Mother of the Bride..deceased.

Set up a small memory table in her honor

My cousin lost her father a few years back and when she got married last fall she held pinned a locket onto her bouquet with her father's pic in it, sorta to symbolize walking her down the aisle. And at the rehearsal dinner her fiance made a nice toast saying how he was thankful to her father for raising a wonderful daughter and lead a moment of silence. It was very touching but didn't overshadow the overall joy. They also did have a memory table with his picture and a candle. I'm sorry for your loss, it must be tough.

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My officiant actually has an "in memory of" section that he can include in wedding vows to take the time to remember loved ones who couldn't be there. Maybe your's could do something similar?

I lost my mom too several years ago. I wanted to find a way to feel like she was included. I couldnt imagine getting married without honoring her. She raised me to be the woman I am today. I set up a small memory table. It had a picture of me with her as a child and her bible that had her name on it. I also had a plaque of the serenity prayer on the table. Her name was Lillie so I made sure my flowers were lillies. Alot of small things. It was beautiful.

I am sorry for your loss. I hope you find a way to incorporate your mom that is suitable for you. My name is Angela btw. Welcome to the boards. :-)

Thanks for the warm responses guys I know it's not a subject we look forward to when we think about our big wedding days; but it's just SO important to me i think I will DEFINITELY have a small memory table to include her on my big day as well as asking my pastor to include a "in memory of" section. my fiance lost his father a while back as well.. so maybe we can combine a table for our lost loved ones? thanks ladies

We "saved a seat" for her in the front row with a single rose in a bud vase. The vase had butterflies on it, her favorite. and then the vase sat with us at the head table. Now the vase is on display in the living room.

My mom passed away five years ago, and we're doing a few things to honor her. We'll have a memory table with her picture, her favorite type of candle, and a message from me. During the ceremony we'll have a seat reserved in her memory. We're doing a "roses for our families" ceremony, and we're each giving roses to our parents. I'll give one to my dad, and I'll leave the other on her empty seat. I'm really going to miss her, and I'm happy I'll have a few ways to honor her that day.

My father passed away when i was 13 - i am really loving these ideas. i think i will do the seat saving with a rose and the locket pinned to my bouquet. i LOVE that idea.

Okay... so this tread has me bawling at work. I too lost my mom 8 years ago next month. Im so glad you posted this thread Meagan and I am right there with you with it being important to honor her on one of the most important days of your life. I am thinking about having a table set up for my mom and an "In Memory Of" candle as well as a few pictures of her and us.

This are GREAT ideas. I think I'm going to use each and every one of them. Really. Thank you ladies for offering such special and unique ways. I love this.

My mom passed away four years ago right before I turned 18. She loved rocking horses so I found a blue and silver rocking horse charm to but on my flowers.

My mom passed away four years ago right before I turned 18. She loved rocking horses so I found a blue and silver rocking horse charm to but on my flowers.

That's beautiful Marti.

My dad passed away 2 years ago. I did a brief memorial during the beginning of the ceremony for him and other loved ones who couldn't be with us that day, and then at the reception I had a photo of him and I at the engagement party framed and with a boutonierre next to it on at table off to the side of the dais. (My mom made the bears for my DS and I, and I decorated the birdcage for the cards).

:Hugs to you girls!: my mom passed away when I was 9..I plan on honoring her too, not sure what yet, like was mentioned above a chair with a certain flower..also I think at the reception at least one picture of her with a memory candle..someone once posted, sorry i can't remember a really pretty idea like they spray painted a branch in a lil pot thing and had beads on it and lil hanging photos..i'll try to find it later tonight, it was much prettier than i can describe!

My best friend/ MOH honored her mom at her wedding last year by having a replica of her mom's bouquet carried down the aisle by her mom's MOH and set on a seat in the front pew (did that at the same time that the MOB would normally be seated during the procession). That was pretty much AWESOME.

She also did a memory table- but the bouquet was nice as something to differentiate her from other loved ones who'd passed away.

My FI mother passed away too. we are incorporating her in a couple of ways:

-some personal words in the program

-we are using something from his parents' wedding in our ceremony and also calling it out in the program

-mentioning her in our speech

she will not be forgotten...

My dad and best friend passed within a month of eachother in07. I plan on having ssome pictures and maybe personalized andles

My dad and best friend passed within a month of eachother in07. I plan on having ssome pictures and maybe personalized candels. And I think I want pictures of them in my bouquet.

Where do you find charms for the bouquet? I want to have pictures of my dad and my fiances dad as well. We are hurting that they cannot be there with us. I have always dreamed of having my dad walk me down the aisle...unfortunately he won't so my godfather will. My mom wanted to walk me down, but I asked if we could do a mother/daughter dance instead.