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Master June 2010

You should be privileged to be in MYwedding party!

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Sharon, on October 4, 2010 at 1:00 PM

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So after watching numerous wedding shows. This seems to be a theme that pops up regularly. I was just wondering if any bride truly believes this? This is not against any bride or thread on here, it was a discussion Rick and I had while watching a wedding related show this weekend. Just a discussion...

As a friend I would be honored, but does it mean my whole life should then revolve around the wedding. Isn't me standing beside you as your marry the love of your life enough? or should I then act like you have bestowed me with an MBE or given me the Nobel Prize? lol.

My opinion is that being in a wedding is very big pain in your arse (not to mention monetarily). So in my opinion, rather than the BM's feeling privileged, maybe we as brides need to return the feelings and be grateful they have agreed to spend money/take time out of their busy lives to do this for the bride. Should they have to help you with favors, clean up, set up, write out invites etc.? Cont...

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Mrs shdvl · on October 4, 2010 at 6:11 PM
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I seen it here and just Saturday overheard IRL at the bridal show. My sister and my daughter are my attendants and I do play the bride's card with my daughter but its under I your mom card you cant wear that or have your hair like that LOL. My sister is laid back too already talking about a bridal shower. I told her not bachlorette party cause I dont drink and don't see teh readon for two parites. I m trying to keep the shower guest list down and what She as mom also of two otehr people in teh bridal party ends up paying out for outfits. Even if this means covering the difference myself of what I told her and what we end up spending.
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STB Mrs. Potts · on October 5, 2010 at 12:25 AM
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It is an honor to be in a wedding, for your friends or family, but having your whole life revolved around it is a bit extreme. I would never say that to anyone in my bridal party. But, they are pretty awesome! Its all family and FSIL. My cousin and her gf are both super helpful, the gf is also in the wedding, i have known her forever it seems. lol.
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kfroman · on October 5, 2010 at 1:16 AM
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I feel like the lucky one on here since I have only had to be a MOH once and it was to my next door neighbor and all she asked me to do was get an outfit that was in her colors and to sign the marriage license as a witness. My MOH I have asked only one thing of if she would purchase her own dress that I picked out and I made sure it was inexpensive. I don't expect my MOH to do anything she lives in another state and has her own husband to tend to. All I would like her to do show up smile and sign my marriage license as a witness. I think those brides who expect the BM's and MOH to do chores are nuts, we should feel honored that a friend we want up there is taking time out of there day to share our day with us, not the other way around.
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