Who is financially responsible for throwing the Bridal Shower?

Kristenlee11, you were thinking what I was thinking. I will definitely cut the list down to help out or I probably help her pay for it.

The shower is a surprise but I know that all my bridesmaids are helping out and my mother is helping. Every wedding that I have been in as a bridesmaid I have helped with the shower. I have never heard of the MOH having to do everything herself. That is just sad.

BMs have A LOT to pay for. They pay for dress, shoes, hair, make-up, jewelry, bridal shower, bachelorette part....GEEZ! That is way too much in my opinion. I think the bridal parts is paid fully by whoever is hosting it. If your MOH wants to host it, then it is up to her to pay for it.

For me, my MOH's Mom (who is close to me) hosted the shower. There is no way my MOH or BMs could have paid for something like that, nor would I want them to.

Wow, I can't spell today!

My mom and MOH are splitting any cost there might be (cake, decor invites etc.) About 10 out of 30 of my guests are all chipping in by bringing a dish of their own so we don't have to spend a lot of $$$ on food.

I agree totally with Alaina.

How about a potluck and have the guests bring food in a dish for you to keep and have it at someone's house. Then all your MOH (and maybe then your BMs) can provide invites, cake and decorations. That seems pretty reasonable to me - looking at as a BM or a guest.

Well I am having two bridal showers and a bachelorette party. My FMIL is throwing one with his side of the family for me (they live in FL where we live), and then my mom and aunt are throwing me one in St. Louis, before the wedding. Then my Maid of Honor, Matron of Honor and bridesmaids are throwing the bachelorette party. I think that when some one wants to be involved and help, they will. Your bridesmaids might have a chip on their shoulder that they were not asked to be the MOH. Sometimes females get really catty about stuff like that. I almost lost a really good friend to the choosing of my MOH.

Anyone who wants to host a shower can. It doesn't matter if it is the MOH or not.

Whoever hosts should assume they are paying for it, unless someone offers to co-host. Some of your BMs might not be in the financial situation to host, but they might want to help address invitations or bake cookies or hold the shower at their home. It is kind of rude to just send them a bill for whatever the MOH feels like planning without their say. Plus, showers are optional, so no one needs to have one and no one NEEDS to throw one.

You don't get a say in whether or not you have a shower. Someone just plans it for you. So why are the BMs and MOH complaining to you? Tell them you want to stay out of it and let them work it out.

I have never been in or heard of a shower that all the BM didnt contribute equally. Around here that is just the way people do things. Everyone helps plan and everyone helps pay....i would be upset as the MOH if i was planning a shower and the other BMs said they wouldn't help pay.