Where's the support when you need it?

View Quoted Comment As of now, no. I’m hopeful things will get better🙂

View Quoted Comment Keeping you in my thoughts during this difficult time. I really hope all will workout 🙏

View Quoted Comment Thank you! I will do the same for you!

Omg yes!!!! We are getting married this August (postponed from June) I have a friend that has even sent me a video saying that summer weddings won’t be happening! Like .. what? And I always am made to feel guilty like people are dying and your planning your wedding? Like I get the world is horrible now but I am trying to be positive and it sucks when people tear you down! Especially if you’ve been planning this for so long and to not be excited sucks. I am praying that both of our days work out! Xo

View Quoted Comment Wow I am sorry your getting that negativity too. I don't think anyone can understand what we're feeling like unless they are going through this too. They can't understand how hard it is to try and be positive when the entire world is being so negative. I hope everything works out for you too! 🙏🙏🙏

YES!!! My bridesmaid, who is my cousin, has been SO negative. She keeps saying I need to postpone because no one is going to be comfortable in August even if weddings are allowed to happen. This situation is already stressful enough .. that is the last thing any bride wants to hear. I almost want to un-invite her to our wedding because I don't want that kind of energy. I'm so sorry you don't have a supportive bridal party. I hope things get better and you can celebrate your wedding without any fear!

View Quoted Comment This is an awesome mentality ( becoz I adopted it too..lol) I've had some tenuous friendships, and while I wanted these ppl in my wedding I didn't any negativity. I've honestly had a blast planning my wedding every step of the way, including my rescheduled due to cov id.

View Quoted Comment I am so sorry you are going through that as well. It's so unfortunate that this has all happened and impacted everyone in different ways. I think it's easier for people to project their feelings because of their own personal fears. It's so hard to stay positive and hopeful but at least we have each other as a support system.

That's crazy! My bridal party and my fiancé groomsmen are mostly fun NY as well and they were staying as hopeful as we were. Our wedding was originally in July but felt we'd be cutting it too close so we decidedto push it back. Especially for our NY folks. Let them know that you're playing it by ear and will be mindful of everyone involved when making any decisions. Hope everything works out for the best. Wedding parties can be stressful at times!

I’m sorry this is happening to you. I’ve told a few people that I just couldn’t listen to the negativity.
I’m getting married on Oct 24th in NC as well. I have complete confidence right now that we will be able to have what I’ve envisioned (130 guests, outdoor ceremony, inside reception with some outdoor space).
Is it because they’re worried about travel accommodations or they don’t think that number will be allowed to gather? If you wanna PM me, I’d be glad to talk more local details (NC born and raised, but moving across the border to VA after the wedding).

So my wedding is June 2021. Yes, I said 2021. One of my bridesmaid didn't ask anything about rescheduling, but completely said they couldn't be in the wedding back in early April because they are fearful of things not being back to normal by then. My thoughts are that it's way to early to make a decision like that. Like you, I thought my bridesmaid would be supportive and understanding in such a difficult time. Especially, since there's still so much time to decide if changing plans is necessary. Luckily, your wedding is in October so there's time to wait and see. If anyone in the bridal party cannot understand why you would not want to make a decision this early, they aren't the ones to discuss your plans with. Let them all know one good time that YOU will make the best decision for you and your guess as the wedding approaches. Opinions on the matter are not needed. If anyone can't understand or get behind that.... well, I can think of a few choice words to tell them. Lol. Chin up and stay positive!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much good luck with everything 💋

I’m so sorry your going through this. I went through something similar and Itis hurtful. I suggest be vocal and let them how your feeling. Also let them know your not the governor you don’t make the decisions, your taking it day bu day and will follow rules when you know them.


I held out a lot of hope for my big wedding in July and waited till my honeymoon was cancelled and my venue to say their limits before postponing and moving forward with my plan B.

If you do need to move forward with a plan B I would make sure to reconsider anyone who has been nasty Or rude to you. I’m times of crisis no one gets an excuse to not treat you like you don’t have feelings.

View Quoted Comment That's a very good line to draw in terms of when it's time to make a decision. In my FH and my mind that's what we're waiting on too. No one else wants to hear that but it's our day and it should be up to us. I agree if plan b had to come its time to reevaluate. What was your plan b if you don't mind me asking?

View Quoted Comment Wow 2021 and their bothering you about it?!?! That's crazy. I am sorry that is happening to you as well. I appreciate the suppport. I think i need to keep reminding myself the wedding is about us not everyone else. Haha i wish i could say everything that has gone through my head! Thank you again 🙏

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! I will definitely be pming you!

I’m sorry it’s been so rough for you!! I’m getting married the same day in IL, and we are also very hopeful to keep our date. We live here, but we have a ton of family coming from all over the US. I have had friends and coworkers ask if we’re still planning the the event for this year, and every time I’m like yeah, that’s the plan! It makes me feel nervous too. I know it’s hard not knowing for sure, but since you’re pretty sure, just keep focusing your energy on the fun part of wedding planning and that no matter what, you will get to marry your love! xoxo

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! I hope you will get to have your day in IL too! Its definitely an up hill battle trying to stay positive and sure when everyone and everything around you is pulling you down. But i agree if its really what you want then stay the course and try and push out the noise.

View Quoted Comment Thank you i definitely will. How far back did you have to push your day?

I’m sorry this is happening to you! Some of my bridesmaids, my future MIL and some of my own family have also been very negative. My date is in September and everyone seems very pessimistic about it and either thinks I should move the date or just get married in a small family ceremony.


I think they are trying to be realistic and helpful, but it’s definitely not things that a bride wants to hear. If you’re like me, you’ve dreamed of your wedding day since you can remember and you hate to see it not turn out the way you planned. I really don’t want to see my wedding pushed back a year, and I don’t want to compromise the vision of my day to have a small, intimate wedding. Sometimes bridesmaids and family can’t see your feelings and are only speaking what they see in front of them without considering how it will make you feel.
I am taking their comments with a grain of salt and doing what I think is best for my wedding which is waiting until closer to the time to stress and make a decision. I would hate to postpone and have the original date roll around and find out that I could’ve had the wedding as planned. Best of luck and stay calm! Follow your gut ♥️