ARRRRR Our wedding is getting out of hand!!!

Aaaaaagggghhh, know the feeling. I've kept things small by managing expectations, "Hey, guys, we're on a small budget, and we really want a low-key intimate thing, so we're going to be quite strict about guest list." We get the occasional person trying to slip one past the goalie, but if you're firm but kind it goes pretty well.

Wow it really has gotten away from you a bit hasn't it... mine has not been so bad.. my guest list has grown but only by 10 ppl and my mother is picking up the tab for them because they are family from her side that she could handle me not inviting so I'm ok with it as long as I don't have to figure out the finances and the venue can accommidate it, I'm good... I have only a couple of OOT guests coming for the rehearsal my uncle (our officiant) and auntie will be coming and then the BP and immediate family so that is still under control... It sounds like you are handling it well though... always a good thing if it gets overwhelming feel free to vent.. you have my info.

Oh yes....your wedding completely changed from its original vision.

Ours....If anything, I am going over the top with decor. I have entire first floor of a B&B to decorate: lobby, buffet room and the keeping room, where the ceremony and reception will take place. I keep finding great buys on items I just have to have. ; )

I have that thought too.. what was only supposed to be 70 people, is now almost 90..

and what was supposed to be not religious, now has turned into a rabbi and kippuhs (little jewish hats)

good times!

Lol, It gets like that from time to time... All things considered, it sounds like you're going to have an even better wedding now

We were planning on 50. Now, it's 71, and I'm sure by the time we are done it will be 80-85! YEA!

Shoot we were planning on 41 including bridal party,officiant,his wife and photographer. now we have 49 INVITES to send out AHHH!!! we were on a 1-2000 budget now its 3000 an we have maxed that out! AHHH guest list is what has gotten me though

Mine got out of control for a min there. And I wheeled it back on track. Sat down and thought ok... More people means more money. Geez I can't afford all that just 25 ppl for RD 20 bucks a plate is 600 dollars or more. So I am really trying to cut I was up to 17 thousand dollars and brought all the way down to 12 thousand and every day I am cutting and picking out what I don't need and what I do need because this can get out of hand fast.

I went from eloping to a wedding with 200 guests and a rather large bridal party. From spending $5000 to over double that... I am happy and I want the wedding but its crazy how it has transformed!!

We wanted only 50 people but we are now up to 68 and will probably end up with 75. We've already had to say no to 8 people who where invited by other people. We aren't having ushers but have 2 flower girls... I feel like I'm holding on to the wedding by a string... like any minute it's gonna blow up on me. We did get lucky though and kept the rehearsal dinner to only those in the wedding and their spouses... maybe there is hope for us WW girls yet.

We started with a 8000 budget and we are up too 12000, 170 people is alot to please and feed. Saving money with a cash bar and gm and bm paying for their own attire.

Don't feel bad. As you see you are not alone. We went from going to Vegas for about a 1000 to 200 guests and a 15000 price tag! WTH! But I cannot wait for the day!

I went from having a fairly expensive wedding with about 100 guests to a cheap wedding, really expensive vacation, and 26 (and dropping) of our closest family and friends.

All of my guests (bride's side only) will be traveling from San Diego, as I have recently moved to Boston...therefore it has really helped in keeping our guest list to it's original amount, as only those that REALLY love you will fly 3000 miles for your big day! However, my decor spending is quickly starting to add up!! All of a sudden the venue chairs are not good enough, now I need chilvary chairs, and, oh I love the look of charger plates, let's add those too!! Now I see why my planner calls it a "working" budget!!

All of my guests (bride's side only) will be traveling from San Diego, as I have recently moved to Boston...therefore it has really helped in keeping our guest list to it's original amount, as only those that REALLY love you will fly 3000 miles for your big day! However, my decor spending is quickly starting to add up!! All of a sudden the venue chairs are not good enough, now I need chilvary chairs, and, oh I love the look of charger plates, let's add those too!! Now I see why my planner calls it a "working" budget!!

My wedding invite list originaly was 150 max and a budget of 15000, now its at 350 people invited (i hope and pray they dont all RSVP yes...) at a cost of 30000!! ouch!

and non of the extras are people that i want to invite or care about or even know! they are all work related to FH parents....

Wow there are a lot of us over committed. I have to say as crazy as my numbers have become, I really am happy with what we have planned and everyone we have coming. I am not sure how we are going to pay for it all yet - I might have to start eating roaman noodles for the next 29 weeks - but I have found tons of things I could cut to accomodate everyone. Please don't get me wrong - I am loving the planning and love that everyone wants to be part of our big day. (BTW this has become THE event of the year at my church - and I hear some are upset that they are left off.)

Our budget had doubled...haha... we went from 5,000 to 12,000 (this does include the honeymoon) and the numbers went up some, I changed my mind with decorations too many times to count and I know it will be nice in the end, but it's like crazy @_@

I'm right there with you. I wanted a small wedding- under 100 guests- a small wedding party- etc etc... Now i sat with my FH mom and sister and they started naming all these cousins and aunts and uncles that would be offended if they didn't get an invite. They are a very Huge spanish family- my guest list went from 89 to 137. Originally my wedding party was a MOH and Best man then my little ones as flower girl and ring bearers. Now we have MOH Best man plus 3BMs and 3GMs, 2 flower girls, and 3 ring bearers. :-/ it just sucks cuz we are close to all of them and I can't cut any one of them out of it. As far as the guests go- I was upset at first- but the venue we found has the DJ included with any party over 125 people. so that is balancing out the $$$ a little bit! Good luck!