Catholic Question- Tip/Gift for priest?
The priest that will be marrying us is a family friend that I have known since I was born and has married my sister and all my cousins, but the church we are getting married at is not his parish so I am not sure if he will be getting any of the $ that we donated for the wedding? So my question is what should I give him as a gift/tip? What is appropriate? Should I give him some cash or a gift card to a restaurant? I have no clue.. My grandparents own a Catholic religious supply store and maybe I can give him a nice statue or something but I don't know if that is something he would have tons of already?

Married: 11/06/2010
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Posted On: Jul 19, 2010 at 4:24 PM • Vendors are allowed • Add to My WatchlistFlag As Inappropriate1 like

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Meghan
Married: 08/20/2011
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Jul 19, 2010 at 4:39 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
What about making a smal contribution to his parrish? Any sort of gift is appreciated, so I'd do something small.

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Jul 19, 2010 at 4:53 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I was wondering the same thing since were having a Catholic Wedding also, I was thinking about giving him a gift card to his favorite restaurant or giving back to my parish or giving him a case of my father's home made beer. Its hard and I have been wondering the same thing. Hope this helps!

Greyash
Married: 03/12/2011
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Jul 19, 2010 at 4:59 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I'd agree with Meghan, giving a contribution to his church would be nice, then maybe a small gift card to starbucks or something

Married: 11/06/2010
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Jul 19, 2010 at 5:43 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Thanks ladies, I just called my sister and she said that she gave him an actual cash tip when they got married and I think I will just do the same!:) Who doesn't like money? Plus its one less thing to worry about now! Thanks for the opinions!

sarah
Married: 08/28/2010
Jul 19, 2010 at 6:05 PM • 
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ncbride
Married: 02/19/2011
Jul 19, 2010 at 6:30 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I was thinking of giving the priest/parish a donation of $150...
Question...do you have to invite the priest to your reception? I don't really even know him that well ... although he is the priest of FH's church

Married: 04/10/2010
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Jul 19, 2010 at 6:38 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
sarah, I think your parish asks for too much, we did give our deacon a tip for all the time he spent with us and invited him to our reception as well.

Married: 11/06/2010
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Jul 19, 2010 at 8:29 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I will invite our priest to the reception since he is a family friend and we just all around love him! But I think it is nice o extend the offer, although many priests have lots of commitments and obligations to tend to on Saturdays and will probably turn down the invite:)

Married: 09/04/2010
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Jul 19, 2010 at 9:38 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
That's a great question! I'm not sure. My parish of record only allows donations to the parish. I'm being married at a diffrent parish (mom's parish), so I'm not sure. I'm meeting with the parish priest weekend after next. Want me to ask him?

Married: 11/06/2010
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Jul 19, 2010 at 11:26 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Sure I think that would be great to have a priest's perspective if a cash gift is appropriate:) thanks!

Married: 10/23/2010
Oct 21, 2010 at 11:23 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Working in a Catholic school and having many priest friends, I can tell you that they appreciate you giving "them" the money. They are on a tight and fixed income, which is very little.

The money they get from baptisms and weddings helps them live a little. While it's nice to make a donation to the Church, which is something we are doing, it is also good to give the priest a little something as well. Since I am good friends with the priest marrying me, I am giving him $200 along with paying for his hotel room for two nights, since he is coming from out of town.

People get so wound up in all the other costs, they forget the true meaning of the wedding, which is the ceremony. And if any money were to be spent, it should be on the imporant part.

Good luck and congrats to those of you getting married!

Married: 11/06/2010
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Oct 22, 2010 at 12:46 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
Nicole- thanks yeah we already gave the priest $200 and a nice thank you card, and don't worry I think most brides and grooms that go through the process of getting married in the Catholic Church are very much aware of the importance of it all.

Married: 07/06/2013
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Jun 24, 2013 at 10:40 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
My question is...WHEN do you actually give the gift to him? Right after the ceremony? At the rehearsal? What have others done?

Married: 11/06/2010
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Jun 24, 2013 at 4:25 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Katie O.- we just gave him the envelope (with the $200 and a thank you not) the last time we saw him BEFORE the wedding, which was 2 weeks before the wedding date. It wasn't as if it was a "tip" that should be given on the day of.
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