Alcohol at wedding

^^ we did exactly what @Jacks suggested. It was a wonderful celebration and many guests commented that ours was the "best wedding ever".

I'll add that we worked hard and paid for our own stuff and any assumption otherwise is rude and offensive.

MrsD17, congrats!!

Thanks @Jacks! We are over the moon and so proud of how everything turned out!

No. Beer, wine and at least 2 signature drinks if you can't swing the open bar

Why would anyone think 1 type of beer is ok?! And two isn't much better. There are several different varieties and people have preference for their favorites. An IPA and a stout are very different drinks. You wouldn't offer just Chardonnay at a party.

@Natalie .. I work hard for my own stuff and am paying for my own wedding. Not a single penny is being offered to me.

Your comment is extremely rude.

Not everyone hates cash bars. If beer and wine were my only options, I'd want to buy another drink.

No.

We would have been fine with no alcohol but we chose to pay for beer and wine in order to be able to have a cash bar for hard liquor.

Ah yes, we have the "everyone in my family is an alcoholic' excuse. And it only took three pages!!

Which is just that.

An excuse.

You need to host more than that.

Going to a wedding is never 'free' for the guests. There are clothes to buy, travel, baby/dog sitters, possibly time off from work and a gift.

Buying your guest a glass of wine or three is the least you can do. Who invites people to treat them badly?

And for the 'alcoholics" in the group? You don't REALLY think that a cash bar or a dry wedding will deter them do you?

No

You made me do it.

Cash Bars

Yep, there is plenty wrong with a dry wedding, it's just that no one will tell you to your face. And no, your guests who have spent hundreds to be at your wedding will NOT understand.

But yes, definitely put it on your invites (tongue firmly in cheek). Because everyone should know ahead of time how much you value your guests.

Top Ten Bogus Reasons People Use to Justify Dry Weddings and Cash Bars

11: (a bonus) My family is diabetic. Every one of them. We wave cake at them like vampire repellent because they have no idea how to control their own health.

10. None of my guests drink. Not one. I've polled all 120 of them and not one of them does

9. All of my guests drink too much; they will get sloppy, drunk and violent. It they are not throwing up into the crock pot weenies.

8. Kids will be in attendance. They might mistake Cosmos for Shirley Temples.

7. We're really really Christian, and our hyper Christianity requires us to not only not drink but to inflict our believe that this is HOLY by making our guests not drink. Because they should believe what we believe. Even though we can't explain it. Someone told us this and we think it's true.

6. We don't like the taste of alcohol. So no one else should either

5. We are not going to pay for other people to enjoy themselves

4. My grandparents don't drink and they won't come if anyone in the surrounding area does.

3. We have to hire bartenders, security, armed forces and the national guard to serve alcohol.

2. People can have fun without alcohol. If they really loved us, they'd come regardless

1. We're cheap.

Ahhh... I always love the alcoholism excuse. I need to write a standard response.

I am an alcoholic. My wedding has open bar. Try again?

Nope, and one type of beer is a horrible idea. Most people have different tastes in beer, one type will probably only make a few guests satisfied. Get an open bar

We just had wine and beer, plus sparkling wine for toasts at our wedding. The venue would not let us serve hard liquor. We made sure to have a good variety of beer and wine - not just one kind. Treat your guests right. BevMo has a 5 cent wine sale, that's what I used for purchasing all of my wine.

Some alcoholics or recovering alcoholics are uncomfortable around a large group of people drinking.

I love the excuse, "I don't want my guests to get out of hand"

I mean .. why not, though? With the exception of any type of fight that results in physical injury, I'm hoping for some drunk shenanigans at my wedding. I'd love to see my 65 year old newly divorced aunt getting shitfaced and telling everyone how much of a POS her ex husband is. It's a wedding, some of you think like this is the Royal Rumble. I've gone to many, many bars in my life, and their sole purpose of being in business is based on selling alcohol, and have rarely witnessed anything out of control. Stop with the excuses ..

@Tacko there is an option to decline a wedding invitation.

How is this still a question I don't get it.