Why do guests make things so complicated!

Wow! that is not cool. hope your mom or FMIL can help with whipping these guests back into reality! it is easier on you to have someone else take care of this if you have this option...

We're doing the same thing, and if they're ballsy enough to scratch it out, then the floodgates have been opened! Call them and tell them it wasn't a suggestion - that the number listed was how many seats you reserved for them (like it says on the card).

Oh wow! How rude is that?!?! I'm a little worried about this happening to us, but seriously, like by crossing out a number you've magically reserved yourself more seats?! I would have someone call and let them know that you've reserved that many seats so that you can include as many people as possible, but that there just isnt room. If you dont want to call, or are a pushover like me, I'd have a more insistant aunt or mom call for you

That is RUDE!!!! ... I can't believe that... I have a very flexible guest count so i am not to worried.

Yikes!! You definetly need to call or have someone call for you. That is un-acceptable!!! Good luck! Let us know how it goes!!

Geez, I can't believe how disrespectful some people can be! Since when did a wedding invitation mean it was a free-for-all?

Anyway, I'm sorry this happened to you. I like wowjunkie's advice -- tell them that this is YOUR wedding and that they can't just bring any number of people they feel like! I can be pretty aggressive so If that happened to me, I'd call them up and say VERY firmly that they have to abide by my guidelines or they can just sit skip my wedding altogether. There are too many people on my guest list who will want to be there and who WILL respect my wishes.

Good luck!

Call and say "I see you marked some extras on your RSVP. Unfortunately our budget (or venue size) only allows us to host the number we had originally planned on. I'm sorry but we can't accommodate any extras. I hope this won't prevent you from sharing our day with us." Be as gracious as possible, but be firm. You did the right thing in the first place and they're the ones being rude so don't feel bad about saying "No."

That is horrible! Where do people come up with the guts to send back an RSVP like that! Just one more thing for me to look forward to stressing about...OH joy! lol

That is horrible! But I understand, I'm having the same thing via the online RSVP. "We're bringing ____ with us. That'll be 3, not 2 for the ceremony & reception." :-(

I all too well know this story. I just experienced it myself. My recent post tells of the FH's lovely aunt who had received and invite for 2 and put 8, yes I said 8! That doesn't include the 3 extra great aunts that we were just told that we couldn't possibly exclude. I have found that manners no longer play a part in our society since planning this wedding. Good luck!

Gee Wiz... I was wondering how I was going to get around this. I musta missed the thread with the suggestion of stating how many seats were reserved. This is a great idea. Or should I say great idea for those who abide by it.

I can totally see this happening with my family. Hopefully by word of mouth this will not happen and if it does... I like Katie's idea. Its nice, but to the point.

Good luck getting it all sorted out.

Oh yeah, I know how that goes! I always say that it really doesn't matter how you word it because guests will do what they want to anyways. We had the same thing happen to us. It is so rude, but what can you really do?

Have theses people never planned a wedding themselves??? I mean I could see one random person who doesen't have better manners but most people ought to know that you have a limited number of people comming.

I can't believe people would have the nerve to cross out how many people they can bring and write in their own number. I'm so sorry you are dealing with that stress.

We havent sent our invitaions out yet, but i am doing the same thing, letting people know how many seats they have, luckily my mother already called her side that we thought we be a problem, so that way they wont be suprised when the invitation shows up. Hopefully we wont have that much of an issue. I'll keep my fingers crossed for the both of us, hopefully everything will work out just fine. :-)

People are so RUDE! I would be polite and say im sorry but there is only a certain number of seats available and that is the maximum guests you can bring if they keep trying this shit then well in all honesty bring out the inner bridezilla and kick their butts

I thought about having someone to call but my fiancee' and I decided we would do the calling ourselves. You know hearing it from the horses mouth to avoid any additional drama. Like one post stated, I can see if it was one RSVP card but we have received a quite a few RSVP cards back with the reserved number change, childrens names placed on the RSVP card regardless that we stated Adults Only and worst of all, folks RSVPing that they will attend but did not put their name in the name field. So we'll have to try to figure those out too. We'll get it all straigtened out hopefully sooner than later. Thanks!

Uh oh. Start calling!

Also, make sure people know that just because the have "2 seats" it doesn't mean they can bring anyone they want to fill those seats! Just the people who are invited! An invitation is NOT a ticket!