Alcohol at wedding

We're providing beer champagne and wine for free

But due to certain guests lol any hard alcohol will need to be paid for themselves if they need it.

Ummm if the people getting married are the recovery alcoholics then how would they decline their own wedding?

@tacko they don't have to drink then.

I had an eating disorder a number of years ago, but I am still serving food at my wedding.

And no, not every guest wants to hear a drunk aunt's sad story about her ex. What a treat for those guest who don't give two craps. But she'll be too shitfaced to get the hint.

It just kills me that people think punishing the majority is OK because of the minority getting out of hand or unable to drink for other reasons.

Adults. will. act. reasonably. even. with. alcohol. involved. (and anyone that gets out of hand can be asked to leave/escorted out.)

@tacko I'm not going back and forth with you. I've seen a number of people entertain your nonsense a lot on these threads, but I won't. BLESSED DAY TO YOU!!

@future -_- food and alcohol are not the same. Nice try though.

Grace and peace dear.

Ah Tackolover. Maybe that's your family, but it's certainly not mine....nor, I suspect, most of those here.

@Everyone Still Posting Here Pretty sure OP abandoned this post long ago...There are pockets of good advice in this comment section hopefully they can see the err in their ways but I haven't seen OP update or repond to anyone.

Man. I'm cheap, my fiance and I don't drink, AND we're building a house after the wedding (that shit is expensive as fuck) and I'll be damned if my guests don't have free assorted beer, wine and some liquors at our reception.

Even though we could really use that money for the house, providing that for our guests is one of the things I'm most excited about for our wedding! Everyone who knows has shared their excitement as well.

I'm definitely one of "those people" here who don't lose their shit over heated topics like honeyfunds and the like, but I'm with WW on this one for sure (gasp). How could you not want this for your guests?

We did have some recovering alcoholics at our wedding. They drank the nonalcoholic beverages that we provided. I also attended a wedding where the bride was a recovering alcoholic. She still served alcohol at her wedding. Your guests are adults. Let them make their own choices.

@ceila there's a lot of "most" not on ww so what ww thinks is merely just that.

I love when people use just their social circles as facts for the entire nation.

I don't mind being the minority opinion on ww. Such is real life.

@celia Mine too! My family and guests would love it. So would my friends. We are a pretty wild bunch. Although, my aunt doesn't drink so it wouldn't happen. I was just using her as a reference. But it would make for funny memories.

I know quite a few recovering alcoholics, and I've talked to three of them (one sober for decades, one sober for about 12 years, and one sober for about three years), and asked about feeling the urge to drink at social events. The three I've spoken to have all been very open and very willing to share with me. At one point in our conversation, all three of them made the same point: (paraphrased/summarized) "If staying away from social events with alcohol were a requirement to maintain my sobriety, I couldn't go to a restaurant with my friends, let alone a wedding. I couldn't go to a Labor Day BBQ. That would be giving the bottle power over my life, and I am not letting that happen again.." They all said it in different ways, but they all said it. Actually, now that I'm thinking about it, the youngest of the three, the one who's been sober for three years, told me that the few times he relapsed had nothing to do with social events and alcohol. It was when he was alone and in his apartment. He drank alone; there was no party.

Because every recovering alcoholic feels and handles situations the same? Got it. Like I said limited views based on people's individual social circles.

Reason #1 always rules. You can argue all you want but it's always cheapness.

Who's arguing? Lol. No one.

No.

Cash bars are totally annoying. I don't always bring money to a wedding. Is it the end of the world? No. Is it frustrating if I want one cocktail I know I like? Ick. No. I'm one for breaking the norm, but not this way. This was an absolute must have for us. Alcohol is a huge part of our budget, even though I'm not a big drinker. All my guests are.

Best thread ever......although I stopped on like comment 25, thank you still for the entertainment.