How did your close friends react when you got engaged? Jealous? Happy?

For the most part - I got "OMG CONGRATULATIONS!!!" but I did recieve one response that was kinda a slap to the face. "Engaged.. oh ... wow... to be honest I was kinda hoping you'd dump him so I would get a chance to date him." Uh - yeah. This coming from a girl who met FH once aaaand thats when my friendship with her ended.

FH got a response "Great now you'll be as miserable as I am - I hope you know what you got yourself into." This coming from a guy whose Fiancee is beyond B*tch status. Because all girls are just like her. Thanks dude!

Lol I have a bm that went to a bridal show with me and instead of assisting me with my wedding she made it about her and told all of the vendors, in great detail, about her divorce, how terrible her ex-husband was , blah blah blah, I couldn't get a word in edge wise to discuss my wedding. Afterwards she commented that I was a sourpuss the whole time and that it was no wonder I didn't like any of the vendors since I barely said anything and looked bored the whole time. With that said I love her, her divorce was very fresh at the time and I still happy she's a bm.

So back to your story, I'm not sure that this is any reflection on your friendship. They probably are a little jealous, they probably are anxious about grief from their mother. It doesn't mean they aren't happy for you and that they aren't excited about your wedding. It does mean they feel comfortable sharing their feelings with you and it sounds like they want a man as good as yours to marry too =).

You stated in another post that you are the first among your friends to get engaged, right? I think it is inevitable that there will be some jealousy from your friends in this situation. It certainly doesn't mean they aren't happy for you, though! I mean, if some one you knew won the Lottery for $100 million dollars, you would certainly be happy for them, while at the same time just a bit envious!

This is a happy time for you and your FH. Enjoy it. Take the happy thoughts from your friends, and try to be a little understanding of their feelings. I'm sure they don't mean to upset you or bring you down.

I'm sorry your friends are acting like that. My friends on the other hand for the most part cut me out, when I got engaged. And they r all married. It hurts but the true friends will be there.

Wow! All those stories sound bad... All of my friends were sooo excited and happy for me! Still are (especially since they found out I booked my venue this past weekend)... Except one person.. My cousin! She just admitted to me about 2 weeks ago that she's really jealous and has always wanted to get married and blah blah blah! Making me feel bad about what I have! I told her I put 4 long hard years into this relantionship, and her response "i've wanted to get married my whole life, i've cared more about that then working or my degrees" I thought she sounded kind of pathetic honestly! And as much as when I was younger always said she would be a BM in my wedding... She will no longer be..

And Future Mrs Mak - your FH is correct! This will make you realize who your true friends are. Someone told me, someone that is that jealous is not genuinely happy for you! And that is why my cousin will not be in my wedding!

And, just like Sami said, they are still happy for you and probably are a little jealous! I was a little jealous when my sister got married before me and she's younger. But, in my situation my cousin just made me feel horrible about it. Told me she was sick of hearing about my fiance and me loosing weight and trying to get a bette job! That's what drew the line for me! Don't let them bring you down though, everything will be good in the long run!

Right after I got engaged, my sister and good friend rushed and got engaged (AND married). My sister insisted that everything be about her and I had to rearrange my date to ensure she got married first and we didn't get married too close to her date. She and my good friend refused to talk about anything but their weddings. I let it go with the both of them, but I can see my sister getting jealous now that I am having the well planned wedding she always wanted.

All of my friends were so happy! Some of them expressed that they wised they were engaged too, but I only took that as more of a compliment. To be honest, I probably was the jealous friend before. I tried so hard not to be, but when my best friend got married, after dating her boyfriend for significantly less time that FH and I were dating, it invariably came out. I was still beyond thrilled for her and totally supportive, but yeah. It's easy to be jealous of someone who has what you want SO BAD.

WOW! Interesting! I thought I was alone!! @ Kimi, that is so horrible! What kind of friend was that? I'm shocked taht she even said that to your face! lol

@ Sami, thank you, that is reassuring. I'm glad that they could be honest about their feelings, but geez, isn't it too soon? They could have waited the next day, at least!

