Where's the support when you need it?

View Quoted Comment We are getting married in Rocky Point, NC which is right outside of Wilmington. Where are you getting married?

Oh no I’m so sorry that you’re so unsupported right now! My bridal party has been really supportive. We postponed our wedding from May 30 to Aug 22 (it’s in upstate NY). We’re going to have the wedding no matter what- backup plan is renting a tent and having a party in the backyard. Starting to feel VERY hopeful though! Hang in here. October gives you plenty of time, and things have been crazy but so far are improving. Hope you get to have your beautiful October wedding.

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I’m going to be in the Hudson Valley too! We are Aug 22 (Originally May 30) - Apparently restaurants can start opening in phase 2 if they serve outdoor only. This is making me feel VERY hopeful... How about you?

I totally understand! I was meant to get married 9/13 and have just made all the arrangements to postpone to next summer. This whole wedding planning process since covid hit has been a nightmare. I was constantly being asked by my wedding guest if we were cancelling and our parents seemed to be calling every week telling us to postpone or keep the date. My friends were telling me to keep the date cuz they want something to look forward to. I have had a few ppl on my side of the guest list come down with the virus and I just didn’t feel comfortable moving forward. My engagement shoot has been rescheduled 3 times due to covid, an emergency with the photog, and now the riots. To top it all off my venue would now allow Us to reschedule without 1st cancelling and paying our money all over again! I became very depressed and stressed and just wanted to try it over with because I knew my wedding would not be what I wanted. I finally made the choice to just get a new venue and new date. I honestly feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I can get a do over and actually feel happy to marry my honey next yr.

I am sorry to hear about this, but at the same time I know where they are coming from. My wedding is on October 10, and one of my BMs keep sending me CDCs guidelines and asked a few times indirectly if we will postponed. This BM is my BFF, she's like a sister to me so I know she means no harm. We have a lot of people from all over the country and Canada that are supposed to fly in for our wedding. At least 10 people have already told us they will not be attending. You have to realize that these people are worry about their life and family as well. It's hard to have a good time dancing, eating when they have a higher chance catching the virus when traveling. I told my BMs they can drop out any time if they feel uncomfortable attending. I want to postpone and I don't want to, but if things get worse in August and the venue allows us to postpone, I probably will. I wish all of us brides good luck!

I'm so sorry they are saying these things to you, that is not okay. Planning a wedding is hard enough, through in a worldwide pandemic and it's near impossible!

Our wedding is 10/25/2020- we're also in NY, but our wedding will be here versus traveling elsewhere. As of right now, everything is still on without any issue. I don't plan on postponing unless ABSOLUTELY necessary and even then not until we absolutely have to!

I think most people are still very cautious and hesitant about states reopening and large social gatherings. In our state, they cap social gatherings off at 50 people so it was a no brainer for us to postpone. I think if you are 50 or under you should be okay as long as your venue is outdoors or can socially distance tables and such but if you’re over, I would hope (as your guest or bridesmaid) that you would postpone. Anyone still going thru with weddings should really keep it to very small intimate gatherings otherwise don’t risk the health or wellbeing of others. Just my two cents! It’s a difficult decision. I wish you luck!

That's a tough one b/c folks want to maintain their ability to stay healthy during this time. Sometimes your closest friends/bridemaids will be your biggest critic. Don't be surprised. Keep pushing!

I'm so sorry that your bridal party is being so negative. I've gotten the opposite reaction from my girls. However, I will say that I'm a planner and honestly just kind of let them know where I am in the process. I don't really bounce ideas off of them, so I guess there is less room for opinions and negativity. We have postponed our wedding twice now (the original date: 04/25 Second Date: 9/5). We decided to have super small wedding in Savannah and postpone the big wedding to 2021. I was worried my girls would be upset about traveling and having to pay for hotels (we are from NC), but they have all been super thoughtful and sweet.

I don't think it's a bad idea to wait it out, but after postponing once, I didn't want to change at the last minute again. I think if there is a chance and your wiling to wait it out, then you definitely should. They should be understanding and helpful. These are unprecedented times and we are all just trying to do our best. I hope they start realizing that and start supporting your decision.