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Are you inviting extended family?

Lynnie, on September 3, 2019 at 11:05 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 75
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How much of your family made the guest list? Are you inviting cousins? Second cousins? Where did you draw the line on relations?

Are you sticking with immediate family only, going all-in on the entire extended fam, or somewhere in-between?



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  • Brittany
    Devoted October 2020
    Brittany ·

    I have only the cousins that I have been in contact with for the last five years. So first cousins and a few second cousins.

  • Kelsey
    Super September 2020
    Kelsey ·

    I am inviting any cousins that I am close to. Same with my FH. We both have large extended families. There are a few that aren't invited simply because we don't know where they live and we don't talk to their parents either.

  • Ashley
    Dedicated May 2020
    Ashley ·
    I am inviting a handful of great aunts and uncles and second cousins from my side because my fiance’s immediate family (aunts/uncles/cousins) is huge and I see some of my second cousins more than my first cousins.
  • Amber
    VIP May 2020
    Amber ·

    Since my parents are paying for a majority of the wedding, I'm required to invite extended family. I don't have a problem with any of them, it just bothers me that they're invited to such an intimate and important day in my life when I don't even know them.

  • FutureMrsHamm
    Savvy September 2019
    FutureMrsHamm ·

    His mom's family is huge - so we limited that to her brothers and sisters (cousins not invited - not close to them). Other than that we invited extended family we are close to and see regularly and that we're above the age of 21.

  • Kellie
    Dedicated June 2020
    Kellie ·
    Our guest list, including my spouse, myself and our kids, is 25. So no lol
  • Denise
    Super September 2019
    Denise ·

    Only kind of. I got guest lists from both sides and went throught them with FH and we only invited parts of this list and parts of that list. If we don't really know them then we decided we weren't going to invite them.

  • M
    Super September 2019
    Mrs. Bubba ·
    My Mom’s first cousins, my Granny’s Sisters, and all those that we’re close to.
  • Sara
    Devoted June 2020
    Sara ·

    I guess we are kind of in-betweenish? I'm inviting 2 of my mothers cousins, 1 we have holiday's with, the other was on the cruise that fiance proposed to me on. Fiance is inviting some of his cousins (we are still waiting on his parents to make adjustments to the guest list). I am on the fence about this. We are having a smaller wedding (about 85 guests) and I just strongly feel that the people invited should be involved in our lives as a couple. Some of his family I do not know at all and I don't want to meet them the first time at my wedding. For every distant family member we invite, its one less close friend.

  • Odette
    Just Said Yes October 2019
    Odette ·
    I’m inviting uncles, aunts and cousins but just the close family.
  • Laura
    Rockstar October 2019
    Laura ·

    I don't have a lot of family left living, so i'm inviting most of them. My fiancee is one of 7 kids, so we have a bunch we're inviting. We aren't inviting many from out of state because they couldn't make it.

  • Brittany
    Super May 2020
    Brittany ·

    If I haven't spoke to them within a 3 month period, they aren't invited. There is no point in feeding and entertaining someone who doesn't want to keep in contact with me. They don't need to experience my special day if they aren't in my life anymore.

  • Chinda
    Dedicated December 2020
    Chinda ·
    We will be going in between because traveling is expensive around Christmas time and I don’t want to have to seem like I’m making family members travel out of state when they didn’t plan to come but HAVE to come because of my wedding. I don’t know if that made sense?
  • S
    Just Said Yes November 2020
    Sontavia ·
    Only close family members that I see and talk to, so first cousins and some of my moms second cousins that I see regularly.
  • Erin
    Super June 2020
    Erin ·
    Right now we’re drawing the line at aunts, uncles, and cousins
  • Amanda
    Expert October 2019
    Amanda ·
    Yes we're inviting extended family. All cousins & even some great aunts & uncle's.
  • Martika
    Expert September 2019
    Martika ·

    I invited a total of 7 people from my family. I don't speak to much of my family.

  • Savvy December 2020
    We drew the line at first cousins! I have a big Italian family, he’s got a big Irish family; our venue holds 120 TOPS, and if we invited everyone, we’d probably be close to 200 guests- made up of family alone! We met in college and our friends are super important to us, so first cousins was what ended up working out best for us.
  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·

    Somewhat. My parents have 8 living siblings and most of them have multiple kids so there was no way we were inviting them all. Plus I haven't seen most of them in years so it would have been weird to ask them to go all the way to Vegas for us. My cousin was my MOH and her parents who I'm close with came. DH had some cousins and an aunt. He also comes from a large family and we just couldn't invite them all

  • SraDeCarrillo
    Super August 2019
    SraDeCarrillo ·

    We invited aunts, uncles and cousins. Mostly those we had spoken to during the last year and unfortunately my cousins were no shows after RSVP’ing “yes”.

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