Alcohol at wedding

I think it's fine. I've been to so many weddings that hosted a keg and then cash or just cash bar. Idk why everyone gets their panties in a bunch. Weddings are to celebrate the people getting married and be happy for them, whether you get free booze or not. Some of my friends got married and had to pay for a wedding when they didn't have much money. Not gonna crucify them for not supplying me with unlimited drinks. Also every bar I've been to takes cards, most people bring at least one of those with them. It's not cash only.

I would see if you could rent a kegster (think that's what they're called, the thing that holds kegs) and try to find a good deal on kegs to have the bar tender serve your guests. We are serving 2 different kinds a beer, one cider, and an array of wine. I've been to plenty of wedding where just beer and wine are included and have never seen anyone complain!

No to only one type of beer and no to drink tickets. If your venue only offers cash bar, then have them start a tab and bill you and your SO at the end of the night. I'm fine with just beer and wine, but offer a little variety.

Dang I paid attention to the wrong things at all the weddings I went to because I don't even remember if they were open or cash bars except for my BFFs the bar was open and so was I jkjkjk but I did meet my fiance at that wedding so that could be why I remember.

Tackolover, if you're all about empirical evidence, provide some. It's okay for you to say "some alcoholics and recovering alcoholics, etc., etc., etc." but when anyone else writes ome "some alcoholics..." you dismiss those posts because they're based on personal interchanges.

You don't work in the wedding industry, and if you do, please say so. You have little to no real life experience when it comes to weddings and alcohol. The truth remains, cash bars do not make for happy guests. I wish someone would do a study of what I, as a pro, hear at dry or cash bar weddings -- but that hasn't happened. Please, knock yourself out...find one secular study, one experiment, or one test that says otherwise. (and you can skip every poll that says guests would rather be able to buy a drink than not be able to buy a drink. We can all assume that anyone having no other option than to purchase a drink would have certainly preferred a hosted drink).

Holy shit. Cash bar and potluck posts all in one night?!

Contrary to what you've heard, your wedding is not a club or a lounge, so no guest should have to pay a dime to have anything to drink. Beer and wine is absolutely fine. A specialty cocktail is also nice if you can swing it but if not beer/wine will do.

I went to a cash bar wedding and even though I was told ahead of time I had no idea how expensive the drinks were going to be. I spent around $50 for myself and FH for our drinks. So annoying so please spare your guests and host them properly.

To be fair, some people you literally can't help to not invite them. I have one that if she's invited she will drink and every time is out of control. But she would be incredibly hurt if she was not invited and would never talk to the family again.

No. Please don't have your guests open their wallets. Just pay for Beer/Wine and leave it be.

If I offer appetizers and then a cash buffet, is that okay?

If I offer a pair of PJs but a cash bed to sleep in is that okay?

If I offer a bowl and spoon but cash ice cream is that okay?

I think it would be okay!

Out of all this I'm hung up on Melissa saying that not only do her guest have to buy their alcohol but they have to buy their soft drinks too. Yuck! I would probably attend the ceremony and bounce and maybe not even that depending on how close I am to the couple.

Your guest shouldn't have to pay for anything ( food, soft drinks, alcohol) and if they do then it's poor hosting on your part. The reason no one ever knows that they did something distasteful is because no one will tell them to their face but you bet old Aunt Gertrude will be telling Aunt Penny that your wedding sucked.

I went to a wedding once where it was cash bar. Everyone had a fantastic time. The only food that was offered was donuts. No one even seemed to care and stayed for hours. I guess it depends on who you know to answer this question.

Malary, this is for you because it really comes down to your opinion.