Asking the Guests to wear Black

You can't tell adults what to wear. In theory it would neat. But not logically

Same as along to dress according to theme. I have not requested it but most of my guests are matching my colors.

You don't tell guests what to wear, theme or otherwise.

The only exception I would see to this, how you MIGHT be able to say it's okay, is if you're having a black tie wedding (think George Clooney status) and even then people could wear whatever color gowns.

Yeah it would be great to coordinate but you shouldnt tell guests what to wear. The way i see it a wedding is not a show, not everythings needs to be matching

Not only that but you can be sure at least one person wouldnt follow the request and it would just look silly seeing a herd of black and one person in a bright colour, and you in white lol

My older relative would just about die if I asked them to wear black, and although I wouldn't do this either, it would make for some awesome pics!

Your guests are people. Not photo props. That's how I would see that

I would start to wonder if I was actually attending a funeral and not a wedding.

I wouldn't do it lol. I would be put off by someone telling me what color I need to wear, whether I have the color in my closet or not.

Yeah I agree with you all, I was surprised she offered that suggestion to me and that she had actually done it and it was successful.

Great thought but I don't think that's going to be that successful. Can't really tell adults what to wear unless they're in the BP. My grandmother was also turned off by my black and white theme. I told her that it's classic, timeless and elegant. She understands now that she sees the vision coming together. I wouldn't worry about it too much.

I think your venue needs a new coordinator! The BEST pictures are people being themselves and not dressed as props. I think it is a horrid idea and am glad you didn't buy into her tackiness.

I wouldn't have an issue with it because I LOVE wearing black but I agree you can't tell adults what to wear.

Honestly, do it. I went to a wedding like this and NO ONE thought it was rude. There were nearly 500 people there, all in mainly black. It was stubning for their winter wedding. For years people have stated the style of dress for a wedding (black tie, semi formal etc) and that was never an issue. The people you are inviting to your wedding are your friends and family and they love you so they won't have a problem with it. And it's not like you're asking them to do anything crazy, everyone has black in their wardrobe and if they don't they should and this would be an excuse for them to get something!

I personally wouldn't want a whole bunch of people at my wedding wearing black. But if I was a guest and I got that request it wouldn't be a big deal. I don't see a difference between that and a all white party. I haven't been to a wedding like that but I have been to clubs and parties that request you wear a certain color or style of clothes.

And as always you know how I feel about the magical unicorn box that people can use if they don't like the idea or have a problem with it. ___ Can not attend.

I guess I don't understand how these types of things have any bearing on the celebration of two people coming together as husband and wife, wife and wife or husband and husband.

One of my brides asked everyone to wear white to her beach wedding (including the groom). Most wore white, some ivory, some tan. She wore a ballgown that looked like a sunset (orange, yellow, hot pink) -- made for beautiful pics.

@Miss to Mrs LMAO that's kind of funny. Don't bring your bad ass kids but please feel free to wear whatever color you want. I wouldn't want to offend you lol

Ugh; I can't believe she suggested this. Guests are not props.

I think it would be stunning visually, but I can't imagine being told what color I need to wear. We are having our bridal party wear black so we stand out more, but that's it.