Who Is The "breadwinner" In Your Relationship/ Marriage?

I'd say it's him purely for the fact that he can get overtime. But if we look at base salary it's the same. However, I might be the breadwinner if I get my raise aha

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That's pretty cool.

When we first got together, he was the "breadwinner", making almost double what I was. Then, I got multiple raises and promotions and we were about even. He had to stop working for his last year of grad school, he just graduated last may (too stressful), so for the last year we have been living on my income. Now he is working again and is making more than me. It just goes back and forth! And honestly it doesn't matter to us either way, as long as we can support us as a couple, we don't care who makes more!

Also, we are paying for the wedding together! Whatever is left after bills and expenses, goes to the wedding, from both of our paychecks.

He is, as I’m currently a stay at home mom. Our wedding budget is being taken specifically from savings we already had with him contributing about 60% and me contributing 40%.

It’s changed a couple times since we’ve been together. It’s primarily been me, but there was a period where I was working less and she made more money. Now I’m making more and have very few expenses since I’m living with my parents, so I’m able to save more for the wedding. In a few months it’ll switch again and she’ll be making more!

We make exactly the same amount of money now. So I guess we are both the bread winners? I would say I pay for more of our shared bills because he has child support and student loans to pay. I am paying for the wedding myself as well as the honeymoon. After FH gets over some of his debt, he will be contributing more to our savings and house project fund.

I have a slightly higher salary now and earning potential, but he's been working longer. We both equally paid for the wedding.

Obviously, I don't see a problem with the breadwinner dynamoc being thrown on its head. I do; however, feel that both people should have the potential to cover basic needs for their family of anything happens.

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It also doesn't matter to my husband and I as long as we support one another.

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That's a great idea.

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What is your typical day like as a home mom?

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Did you and your fiance ever consider taking out a loan for the wedding?

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It's nice that you two have a plan for the future.

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I agree with your final statement.

I just started working September 2018 after I finished up with my physical therapy program and passed the boards, so prior to that he was making more. My base salary is more than his, but he’s been working overtime lately and his take home pay has the same as mine if not more! I don’t think the breadwinner should be the man or woman specifically, but we should be able to both contribute something financially!

View Quoted Comment Not really. We had some money saved before and since my expenses are so low, I’ve been able to stay on top of paying everything as we go. Paying out of pocket is working fine for us!

View Quoted Comment We eat breakfast all together before FH leaves for work. After he’s gone, we usually try and get outside before it gets too warm so we either go for a walk, play in the yard, or go to the park. We sometimes will choose an arts and crafts project to do or some kind of learning activity in the afternoons. I cook dinner so that it’s ready when FH gets home. And I handle about 90% of the cleaning, though I leave all the yard work to FH.

My FW makes about triple the amount I do, so I would definitely say she’s the bread winner. Of course I don’t think one gender should be the bread winner since, well, not every couple even consists of both genders. We have shared finances, so we’re both paying for the wedding.

He makes exactly $2 more per hour than I do, and he gets a ridiculous amount of overtime. I let him pay all the bills (it’s a joint account so it’s technically both our money) because I hate handing money.

We both kinda are we make the same amount and we split the bill equal.