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Chrissy4985
VIP June 2017

Whose name goes first on the invitation? Bride or Groom?

Chrissy4985, on December 25, 2015 at 1:35 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 22

Hello ladies. I want to do this right, if there is a right way. Whose name goes first on the wedding invitation/ std's? My name or fh? I heard something about if it's the couple paying its the bride, but not sure if it's right. Thanks

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Latest activity by McKenzie, on November 2, 2019 at 10:39 PM
  • Sqwiggy
    VIP April 2016
    Sqwiggy ·
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    Bride

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  • Susan
    VIP September 2016
    Susan ·
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    I think it is always bride.

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  • Lala M
    Devoted September 2016
    Lala M ·
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    I did his name first on the STDs because almost all of them are going to his family. The more formal invitations, my name will likely be first.

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  • Possum
    Master December 2015
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    Typically the bride, however it also can depend on who's hosting the wedding. If the grooms parents happen to be paying the invite could read grooms parents request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their son to bride daughter of so and so.

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  • RJmargo
    Master May 2016
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    For the STDs, I put our names in the same order as the template we used. It had me put grooms name first. For the invites, my parents are hosting, so my name went first. I think typically the brides name does go first on the invites unless only the grooms family is hosting.

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  • MzRosaLu
    Master July 2016
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    Bride's name first on invitations. For our STDs, I actually put FH's name first because he was on the left in the photo and I just thought it looked better to have the order of our names match the order of the photo.

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  • onawho
    VIP August 2015
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    Brides name first. UNLESS the groom is military. (and I also believe this is true if his education is higher than her's). Then its his rank, name then her name. (and I out rank my DH in the degree department Smiley smile

    My DH is retired Air Force, but we listed my name first on the invites.

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  • Jacqui76
    Master May 2016
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    I think I read that the bride goes first on invitations but after marriage the husband's name goes first on everything.

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  • SaraLep
    Master September 2015
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    I put my name first on everything but when my sister got married she put his name first because her name is Erin and his is Tomer and she didn't want it to be "et" lol

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  • ALH
    VIP October 2016
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    We did mine first for everything.

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  • SpringBride16
    Super March 2016
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    Bride

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  • FutureMrsD.
    Super October 2017
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    Bride

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  • T Marie
    Super October 2017
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    Yes the bride.

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  • Sunni
    VIP May 2016
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    It's traditionally the bride because historically the brides family pays. So it goes..."Mr & Mrs So an So invite you to witness the marriage of their daughter Jill Ann to Jack Smith."

    FH and I are paying for the wedding ourselves and I hate the assumption that goes with the bride's name going first..that the wedding is always the bride's thing so for our invites, FH's name will go first....especially since he's the one that wanted the wedding.

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  • Natasha
    Just Said Yes January 2020
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    What if the bride and groom are both military?

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  • dancingwiththekumars
    Expert May 2018
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    Him & I paid for everything. More so him, because he has a higher income. But our invites had my name first and then his.

    Ladies first Smiley smile

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  • Cheyenne
    Savvy June 2019
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    We're mostly paying for the wedding ourselves so I couldn't even tell you what order we did it in.. I think mine first honestly, but I think that's because the template had the bride first!

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  • V
    Savvy November 2022
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    I'm pretty sure it's bride, but on my FH's cousin's wedding invitations the groom's name went first

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  • Jess
    Super September 2019
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    On our save the Dates we did his name first but on our official invites my name is going first

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  • Alisha
    VIP April 2021
    Alisha ·
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    Normally it is the bride's name first.

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