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Will you sleep separately the night before the wedding? Or are you ditching this tradition?

Kelly, on January 15, 2019 at 11:05 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 171

Traditionally, couples spent the night before the wedding sleeping in separate beds as a “last night alone” and so that you don’t wake up and see each other before the ceremony! What are your sleeping arrangements for the night before the big day? Are you doing or ditching the tradition of sleeping...

Traditionally, couples spent the night before the wedding sleeping in separate beds as a “last night alone” and so that you don’t wake up and see each other before the ceremony! What are your sleeping arrangements for the night before the big day?


Are you doing or ditching the tradition of sleeping separately?


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Thank you, next (tradition): Something old, new, borrowed, and blue?

Back to the beginning: Which wedding traditions are you ditching?


171 Comments

  • Keary
    Expert May 2019
    Keary ·
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    We're eloping in Savannah.
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  • Cristy
    Master May 2021
    Cristy ·
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    I do. We are staying in the same hotel, but different rooms.

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  • Lafuturaseñora
    Devoted April 2019
    Lafuturaseñora ·
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    I think we'll sleep at different houses so getting ready stuff is easier to do. But I don't know how i'll be able to get through a night without him by my side!

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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
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    We are going to be together. We have our rehearsal dinner that night. I am looking forward to having the night with him.
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  • L
    Expert June 2019
    Lori ·
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    I think we will be sleeping separately, but in the same hotel. I figured he can hang out with the GM's and I can hang out with my BM's.
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  • Sarah
    Devoted May 2019
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    We just talked about this last night and apparently we had two different ideas on how that was going to go. We're staying with our friends during wedding week and I mentioned booking the hotel for Friday night so I could sleep there and he was like, "you mean we". I did not at all mean we... guess we need to work that out

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  • Yoice
    VIP March 2019
    Yoice ·
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    We are staying in the same hotel but different rooms. I’ll be staying with my girls and he’ll stay with his boys. I plan on coordinating to make sure we don’t see each other the next day at breakfast before the girls and I head out to the venue to get ready.
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  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    Yes we will be. We just haven't decided who will be going to the hotel the night before. i'm betting it'll be be though, so I have lots of extra room to get ready.

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  • M
    Just Said Yes June 2019
    Michelle ·
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    We are sleeping separate
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  • E
    Just Said Yes July 2019
    Elizabeth ·
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    Staying together- we live together and honestly -I think it'll be so nice to have a few moments of calm and quite together in the morning before spending the entire day with everyone else.

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  • Jessica
    Expert June 2025
    Jessica ·
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    Ditching we will be booking a place for the whole wedding party to stay at tje night before
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  • Yashicka
    Just Said Yes July 2019
    Yashicka ·
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    Im staying in a hotel .. The night b4..
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  • HayMrsO
    Master October 2018
    HayMrsO ·
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    Since we were actually staying at our venue, we slept together. There was a spare room that we could have used, I suppose. But we just sleep so much better together.

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  • Miranda
    Expert February 2019
    Miranda ·
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    We live together, but we will be spending the night before apart, just to add a bit more excitement! He's staying at our place and I'll be staying with my bridesmaids in the AirBNB we rented for the weekend.

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  • Alyssa
    Master December 2019
    Alyssa ·
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    Lovt the week question

    I think you're pretty traditional couple so I'm thinking we're going to answer toTradition to most of these questions

    neither one of us fleets without the other even if you can't sleep the rule is you have to stay in bed so that the other one doesn't end up still getting no sleep I do like traditions I Booked a hotel room the night before

    my so does not know yet because he already said he doesn't want to spend the night aPary



    I'll break it to him At the last minute

    worst case scenario us and our (then) 3 year old will have an extra night in the hotel room
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  • Alexandra
    VIP June 2019
    Alexandra ·
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    Yes! We’ll each stay in separate suites the night before - I’ll be with my bridesmaids and he’ll be with his groomsmen.
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  • Nykole
    Expert October 2019
    Nykole ·
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    I haven’t given this much thought, but probably not. 😄
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  • MrsV1027
    Master October 2018
    MrsV1027 ·
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    We slept separately! DH wanted it and we had overlapping hotels so it worked out perfectly

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  • Rachel
    Dedicated May 2021
    Rachel ·
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    I didn't feel super strongly about it but FH insists on spending the night apart. He's against a first look too so we'll finish up after the rehearsal dinner/party then not see each other again until I walk down the aisle in our church. It's classic and I can't wait!

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  • FutureMrs
    Dedicated February 2019
    FutureMrs ·
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    We're getting married in a month and on the new year, we decided we wouldn't sleep together anymore. So he's sleeping at his parents, and I in the apartment, but he still gets ready here in the mornings since all his stuff is here. But the night before, i'm having a sleepover with my bridesmaids in my childhood home and he's staying with his groomsmen in a cabin Smiley smile

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