask for cash.

View Quoted Comment I just don’t get how its less rude to hand people a list of stuff you want from a store lol

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A registry is to prevent people from buying the same item as another guest. It is not rude. Asking people straight up to give you money is, in my opinion.

Asking for cash has and always be frowned upon. Nothing your friends do or say, no cutesy poem will make it correct or ok. Your opinion will not change etiquette.

Do you ask people for cash for everyday milestones?

Anyone with any sense of decorum or manners knows this.

Well I’m glad my friends did it because otherwise they’d still be lugging around Europe with an electric mixer. Plus then I was more willing to give cash, and a decent amount of it too! Traveling is expensive, and I’m glad I bought them part of their adventure.

Sorry, still not convinced asking for cash doesn't come off as rude. The explanations as to why they need cash are also tacky. Weddings are not gift giving events. It will always be rude to ask for money

View Quoted Comment The point of a registry is to let people who want to get you gifts know what items would be most valuable to you. You should never hand someone your list, that's why it's considered rude to throw your own shower (asking for gifts) or to include registry information with STDs or invitations (again, asking for gifts). If people want to buy you a physical gift, they can look for a registry by asking you or looking online on your website, or even just googling.

Adults already know the couple can always use cash gifts, and they don't need to be instructed on how to give it.

I have a tiny registry that I haven't listed on my wedding website or shared at all, because I don't want a lot of stuff. You know what I'll probably receive without asking for it or making it apparent that I'm expecting gifts? Money.

I dont see any problem with it. If I was attending a wedding and they were only asking for cash I would totally not be offended. Guess I'm tacky 🙃

Asking for money is tacky. That’s not just an opinion expressed here, it’s written in virtually any wedding etiquette book. It’s not wrong to want money, but there are ways to get that point across without straight up asking for cash. Gift giving is not just about the recipient. Maybe that aunt wants to give something special to mark the occasion. It’s rude to tell her not to do that.

View Quoted Comment Right? And it gets totally bombarded. Like my guests will be sitting there cross armed because of it or something. *high five* go you

It used to be considered rude, but it's becoming a lot more popular. We'll be doing a cash registry, too. We've been living together for several years and don't need to upgrade anything. Our cash registry is split up into categories for our honeymoon, so people can choose to help us out with a hotel, rental car, etc. if they choose to. We also have a couple actual items listed, like a tent and backpacks.
Unfortunately, the vast majority of people on this site still think its rude and you'll never convince them otherwise. But all of the "younger" weddings I've been to have cash registeries.

View Quoted Comment Most wedding etiquette books are outdated, anyway. It isn't a requirement to have cake, wear a white dress or do a garter toss, either.

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There will come a point when guests will simply get tired of being demanded what they need to bring as an acceptable gift and just stop gifting altogether. The average guest does not like being asked for cash and will generally be less generous if asked to do so. Families and close friends however are more tolerant to this rude behavior. Which is probably why bride's feel so encouraged to be "tacky".

View Quoted Comment That’s what I’ve seen too! I think with younger couples it’s just becoming less of a thing where you need a bunch of kitchen stuff (cause they already have it) or a bunch of anything. Young couples need better cars or deposits or a chance to travel just once. Cash does that best.
I thought hopefully the discussion of it would bring it into the open.

View Quoted Comment I’ve never been less generous when someone asked me for something. My friend asks me to pick up a Reese’s? Well I’ll grab four. Someone asks for cash at their wedding instead of Tupperware? I’m happy to spend what I would have to give you cash so you can get what you want! (:

Let's say, for argument's sake, that I don't want to have a registry, for whatever reason. I feel that such things like, going backpacking or going on a honeymoon would come up in conversation with the people I care about, and most likely be spread by word of mouth. These are people that I'm close with and care about, I think they'll know my plans without me making a cutesy poem about it. The combination of me not having a registry (or a very small one) and them knowing my plans for after the wedding, might compel them to gift something monetary. However, I would not ask them to do this, and if my Aunt or anyone else wanted to give me something physical because of whatever reason, I would never be upset either.

tldr; people are adults and will figure out how to give money without you telling them, and asking for cash is not proper etiquette, so there is not reason to do it.

I just wish Home Depot and Lowe's would come up with a registry, cause man, there are so many home projects that we need to do and Tyvek decking and hardwood flooring isn't cheap (hope you all sensed my sarcasm there).

View Quoted Comment Obviously I’m tacky too lol I’m doing a travel fund.

It really doesn't matter. People can do what they want, if they want to ask for cash at their wedding, why does everyone feel that they have to judge by calling them "tacky". only God knows what's going on with that couple that they chose to ask for money rather than a registry. Let them be people!

I'm a broke recent graduate and this wedding is costing me half the amount of my student loans. I would totally ask for money if I wanted to, but we also will be getting an apartment and asked for a registry but I'm sure our guest will give us checks and put them in the card box.

And I wish someone would tell me "well why are you planning a wedding then". Well because I want to and I'm marrying my best friend and I plan this to be my first and only wedding so yes I am going all out.

okay done with my vent. lol