Bridal Shower and bachelorette Party...Do I have both?
I'm not sure how this all works. My FH and I are doing the bachelorette and Bachelore party together but do I still have a bridal shower? I would feel bad if they were to buy me a gift for the bridal shower and the wedding or is that custom?

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Married: 11/12/2011
Nov 07, 2011 at 11:52 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I did a Bachlorette party and a wedding shower.. The Bachlorette party doubled as my bridal shower and the wedding shower was just a good time, good food and good family/friends that gave registered for gifts

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Nov 08, 2011 at 12:35 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
My nana through me a surprise shower and my MOH (sister) is planing on having a bachlorette party for me but there are going to be no gifts at the bachlorette just a night out

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Nov 08, 2011 at 1:03 AM • Flag As Inappropriate
That is customary. You have the shower like 3-4 weeks pre-wedding, those gifts are more for you, like a mixer or other more feminine things. Then the bach whenever of course. We did ours together too.

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Nov 08, 2011 at 1:11 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
My wedding was suppose to be this month but we moved it til next Nov. I just wish my MOH would talk to me about the wedding let alone the bridal shower.

What type of event do you have for both?

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Nov 08, 2011 at 1:48 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We are having a bachelor/bachelorette respectively, then a couple shower together. :)

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Nov 08, 2011 at 1:51 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I did both!

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Nov 08, 2011 at 1:52 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
My MOH is throwing a shower for me when we get closer to about a month out. The girls are planning a bachelorette party for me and FH's groomsmen are planning his bachelor party. From my experience, it's pretty customary but you definitely shouldn't be throwing them for yourself. As I recall, etiquette says these types of parties are thrown by other people (however, I still offered to help cover some of the expenses for my MOH because she's a single mom and could use the help but I've heard all of the BM's are chipping in).

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Nov 08, 2011 at 1:55 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Heck ya you have them! For the shower both men and women came, including FH. For my bachelorette party my FH did not come, but other men came anyways...I think it was good to have my own big night and he can have his before the wedding.

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Nov 08, 2011 at 1:59 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We did/are doing both! We're going out for my bach party, and my circle of friends typically doesn't do gifts for bachelor(ette) parties. Every now and then a girl or two will get a little something for the bride (like sexy dice, or something inexpensive but fun), but that's the exception for us.

FH's bach party is all weekend this weekend - they're camping out near the lake, and I can guarantee you those guys won't give him gifts. Except maybe a box of condoms as a joke. ;)

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Nov 08, 2011 at 2:03 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Hey Kayla! You can have both events and its pretty common. The Bridal shower your friends family grandmothers etc. will get you gifts for "you" and lingerie for you to wear for FH :-). Its just like a baby shower except no baby stuff.

For the bachelorette party .....people typically dont buy you a gift, its just an awesome EPIC ladies night out.

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Nov 08, 2011 at 2:03 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
My mom and FMIL are planning a bridal shower for me and then my MOH is planning a bachelorette party with our friends.

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Nov 08, 2011 at 2:08 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It's traditional to have both.
My bridal shower is about 6 weeks before, due to Christmas/New Years..

Bachelorette/Bachelor party is a week or two prior.. Maid of Honor typically handles arranging both events, and you are not supposed to pay for anything.

Some people do one last night of partying hard before wedding.. I personally am having a nice lunch and painting party. I've also seen spa days, beach days(if you are close to one).. etc..

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Nov 08, 2011 at 2:09 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
We are doing both. I had my shower two weeks ago and the bachelorette party is just my girl friends for a girls night out. It is great to have a shower for family to get to know each other. The bachelorette is just one big party.

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Nov 08, 2011 at 2:11 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Of course you can have both.

I will do the wedding shower to share with family and friends, kids whoever wants to come, i am not sure about the bachelorette party since my friends are thinking of taking me to vegas

Married: 08/11/2012
Nov 08, 2011 at 2:40 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Of course you can have both. Some people have both on the same day. I think I might do this as my MOH and BM will both be travelling from 3-5 hours away, as well as some other family and friends.
As some one mentioned before the shower is usually with female friends and family members, though can include some men. You receive items off your registry, household goods and sometimes lingerie.
The bachelorette party is usually people more your age. It can be whatever you want. Some ladies go out clubbing, to Vegas, cruises, comedy clubs, sex toy parties, etc.
Usually the MOH and Bridesmaids organize both, but sometimes other family members or friends might, especially the shower.
Just some info for you, hope it helps.

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Nov 08, 2011 at 3:12 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
It's customary to have both. I won't have a bridal shower but just because we're moving to another state after we get married.

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Nov 08, 2011 at 3:16 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
Well I live in Vegas so theres the bachelor/bachelorette setting. Since it's custom to have the MOH and BM plan the events I doubt I will get a party at all. I have four girls and the two that live in Vegas aren't very interested in being in the bridal party it seems. My mom on the other hand wants to plan the bachelor/bachelorette party

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Nov 08, 2011 at 3:17 PM • Flag As Inappropriate
I had both! But my shower was a complete surprise and only attended by females. My girls threw my shower in June and I married in Sept. A little early but one of my BM had to travel and was 7 months prego and my bach party was in April (way early) again for the same reason. But I will say it was nice to have the shower out of the way along with the thank you cards so I could focus on the wedding the last few months.
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