Who is financially responsible for throwing the Bridal Shower?

The brides’ attendants all share in the cost of the bridal shower

Any wedding I've been a BM/MOH in we've ALWAYS split the tab equally.

While I think that it is her responsibility to plan/organize the shower, I do believe that if they are all financially able to help they should do so. My aunt and my MOH paid for/hosted mine.. though I felt better about it because it was pretty laid back and the food wasn't too unreasonable. I think if they are really being bit**** about it then maybe you could ask one of your family members who wants to help to help out your MOH (my aunt jumped in on this one).... you could do something like my shower to cut costs...

1) It was at my aunt's house. No rental costs for a restaurant or food minimums

2) They put together some fruit salad and different sandwich options for the guests.. everyone loved the food

3) We really didn't do the whole "game" thing.. there were about 20 other people there and between everyone catching up, eating, and me unwrapping presents the shower was almost 4 hours long! Some of the props for the games can cost a bit... so maybe do one or two games or none at all

Every brides way is different every family is different i say mostly bridal party but other ways are excepted to !

I would feel bad for having the girls pay for it, so I said this is our budget and gave it to them. I have nothing else to do with it.

My bridemaid did and are going to but they are 2 sister n laws and my aunt which is 5 years older then me i wanna be suprised lol

I am having problems with this too. My daughter is 10 & she is my Maid or Honor. She can't really plan something like this & my 1 other bridesmaid has done nothing but complain about everything

My mom/ Moh are paying for it since i dont have any Bm's but its going to be really low key and i will probably end up paying for a lot of it myself too

My mom and FSIL (BM) are paying for it, though I'm helping plan it (I'mma control freak)

No Bridal shower but we are doing a Bachlorette Party ..

Well I only have a MOH and at this point she is between jobs... so her and I are both paying for it... we are also having it at a local restraunt / bar so we are having it kinda late and buy a bunch of appitizers and guest can buy there own drinks...

My FMIL is throwing my shower, along with one of her nieces, so I would anticipate they pay, but if it were the traditional wedding party throwing it, I would expect that everyone would contribute in some way. I'm in several weddings in 2011/12, including the MOH for one, and I expect that if people start griping about the cost then someone needs to volunteer their house and everyone needs to help buy/prepare food!

I agree with all the responses. I think my Matron of Honor will expect to host my bridal shower by herself but I'm going to offer to contribute. I am very budget-conscious with my bridesmaids and I don't want any of them to go broke just from being a part of my wedding.

My sister (MOH) is planning and paying for the shower on my family's side and FSIL (BM) is planning and paying for the groom's family shower. My sister is asking the BM's for contribution for the bachlorette party like for a party bus. I have been in weddings and it is has usually just been the MOH hosting the shower. But everyone does it differently!!!

I think it just depends on everone's financial situation. I would opt not to have a shower rather than cause someone financial strain and it doesn't sit well with me to host my own shower. People don't get a money tree when they agree to be in your wedding. They are likely already spending $ on their attire for the wedding so try not to take it personally if they're not doing cartwheels trying to spend more money. Typically I've seen the MOH plan the shower and the BMs pitch in. My friend has said that she will throw my showr if my sister (MOH) doesn't b/c she just wants me to have one. I have told her I wouldn't be upset if I didn't have one so it's really on them. Folks keep reminding me that I gave my sis an engagement party last year so she SHOULD give me a shower but they don't understand my sister is rebounding from a financial crisis. Not to mention I make double what she does so it didn't hurt me to throw her party. I wish people would just let it go. Sorry that got personal!

I think if they can't financially do something big, then maybe they can just host a small party at someone's home -appetizers and sodas. We threw a shower for a girl at our office after work - everyone brought food and we had soda, it didn't cost us hardly anything. I don't expect a huge "shindig" at a shower and I doubt any else does.

My friends' mum is actually hosting mine, she's an "anglophile" so she really, really wants to have an English tea theme. I'm bringing Jack Daniels to make it more personal to me..laugh.

In the case of my daughters wedding the grooms mother and I will be hosting the shower. We both have large extended families and along with friends the guest list exceeds 65 people in addition to the fact that all of the BM's are not local. We both agreed that the BM's already have and will incur enough expenses with the cost of the dress, travel and gifts thus why we took ownership. However we fully expect that the MOH be responsible for arranging the Bachelorette Party...this is an area where we have little or no experience nor to we care too!

I couldn't imagine anyone expecting one person to pay for everything. In my family everyone just pulls together and divvies up responsibilities. Maybe your MOH can get together with some ladies in your family or FH's family since your bridesmaids seem so reluctant to help.

My maid of honor and other bridesmaid are both helping with the bridal shower.

Thank you all for shedding some light on this for me. My concern is because the guest list is around 50 few family and mostly friends, I just really can't see my Maid of Honor swinging the whole cost or bulk of the cost and was always under the impression that the bridesmaids would divy up any expenses equally for the shower. I know have done it in both weddings that I was in with no problem. I did tell her that I just didn't want the shower if she has to do it all by herself without the help that I assumed she would get from the bridesmaids. However, she said she will make it work out somehow. I just really feel bad about the whole thing.

I was MOH in my bestfriends wedding last year. I paid for the entire party because I was told the same thing by her 6 other BM. Not a big deal to me but it was a little costly. I don't think you should cancel it. Maybe you can shorten the list of people invited to help her out....