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MrsMcCormick
Dedicated November 2019

Who gets a plus one?

MrsMcCormick, on January 16, 2018 at 7:22 AM

Posted in Etiquette and Advice 193

Hi everyone! Drafting up a guest list and trying to figure out how to work out the whole plus one situation. My plan is to not give the option of plus one’s to anybody, but instead address the invitation to whoever we plan to invite. What is the etiquette when it comes to a guest’s significant...
Hi everyone! Drafting up a guest list and trying to figure out how to work out the whole plus one situation. My plan is to not give the option of plus one’s to anybody, but instead address the invitation to whoever we plan to invite. What is the etiquette when it comes to a guest’s significant others? I obviously plan to include any of our friend/family’s husbands/wives or fiancé/fiancée, but what about boyfriends and girl friends? I’m trying to keep the number of people invited as low as possible, but also don’t want anyone’s feelings to be hurt. If anyone can offer some advice, or even just let me know what they did for their wedding it would be much appreciated! Thank you all!

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  • Davida
    Just Said Yes June 2018
    Davida ·
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    Omg people are so judgey on here and not one of them is paying for your wedding. I love that half the people commenting apparently have $70,000 to spend on a wedding since they want to accommodate EVERYONE by allowing them to have a plus one. Sorry that makes no sense and they probably won’t even bring a gift. Oh and if someone wants to not be friends with me because they are offended they didn’t get a plus one...clearly they are just selfish cuz nothing is personal. Good luck to all brides. I’m done commenting on this thread *bangs head against wall*
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  • L
    Expert June 2018
    LeeAnne ·
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    Amen girl! It's crazy!!!!!
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  • C
    Just Said Yes April 2019
    christa ·
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    OMG why are bitches trolling on a bridal blog??? mrs mccormick, just tell these bitches to FO!!

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  • T
    Super December 2018
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    As I understand, most people extend plus ones to married couples and individuals in committed relationships. Some will also extend an invitation to close friends and family if they have specifically request a plus one, and there is space.
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    Just Said Yes August 2018
    Samantha ·
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    All the boyfriends and girlfriends we knew of were were invited by name on the invitation and adult single guests were invited with plus one ( & guest)

    cousins / younger adults that we are not close with slash don't know too much about their lives (under 22) were invited by name only but if they have a GF / BF i don't care if they come they can just ask

    my idea on this is I didnt want to give them the idea to bring random people when I barely know them to begin with but, if they are dating someone its always nice to be at wedding with someone - I get it

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  • Mrs. J
    Expert October 2018
    Mrs. J ·
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    Completely agree. Ridiculous all the strong opinions on the matter. At the end of the day it's not all these strangers on the internet's wedding. It's an event they are paying for. Especially when it costs roughly $30-$50 pp to attend.

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  • Mrs. J
    Expert October 2018
    Mrs. J ·
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    No doubt! I can't imagine having so much free time in a day to comment judgey, condescending comments all day. Not everyone knows all the "etiquettes" of a wedding or cares. Honestly. Everyone's just trying to plan a day their significant other and they will enjoy.


    *Eye roll*

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  • Julie
    Dedicated February 2020
    Julie ·
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    Everyone in a relationship at the time the invitations are sent out should get to bring their significant other.

    After that, it gets tricky. Typically people over a certain age are given a plus one as a nice gesture. Sometimes truly single people should be offered a plus one if you know they won't know anyone there.

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