@ Michele S, Yes you're right, I am the first to get married. I'm sure that explains why they are all jealous and etc..., but dang! I'm already getting tired of the "I'm SO jealous" comments! It's like "okay, I get it already!"

SO my question to you all is: Will it ever stop? Or will it get worst?

My best friend of 12 years told me that she didn't even want to be there the night my FH proposed because she was jealous that her bf of 7 years hadn't proposed to her......she ended up ignoring me the last two months I lived in TX, and I had to drop her as a BM because she still hadn't talked to me after I moved to CO.....still haven't heard a single word from her.

Obviously our friendship never meant that much to her.

My friends were all very happy for us, a couple of them even cried when I told them. I would like to think your friends were kidding huh? but I suppose you would have liked a HAPPIER approach. But even if they are jealous, just say "I know, I'm lucky!"- that'll throw 'em off

Wow, Kathryn, your best friend of 12 years??? Was she that jealous that you still haven't heard from her since....?!? SMH.

My friends were exstatic for me. His friends on the otherhand...a few of them asked him if he was really sure about asking me. The reason being that we had only met and been seeing one another for 11 months, and they were I suppose just being the over protective friends that only wanted the best for him. I love all of his friends, and can understand a bit where they were on their opinions. After he told them tha "this was the easiest and best decision he has ever made in his life", then his friends were 100% supportive.

Yeah, she was the first person I met when I moved to TX...and the night my FH proposed (she had a promise ring from her bf) she proceeded to make the night about her, and tell her bf she didnt want to be with him because he hadn't proposed yet, and took her ring off and threw it on the ground and what not....anyways...she is a stuck up snot, and after she told me she hadn't even wanted to be there I wrote her an email and told her I was upset with her because of the way she acted, and that I was upset that she never attempted to hang out anymore (we lived 5 min away from each other) and she ignored my calls and texts and always said she was busy....and after that I never heard anything from her, and like I said its been almost 5 months since I lived in TX and I have not once heard from her.

I decided that even if she called to apologize, or make an effort, its not worth having someone like that in your life...she showed her true colors.

Awww I'm sorry Mrs. Mak. I hope it will get better for you as everyone gets "used to the idea." My friends are mainly single but they were great. FH bought the ring while I was out of town on a work trip and couldn't keep it to himself and told everyone. But they all kept it a secret and many were present when he actually proposed 2 months later. My friends have all been really great. My family on the other hand (specifically my mom) not so much....I guess we all take what we can get and be as happy as possible!!!!

Screamed with gleeeee, I am 40 after all =)

@ kim k. WOW!

@ Kathryn, wow you really don't need someone like that in your life, how very childish of her =(

So I'm the girl that didn't get propose to as quick as she'd like. A few years ago, 2 couples that we know and love got married a week apart. FH and I were in one of the weddings. As the girl on the outside that hadn't gotten proposed to yet, let me tell you that was a tough lump to swallow. I was happy for my friends but I was still jealous that they were getting married and I wasn't. I didn't love them any less and I didn't want to diminish their happiness at all but I still stated the fact that my bf sucked =), FH got a lot of sh** those two weekends. However, knowing how I felt on the outside gives me a different perspective on peoples commentary about my wedding.

You'll find that some of your ladies want to talk of nothing but your wedding and others have no idea how much goes into wedding planning and have no interest in finding out. But don't think that it has to be the end of your friendships. This is just one step in your life =).

My family has been greaat tooo!!!!! @ Kathryn, yea you're right, it's not even worth having someone like her around. I'm sure one day she will come back and apologize. you can forgive her, but you've already seen her true colors, so no point of being friends with someone who is that selfish!

I got alot of people taht were really happy for me but before my FH and I got engaged i did have a bm tell me if we got engaged before her and her boyfriend( who had been dating longer than us) that she would puke. But when i told her i said well I better get you a bucket so you can puke cause were engaged!

The same girls boyfriend said to my fh - dude do oyu know what you just did to me? now my girlfriend will want to get engaged! but im happy for you man.

I just love how guys interact with eachother. Other than those two people everytone was excited!