Rehearsal dinner. Do you invite anyone else besides your bridal party?
I was looking on previous posts and I started thinking, what happens when your flower girl has a brother, mother and father that are coming with her from another state. Do you take the flower girl and bring her back at the end of the dinner? Or do you take the entire family to the rehearsal dinner? I'm a bit concerned because my mom told me that when this girl was the flower girl for one of her friends cousin, the father called my mom (who wasn't in the bridal party) and told her to go with them that they were all hanging out at the dinner. My mom said, no way I'm not invited, to what he answered, it doesn't matter you know how it is, we all drop there anyway...

Stoned Koala
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Posted On: Jan 1, 2012 at 8:52 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Jan 01, 2012 at 9:02 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It's basically up to you. Typically, it's the bridal party, close family, people helping in the wedding (readers, singers, etc) and their guests. We have also decided to invite our out of state guests. But, we are doing a dressed down my mom's house, catered by Portillo's. If your rehearsal is more pricy, you may want to keep it small.

As for the flower girl, I would assume her parents would be invited as well. =)

Married: 05/04/2012
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Jan 01, 2012 at 9:04 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Anyone and everyone is invited to mine, but we are having a destination wedding and our rehearsal dinner is just a backyard BBQ at the house I am renting.. everyone's situation is different, but I would say probably invite her parents so you don't have to be in charge of her

Married: 03/25/2012
Jan 01, 2012 at 9:08 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
we are invite the parents but I dont think they will make. I am not to worried because we have very young kids bout 3-5 so they dont really know and understand what its all about and we are just doing a lunch on friday so
Jan 01, 2012 at 9:21 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I've seen rehearsal dinners get much, much more elaborate, but I also see more and more couples who don't even have a real rehearsal, but a get together with out of town guests.

I'm a big fan of very informal rehearsal dinners (translated; not very expensive). If it was me, I wouldn't even have the FG at the rehearsal if this is the level of respect her parents have for your plans. The day of the wedding, the coordinator or whoever, is going to point her down the aisle to throw petals. She doesn't need to rehearse.

Stoned Koala
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Jan 01, 2012 at 9:25 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I absolutely love portillo's!!

We are planning on a nice restaurant dinner. I'm more concerned with the father since we do have a lot of my mom's friends coming from MN and most of them are not in the bridal party but they are friends of the father of the flower girl. I imagine if he invited my mom and who knows who else to another person's rehearsal dinner, he might invite all the MN guests to mine.

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Jan 02, 2012 at 1:05 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
In addition to the wedding party, we had our parents, the parents of the children in the wedding party and spouses/fiances of people in the wedding party.

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Jan 02, 2012 at 1:18 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Im the same as dragonfly726

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Jan 02, 2012 at 1:53 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
We had our parents, my grandparents (his couldnt make it) Our bridal party and their spouses, my aunts/uncles/cousins (all the ones we are close too) and the few family members that flew in. About 30 ppl total. But we had it at a very casual Cajun style restaurant that we all liked.

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Jan 02, 2012 at 1:53 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Im glad you asked this question I was wondering the same thing. I was planning on inviting the normal immediate family and bridal party, but wondered whether I should invite more.

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Jan 02, 2012 at 1:56 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
personally i would invite the family of the fg; i'm sure you are inviting them to the wedding and i think it would be a little off putting if you told them that their child can come to the dinner but they can't.

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Jan 02, 2012 at 2:08 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'll be inviting close family (grandparents, parents and siblings), bridal party and probably my photographer.. You might invite the parents if you want the flower girl to attend the rehearsal dinner, but you don't have to invite everyone and their uncle.

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Jan 02, 2012 at 9:27 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
"We'll all drop there anyway" is really disrespectful.

We had a pretty casual RD but had our immediate family and OOT guests who were here at the time of RD. I've heard a lot of opinions about it on here, but I wasn't going to leave my friend who flew from Japan to be here for our wedding out of it. I do think RD is rather flexible in terms of who you invite though.

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Jan 02, 2012 at 9:56 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
@Jennifer - I'm totally coming to your rehearsal dinner if it's catered by Portillo's. ;)

Our rehearsal lunch (had to do it early b/c of the venue's availability) was pretty informal - we invited WP spouse (no kids), readers, guestbook gal 1, and immediate family incl. grandparents. DH's mom invited her sister, but since DH's mom paid for it, she was allowed to invite whomever she wanted. Our flower girl was our best man's daughter, so we just invited the 2 of them his wife. If they weren't related, we'd have invited the flower girl her parents.

If you're concerned that the FG's dad will invite a ton of extra people, have a talk with him beforehand and let him know that you're handling invitations. You've invited who you did for a reason, and it's not his place to invite others. If he wants to invite people, he needs to throw his own party. :)

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Jan 02, 2012 at 11:29 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'd say
Bridal party, immdiate family, and possibly OOT guests and for any children, bring at least their mom or dad or both...

I have a Bridesmaid that is 16, will be 17 by the wedding, and she dosne't have a car, so I'm gonna invite her mom, my aunt but that's it. Her brothers and her mom's LONG_TERM live in bF can stay home.

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Jan 02, 2012 at 1:31 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
@Ashley - Come on up! I'll mark you down for 2 seats! =)

Stoned Koala
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Jan 02, 2012 at 3:56 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
@Jakita, I'm not concerned about inviting her parents and her brother. My concern is them showing up with more people than I expect. Last time we were invited to a xmas party and they invited another couple who brought 3 kids with girlfriends and an extra friend. It makes you wonder how many can they round up to show up at the RD.

Another thing is, do you send invitations for the RD or just word of mouth? I was planning on getting separate invitations for the RD like a smaller invitation and not so formal as the wedding ones.

Edited On: Jan 02, 2012 at 4:00 PM

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Jan 02, 2012 at 8:07 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We had left over envelopes from my bridal shower invites, so I just designed some invites on MS Word to fit in those envelopes and printed them on cardstock. We wanted to send out invites vs word of mouth, in order to be extra clear about who was invited. We couldn't afford for every aunt/uncle/cousin in town to attend, even if some of the cousins who were recently married made it a kind of free for all for the family.

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Jan 02, 2012 at 8:26 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
If you an afford to accommodate extra guests, then it's a nice thing to do, but you shouldn't feel obligated. It's not a free for all! lol

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Apr 03, 2013 at 11:06 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
I just started my list and I'm to 38 WOW! We are having a casual backyard event with lite fair and signature cocktail. After reading comments, it will be a lot less. Parents, Bridal Party, Close Relatives and Photog. Period lol
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