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Would you rather... cut the shower or the bach party?

Maren, on October 23, 2018 at 11:05 AM Posted in Parties and Events 0 220
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If you had to choose - which pre-wedding party would you rather cut? Which celebration do you think you could live without?

Would you rather... skip the shower or the bach party?

Would you rather... cut the shower or the bach party? 1

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  • Swtnss238
    VIP May 2019
    Swtnss238 ·
    Cutting both!! We r in our 40s and have lived together for 3yrs. We dont want or need a shower. Bach party...we arent partiers or drinkers and r introverts so we dont want the Bach parties either.
  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
    FutureMrsKC ·

    We cut the bach party. I don't need to parade around town drunk with a male genital straw in my mouth. So embarrassing.

  • Sarah
    Dedicated December 2018
    Sarah ·
    We cut the bridal shower and engagement party, but we are both have bach parties! (I already had mine- it was AMAZING). Both FH and I’s Families are spread out all over so it felt really selfish to ask people to travel four times in one year to celebrate us. We would rather everyone show up for the wedding 💜
  • Kenisha
    Champion June 2019
    Kenisha ·
    I would cut the shower. It’s just not necessary.
  • Nisa
    Super March 2019
    Nisa ·

    I'm not having a shower, so I would cut that.
    Wouldn't cut the bach party- they don't all have to be stereotypical! It's a great opportunity for a bridal party where literally no one knows each other to bond before the wedding

  • caitie-lyn
    Dedicated January 2020
    caitie-lyn ·

    I'd cut the shower since we are very likely not registering anywhere because we already live together. I probably won't have a shower anyway.

  • Maren
    Champion October 2021
    Maren ·
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    Hi Annisa! Makes perfect sense! You make a great point here and I agree! Everything is exactly what you make it to be! What are you doing for your bachelorette party?

  • E
    Beginner December 2018
    Emijif ·
    Sounds like too much work
  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·

    Shower! We don't need more stuff. I'd rather party with my friends.

  • Maren
    Champion October 2021
    Maren ·
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    Hi Swtnss238! Congrats on your engagement! That's great! Makes perfect sense and these celebrations are definitely not required, non-essential. Focussing on the reason behind it all -- your marriage to your best friend and soulmate, in the end, is the key.

  • Angerra
    VIP August 2019
    Angerra ·
    I would cut the shower for sure!
  • Maren
    Champion October 2021
    Maren ·
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    Hi FutureMrsV! You said it perfectly! I think I'd rather celebrate, out with my bridal party instead too!

  • Larisa
    Devoted July 2019
    Larisa ·
    I would cut the shower. I don’t see much need for it. Didn’t do engagement party either...just seemed weird. Will do bachelorette party tho because I love girls night with my besties. But no we are not doing alcoholic night because I’m not a drinker and my friends don’t drink much either. Just gonna do some fun activity together.
  • Jacqueline
    Savvy December 2018
    Jacqueline ·
    Well I didn't want a bridal shower but my MOH wanted to through one. So the day before the shower my moh cancelled my shower because her daughter had a rash and her husband wouldnt watch her. I was pissed to be honest. My shower was going to be at my moms and my mom has a beautiful house and she had everything cooked and goodies done up. So I messaged everyone and said it was back on and they all made other plans then. I am not a drinker or partier so no bacholrette party.
  • Andrea
    Savvy March 2019
    Andrea ·

    Cut the shower. I'm not having one anyways. As for the bach party we are having a co-ed one. I didn't even care if we had one of those but my FH wanted one.

  • L
    Expert June 2019
    Lori ·
    That's a hard one, cut the Bach Party I suppose.
  • Peggy
    Master November 2019
    Peggy ·
    I’m skipping both but if I had to pick I’d rather have a shower
  • Yolanda
    Savvy March 2019
    Yolanda ·

    Shower... I really want to enjoy time with the girls.

  • Future Mrs.Mistretta
    Savvy March 2019
    Future Mrs.Mistretta ·

    I am cutting the shower, I do not see the point in having one. It is more money and more planning, I could use the money and planning to go into the wedding and bachelorette party.

  • Kim
    Devoted March 2019
    Kim ·
    Cut the shower

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