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Savvy November 2020

Anyone’s mind still in a frenzy? ¿

Ciera, on May 17, 2020 at 1:56 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6

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I know there are many post regarding Fall weddings and covid, and I feel like I’ve read them all but is anyone mind still in a frenzy. I have literally almost talked myself into cancelling the entire wedding, but will not announce it until end of June/ earlier July. My FH wanted a small wedding, and I wanted a mid size with family and friends, and he is definitely okay with that. With all this covid it has put a damper on planning, and I’m honestly not so enthusiastic about everything anymore. I honestly don’t want to postpone, but that may be the best option where everyone would feel safe in attending.

I really don’t want to have to wait until the end of May 2021 to postpone, and was thinking maybe we should just elope but then it’s like we are spending money for different views/ photographer/ to say vows that would last 30mins-1hr at most when it could be done just at a courthouse. I really never wanted a courthouse wedding but honestly seems like this may be the way. I’m trying to still see the small light in this but I just don’t think anyone will attend a wedding in November due to having to travel, and knowing flu season is during this time.
I don’t know why it seems weird for me to have a small gathering and get married on the original date and then have another ceremony and reception moved to next year. It just more money coming out so please help me understand if you chose that route.
Also should I make a poll on fb and ask like with the current covid situations would you still attend a wedding in November and see the feedback? Y’all I’m losing It and am trying to still see the light for fall 😭

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Latest activity by Amy, on May 20, 2020 at 1:28 PM

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Sharon · on May 17, 2020 at 2:55 PM
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It's hard to not have our minds spinning g! We're Oct and in NY. Things will most likely be up and running by then but will it be smart to have a lot if people in a room together? We're debating postponing until next year.

I dont see why you can't do a small courthouse wedding now and then do a big thing next year. You can get a photographer for an hour or two and it shouldn't cost too much. Everyone will understand. Honestly, we already had our small ceremony last year and this is going to be our big celebration. While I loved our intimate ceremony it felt like something was missing without the big celebration.
IMO I wouldn't do the survey. My brain is racing with just us talking about it. I can't imagine how it would be spinning if we invited a ton of people to give their 2 cents.
Good luck whatever you decide.
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Michelle · on May 17, 2020 at 3:31 PM
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I totally feel you. I am still hopeful that my November wedding is a go ahead. Mine involves an international flight, which makes it worse. I think if you are having a smaller wedding with no travel then fall should be ok. I am also waiting until early July to decide. So much can change it that time frame. What if I re schedule and in 3 months, then everything is fine, I can’t take back that date change. If we are still in the same place we are now in 8 weeks.........then there is some serious decision making that needs to happen. Sigh.....
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Jill · on May 17, 2020 at 10:55 PM
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Ciera,

Until there is vaccine, it's hard to even know if next year is too soon. I think couples need to decide what is important to them. There are a lot of graduates this year who are invited to walk in their high school's graduating class next year. Some people might say what's the point? They already technically graduated. Same with people who are getting married now and having receptions later. I think for many it's the closure (the party, guests and celebration) they need to make it feel right. For others, they will embrace the moment now, as unconventional as it may seem, and move forward with a "minimony" because they have waited long enough and are ready to start a new chapter.

On a side note, I know you don't envision a courthouse wedding, but what about somewhere intimate and finding a relative/friend to officiate (a park with a gazebo or a candle lit room in a home) if it comes down to that because you are unable to move ahead with your Nov. plans?
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Mindy · on May 18, 2020 at 7:09 PM
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Girl, I feel you. I have been weighing the pros and cons. But I couldn’t imagine not marrying my FH on our date.
If we have to reduce size, then we will. But I think everyone in my family is looking forward to it so if we can, we will. No decisions need made until late August/September. 🤞🏼🤞🏼
Keep positive and think it into existence!
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Ciera · on May 19, 2020 at 4:06 PM
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Quick question, after reading everyone’s post we are defiant just thinking to save the headache of uncertainty and probably just move forward with having something intimate, and do like a dinner and party afterwards around bars*hopefully things will be opening up* but for your small ceremony did you have a dj to play anything when you walk down the aisle? Or do you just walk with no music ?
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Amy · on May 20, 2020 at 1:28 PM
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Hi Ciera,
I'm sorry that you're feeling worried and not-so-enthusiastic in the midst of wedding planning. The general consensus for November is that it's too soon to panic, but it never hurts to have a plan B in place. Here's a related discussion: November 2020 wedding - anyone postponing yet?
Some couples are adjusting their plans to get married (one way or another) on their original dates. Options include ceremony now/reception later, elopement now/full wedding later, micro weddings and more. Check out these posts:
Covid-19: Marriage now, wedding later?
Covid19 Brides still getting married on original date?
Small ceremony now, big wedding later
Etiquette in the time of coronavirus?
I'm Eloping because of Covid-19.. can i still do all of the traditional events?
If you want to consider your options and next steps, WeddingWire has created a ton of resources in Our COVID-19 Weddings Advice Guide, including What to Do About Your Wedding During the Coronavirus Pandemic.
For your small wedding, you can select music or a DJ or not. It's completely up to you! There are some DJs offering virtual services, so you might be able to find one that you can stream. That's one less person at the actual event just in case you need to keep it super small.
I hope you can make a decision that feels right for you and your FH.
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