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Are you inviting children?

Lynnie, on September 3, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 1 144
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Having an adults-only wedding is a really easy way to trim down your guest list, but it can also sometimes make it more difficult for your guests to attend. Will your wedding be a family affair?

Are you inviting children? Do you have any guest list rules for kids?


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  • Brittany
    Devoted October 2020
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    I am inviting kids to my wedding because they can't miss out on the candy and the fun! Most of my guests are out of town so it would be tricky for them to leave them home.

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  • Kelsey
    VIP September 2020
    Kelsey Online ·
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    I am inviting kids to my wedding. Most of the groomsmen have kids already and a lot of family members do as well,

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  • MrsHamm
    Dedicated September 2019
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    We did not invite anyone under the age of 21. My wedding is in a vineyard and the reception is in their conference center on their property. Plus we had a bar minimum we had to spend. So, we decided kinds are going to have nowhere to play or anything and that a wedding at a vineyard isn't really appropriate for kids, in my FH and my opinion. Also, we weren't close to any children in our families (both only children) at the time we started planning a year ago. We told parents, please look at it as a date night and a chance for you to have adult time away from kids, I have my final head count for the wedding, and quite a few people aren't coming, but our wedding is approx. a 2 hour drive for everyone.

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  • Amber
    Rockstar February 2020
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    We will not be inviting children, aside from my two nieces who will be our flower girls

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  • Erin
    Expert November 2019
    Erin ·
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    We have a lot of folks coming from out of state and that includes family members with children. So, we’re totally allowing children!
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  • Yam
    VIP September 2019
    Yam ·
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    We’re allowing children because we know they’re all well behaved and it’s a dry wedding, totally kid friendly.
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  • Megan
    Rockstar November 2020
    Megan ·
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    Aside from our flower girls, we won’t be having children there.
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  • Allaura
    Devoted April 2021
    Allaura ·
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    We’re inviting kids. I don’t want anyone to miss out because they have kids so we are going to hire nannies and have a little kids corner for the kiddos to play in during the reception.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn Online ·
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    Our 3 nieces will be the only children.
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  • Kellie
    Dedicated June 2020
    Kellie ·
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    I have five children, so children are welcome. There will be 3 other children in attendance.
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  • Sara
    Expert June 2020
    Sara ·
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    No kids. I just don't think kids need to be at a wedding or have really any clue what is going on. I would rather everyone (including family and friends who have kids) enjoy themselves at an adult only night out. Plus they should be in bed.

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  • Denise
    Super September 2019
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    We're having kids there. I wanted my sisters kids there and I figured I would be upset if there were only certain kids who made the cut if I was a guest so.. we decided kids are invited

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  • Odette
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Odette ·
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    Not inviting children aside of the kids within the bridal party.
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  • Marcus & Marlisa
    Devoted June 2020
    Marcus & Marlisa ·
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    We are not inviting anyone under the age of 21. The only exception are the kids in the bridal party. I have an open bar and I don't think it would be appropriate to have kids running around with liquor. Plus our guest list is heavy and adding kids will increase it tremendously and we just can't afford it
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  • Laura
    Rockstar October 2019
    Laura ·
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    We can't imagine not having kids as part of our day. I understand why other brides want a kid free day, but that's just not us. We want them there. I have a great-nephew who is 8 months old. When I see him I dance with him and I want a picture of he and I dancing

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  • Erika
    Savvy June 2020
    Erika ·
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    Im only allowing kids from out of state and out of the country to attend... everyone else that's local can find a baby sitter for the night.
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  • Sara
    Expert February 2020
    Sara ·
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    Our wedding is definitely a family affair. All family members, young and old, are invited. If all of the kids come (there are about 40)..it will be interesting for sure.
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  • Jess
    Expert October 2019
    Jess ·
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    We’re inviting kids. Our venue includes a kids cabin and a playground so they’ll have plenty to do. We’ve also worked with kids in the church for several years and they’re a part of who we are!
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  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
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    I don't have any kids coming other than my flower girls because I don't want that drama or risk of something happening.

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  • Alyssa
    Devoted October 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    We are allowing kids. Our kids will be there so having other kids would mean our kids wouldn’t be bored plus more than half of our bridal party has kids and I know how hard it can be to find sitters.
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