Would you rather... cut the shower or the bach party?

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Ooooh any of these would be great destinations! In the meantime, best of luck to you in your wedding planning, Bach party included!

Idk, probably both or neither. LOL. I would really love a shower and we have already decided our "bachelorette/bachelor" parties will be just us together with a bunch of friends hanging out and having fun.

Bachelorette party. I'm not really having one anyway. I wouldn't miss it

Skip the shower. I don't need all those games. But I want to have fun at a bachelorette party!!!

If I had to cut one I’d cut the shower. In my situation, we’re looking to buy a house so we’re going to throw a house warming party. I don’t see the point of having a wedding shower with presents and games when we’re going to have a house warming party asking for the same friends, family, and gifts. I think the Bach parties are a fun way of taking a breather from each other to have fun with close friends and talk/vent/cry about this next step that’s about to happen. I personally wouldn’t get plastered because then I can’t remember my night with my girls but everyone is different.

I did turn down offers of a bachelorette. I am not a big drinking barhopper, and was in several other weddings, and attended ones in then FI's family, in my 5 moth engagement. Time crunch close to wedding. So fully 3 months before, I had a women's weekend party. None of my BP within 6 hours, they only came to MOG shower in their area. So I invited 12 close friends, some coming to wedding, some not. Anytime noon Friday to 9pm Monday, and I picked up the tab for all resort hotel rooms, grocery shopped for meals cooked in the suite of 8 bedrooms and KLD common area, and for cookout. And paid for theatre tickets one night. Lake front, so I brought small boats and hammocks. 10 stayed the weekend, one a full day and overnight. I really wanted a get together. But to include people not invited, and because I heard rumblings of a surprise, heavy drinking 2 days jaunt in a city in a nearby state, I pre-empted it. Since I paid for everything but under an hour drives to get there, and any shopping or snacks when in town, and no gifts and not labeled bachelorette, clearly not a party in honor of myself, no etiquette faux pas. I loved my several small showers, would have been crushed not to have them.

Definitely the shower I mean stay there for a couple hrs but then totally just tell everyone that I'm tired and we have to get up the next day

We cut the bach party.

Bach party.

The shower. We don't need much since we have our lives together already . Talk about non traditional but oh well, hand me a bottle and call me MRS. Bachelorette

I would rather cut the bachlortte party I might be 20 but that just don't interest me.

I'd rather cut the shower! The bachelorette party is a time for me and my girls to get together and just HAVE FUN!! The shower I could live without, I have everything I need anyway!!

Hmmmm... This is a challenge. Ummmmm... I am anticipating the heartfelt nothin and atmosphere of the shower.... But... I'm also excited for the fun and relaxed atmosphere of the Bachelorette. Ummmmm... Let's just say......... I would rather cut the bridal shower so I can get a mini vacation! 😏

I’m not having either

Cut the shower!

I'd honestly be willing to cut either. As-is, I'm trying to keep everything low key but others (my mom, her friends, my bridesmaids, etc.) have different ideas.

I'm cutting the shower. I appreciate a relaxing trip with my girlfriends more.

Bach party! I don't need to go out on the town and get drunk with my closest friends/family (I realize not everyone does this, but it's pretty typical I'd say). I'd much rather enjoy a shower where we can drink and mingle.

We have decided to skip both, we would rather go to dinner or a movie together.

Skip the shower. You will enjoy, make so many more memories, and most likely have a much better turnout with a bachelorette party. With a shower you are asking people who feel no obligation or play no huge part in the wedding to attend, which leads to people ultimately not showing up. I am actually choosing a bachelorette trip over a shower for my wedding for that very reason.