Alcohol at wedding

Ask the venue to run a tab and then you pick it up at the end. Don't make people pay for drinks.

No tickets...no cash bar. Offer an open bar with at a minimum beer and wine free for those attending. Don't limit them to a drink or two. You wouldn't invite people to your house and have them pay for drinks or be limited to just one if they had a ticket in hand. I

No drink tickets. Offer free beer and wine the whole night for a more affordable options.

Offer beer and wine all night to guests if you can't swing the open bar.

It is ultimately YOUR choice, you know what you can and cannot afford. I would recommend making your guests aware beforehand that the beer is free but the rest is cash bar. It's all opinionated, what one person thinks is not ok is ok to others.

@SuperStulke ummm nope, it's not opinion, it's etiquette. Also, treating your guests at a party is just kind of standard? You love these people, yes? So take care of them.

I don't know about the cheap beer and wine thing either. I had reservations about hosting a premium open bar...I really wanted top shelf (which is what I booked). Granted I come from an Irish family but I couldn't bear the thought of someone asking for a top shelf liquor and being told it wasn't included.

I understand this may sound pretentious but I do feel somewhat obligated to my guests, most of whom are traveling quite a ways to spend the day with us.

ETA: this may be very cultural/regional too. Being NY, Irish and a slightly older couple may present different opinions than other areas of the country which is completely understandable.

They probably mean they don't offer open bar packages which not every venue does.

They open the tab, your guests drink free, and you pay the cost at the end of the night.

It's bad hosting to no offer drinks but it' even worse to ask people to pay for their drinks.

No, offer open bar people will be very upset otherwise

There is no absolute etiquette rule that you shouldn't have a cash bar. If someone can afford an open bar good for them, if they cant that is their call. If all they can afford is to have free beer and wine, and the rest cash bar that is their decision. Etiquette is a conventional but unwritten code of practice among members of a certain groups or professions.

No cash bar, and no to the ticket as well.

I went to a wedding earlier this summer that was a cash bar. The wedding started around 4PM - 90% of guests left around 7PM and the only people that were left at the end of the night were the wedding party, their SOs, and a few random people that quite obviously got tanked before arriving.

No cash bar, no drink tickets.

No, all of this is awful. ONE kind of beer? You have to offer choice, and no type of cash bar ever

Do whatever you want...it is your wedding. I, personally, will have a good number of children at the reception so I'm only doing champagne and a cash bar.

No.

All weddings ive been to are open bar. I wouldn't appreciate only having 1 beer choice and paying for my own drinks.

I would expand your offerings, like at least include well drinks and wine. Then if they want to pay for other things that's fine. We're throwing a certain amount at the bar and then after that people can start paying for the drinks. These days people expect to by a couple cocktails, I don't know who can afford an open bar!

NOPE. At the minimum beer and wine (two types of beer and at minimum one red and one white). That is also the bare minimum for a properly hosted event.

Honestly, it's up to you! If you don't wanna do that that is your choice. Honestly, no one will be offended if they have to buy their own drinks. Cash bars are so common nowadays people know that if they wanna drink they bring money with them. A wedding is about enjoying your night with you SO and your friends and family honestly no one is going to remember whether you had a cash bar or open bar at your wedding. Year down the rode they wont even remember what they ate that night. Its completely up to you

Paying X amounta plate for these guests to attend your wedding isn't enough? lol If your friends and family talk shit about you not having an open bar then why are they your friends/ family anyway. that's ridiculous.