Anyone NOT writing their own vows?

We did not want to write our own vows. We went traditional with the "repeat after me". I'm not good with coming up with things to say. lol

We did not write our own vows. We used the standard "in sickness and in health, for richer or poorer, till death do you part" that you see all the time on TV and in movies. Talk to your officiate and talk it over with your FH. Do you want to write your own vows? Would you rather use a standard one? Your officiate will have a selection of standard vows to choose from if you want.

I found some nice ones that aren't traditional on pinterest. lol. They are so fitting for us so I am using them.

I was 100% on just doing the traditional vows until about 5 seconds ago where I was like ..."hmm... I'd really love to hear what lovey dovey stuff FH would say to me" because he's not much of an "express your feelings" type of guy however in the same breath, that scares me that he would come up with nothing .. "uh hi Beth, I love you a lot. Bye. Oh, and by the way, 'I do'." -_-

We are doing a Catholic ceremony- so we aren't able to write our own vows. We have been procrastinating writing love letter to each other for the priest- so we can have an idea of what to say about us. Oops.

Ugh I have no idea yet. I found a few templates and pulled things that we like. I think we will end up doing a HYBRID version where we can insert some of our weird quirks

Writing our own vows was no way in hell an option for us. That's not how we are. We got married by a judge, and she provided us with 5 different ceremony scripts for us to chose from and/or modify. I wound up taking pieces from three of them and making the world's shortest ceremony. Literally just we're here because we want to get married, i do, you do, exchange rings, the state says we're married, kiss, done.

We just met with our officiant this weekend, and he said that he does not like to do the traditional repeat after me vows. He asked if we were going to write our own, and neither of us really want to do that. FH is not a fan of mushy stuff, and I would probably cry the whole time or forget them from nerves. So at this point I think we are skipping them. Our officiant said you don't actually need them. We are fine with doing the traditional repeat after me vows though.

We did traditional. It was one of the things that DH surprisingly had a strong opinion on. I kind of wanted to write our own, but it wasn't important enough to me to fight with him over. I just went his way.

You don't have to. Do what you are both most comfortable with. I was thinking about writing our own, but FH was very uncomfortable with the idea. He struggles to write on Birthday cards, so it seems that we will be going the more traditional route.

Absolutely not required! I actually really prefer the traditional vows and FH is too private a person to be ok with writing his own.

It's all what you want to do.

We are not. I asked FH if he wanted to and he said no, and that was fine with me. Our officiant has a ton we can choose from.

We collected pieces from many sources online, including traditional vows, and made them our own. Neither of us felt comfortable making our vows to each other a "surprise" during the ceremony, so it was a collaborative effort to create something that felt true to us. We'll both be saying the same thing to each other, and we'll read it off notecards. I'm more creative, while FH is more technical, so he told me things he wanted to include, and I made them sound "vows-y." Lol. For us, it was a really special time to work together and decide on exactly what we're committing to when we get married.

We did traditional vows. Our Pastor gave us three choices, we picked one. We didn't want to stress out over it so it was better for us to just repeat.

One thing to consider if you are writing your own vows--you might want to look them over together and make sure you're on the same page. I've been to several weddings in the past year or so where the couples wrote their own vows and clearly had different visions for what the were doing--one being serious, mushy, sweet, and the other lighthearted, funny, and some semi-embarrassing stories. Not that either are right or wrong, but if you decide to write vows because you want to hear what your FH would say that would be mushy and sweet, be sure you're not surprised at the alter by something very different.

We said the traditional vows (to have and to hold, etc). To me it felt more real if I repeated something "official". If I had written my own I would have felt like I was just making things up, lol.

Before I found out that the Catholic church doesn't let you write your own vows, FH and I were

thinking about writing our own, but when I heard the exact vows that the Catholic church

uses (actually there is a small choice), I didn't want anything else. I think the vows are perfect.

In case anyone doesn't know what they are, here was our selection:

"I promise to be true to you in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. I will love

you and honor you all the days of my life".

FFW, I frequently ask the question and the brides and grooms answer, "I do." That's been popular with people who have stage fright, a stutter, or not comfortable with English.

Wildflower, I had a short-notice wedding where I did not get a chance to see the couple's vows. The groom went first with beautiful, sentimental vows he had written. When he was finished, I turned to the bride. She said, "Ditto." I asked the groom, "Are you going to let her get away with that?" He replied, "It's OK, that's our thing." I proceeded with the ring exchange and pronouncement!

Can anyone provide a sample script of the traditional vows that I can give to my officiant? Its a friend of mine that's doing the ceremony so I am kind of piecing everything together for him.